As singles and Aged,What will you do If GOD said you should wait for your right time!

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ministerAKA89

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I have heard many says, God's time is the best,indeed, God's time is the best, but sincerely as Single that is aged enough to get married, can such Singles still wait on God despite so many side pressure,Insult, and all manner of discouragement?

Well, the ball is in your court to play as Single, BUT, If you are the one in this kind of Single life dilemma what will you do?

Note: Your contribution,suggestion and opinion will really go along way to shapen someone's life.
 
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Ugly

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I don't face pressure from others, or insults. And i've recently given up on finding anyone. So suppose i have nothing more to add.
 
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ministerAKA89

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Nice one!:)
 
Tinkerbell725

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When God says wait, you wait. Meanwhile dont mind the pressure. Be happy now and cherish each moment with your family and friends because life is here and now. Do not worry about tomorrow, it will worry about itself. A spouse will manifest when your heart is ready.
 
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coby

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ministerAKA89 said:
I have heard many says, God's time is the best,indeed, God's time is the best, but sincerely as Single that is aged enough to get married, can such Singles still wait on God despite so many side pressure,Insult, and all manner of discouragement?

Well, the ball is in your court to play as Single, BUT, If you are the one in this kind of Single life dilemma what will you do?

Note: Your contribution,suggestion and opinion will really go along way to shapen someone's life.
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Just live as if there's noone and give up and have fun, find friends. Then if someone someday pops up it's great. If not it doesn't matter because I wasn't expecting anyone. Wait and later to me is the same as no. I hate waiting.
 
Lynx

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Where does the "aged" part come in? How old is aged?
 
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sunnysky31

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ministerAKA89 said:
I have heard many says, God's time is the best,indeed, God's time is the best, but sincerely as Single that is aged enough to get married, can such Singles still wait on God despite so many side pressure,Insult, and all manner of discouragement?

Well, the ball is in your court to play as Single, BUT, If you are the one in this kind of Single life dilemma what will you do?

Note: Your contribution,suggestion and opinion will really go along way to shapen someone's life.
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You seem pretty young to be considering yourself ''aged''. Maybe I am misunderstanding that.

Anyway, you cant rush God. I have been waiting a really long time myself and I am pretty settled in the fact that if He wants me to have someone, then He's going to send him my way. It isn't MY WILL... it's His. I don't face pressures from others either. Not sure what pressures you face their in your country, but just have to wait for His Will.
 
Born_Again

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Well, i do feel that i have an age cap. LOL At a certain point I would admit defeat. But i dont mind that at all. Im prepared to say i have hit the cap now. lol
 
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GodIsSalvation

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Don't really have a choice but to wait on destiny I suppose.
 
melita916

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maybe the aged deal is in the culture. for a long time in most hispanic cultures (i reference this because i'm hispanic lol), if a person wasn't married by 25, he/she "missed the train." i don't hear it as often now, so maybe times are changing. :)

i'm 32, and i was single for 5 years before dating again. waiting was difficult, but i kept busy with work and ministry :)
 
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I don't face pressure from others, or insults. And i've recently given up on finding anyone. So suppose i have nothing more to add.
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...but you have from me :) Giving up is a good thing. Trust. lol
 
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ministerAKA89

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well, all good, but to be realistic not all can really be patient for God's time
 
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ministerAKA89

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How will you really know GOD'S time for your right time? you can support your answer scripturally if need be.
 
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LiJo

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Speaking for myself, waiting on God's will is the only way, after all he knows best. I rely heavily on God, I pray for guidance always. Typically I will pray for him to bless the relationship if it's his will, if not I pray for him to block the relationship. It's amazing what he reveals to guide you.
 
Tinkerbell725

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ministerAKA89 said:
How will you really know GOD'S time for your right time? you can support your answer scripturally if need be.
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You will have to listen very closely. Listen with your heart. In silence you will hear the Holy Spirit to speak what is true. If you still cant hear then trust your common sense, it works too.

The bible says there is time for everything.
 
zeroturbulence

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How do you know that God told you to wait?



...and where are all the threads asking what to do because God told you to stop waiting and go find your mate??
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
He makes all things beautiful in His time.
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I guess I'll have to do what I always do...
Kick and scream, shout and pout,
throw a temper tantrum and a pity party
and complain, complain, complain.

After that, what choice do I have?
GOD's gonna do what He wants to do.
If He wants me to remain single, lonely, and miserable,
like I've been my whole life, who am I to argue
with the all-powerful creator of the universe?

I've tried to let it be known that I'm a decent,
bible believing 'christian' guy who just wants to know
what it's like to love and be loved by someone decent in return.
So what I don't have relationship experience...Big Deal!
From what I keep hearing, that doesn't amount to much
but fights, regrets, jealousy, misunderstanding, etc.
Hey, I obviously don't have any STDs either, or kids.
I have enough money and stability to sustain,
and though unforseen things can happen
to cause rapid change for the worse,
blessings can come to bring major change
for the better, too, and with God, all things are possible,
so what's wrong with believing?

I may not be HandsomeHunkHarry, but I'm not the ugliest worm that ever crawled, either. I won't go any further on all this now,
while the 'this ain't a dating site selective thought police'
are lurking, but as stated, I don't know what I can do
to change God's mind and allow me to know what
TRUE love is, but I'm not sure what the hold-up is either.
I guess because I'm not perfect, someone will always
find faults and reasons to put me down and reject me,
and there doesn't seem to be anything
that can be done about that. I keep waiting, I keep trying,
I'm available, but women seem to know what they want,
and I guess I can't live up to the standards or demands.
I guess it's a tale of 3 wills... Mine, (I'm open), ...
Hers, (whatever she wants) ...
And God's, (I have no idea).
 
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ServantStrike

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ministerAKA89 said:
well, all good, but to be realistic not all can really be patient for God's time
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Not all can be patient for God's timing, but all who are not patient for His timing are in for a really rude awakening, especially when it comes to something like love and (therefore) marriage.

ministerAKA89 said:
How will you really know GOD'S time for your right time? you can support your answer scripturally if need be.
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As for when the right time is, I doubt any one of us could give each other an accurate answer. The scripture speaks to one's heart specifically. And just because a verse means something to me doesn't mean it means the same thing to someone else. But a man who wants to marry needs to fit a few criteria.
1 Tim 3:12
Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

And there's always the classic Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;


If you can fit those criteria, you're probably in good shape. You don't have to be loaded, but you do need to have a general idea of how you're going to support a family, and you'll need to talk out what that looks like with a prospective mate.

If you can rationally and prayerfully consider ending your singleness and you're ready unless you feel some huge calling not to do so. Live your life and pray about it.
 
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