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boss and i were talking about weddings the other day (because he saw the bridal magazine on my desk lol), and he mentioned the average cost of a wedding today is around $30,000. i was like what the heck!
i remember years ago, i was helping my friends prepare their wedding decorations (and by helping, i was cutting ribbon because i can't be trusted with anything else lol), and they kept ranting about stress. "we should've just eloped!" i said, "IF i get married, it's gonna be a BBQ in a backyard!" they said, "you do that, melita! if that's what you want! we'll be there!!!" lol
i remember years ago, i was helping my friends prepare their wedding decorations (and by helping, i was cutting ribbon because i can't be trusted with anything else lol), and they kept ranting about stress. "we should've just eloped!" i said, "IF i get married, it's gonna be a BBQ in a backyard!" they said, "you do that, melita! if that's what you want! we'll be there!!!" lol
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Sometimes I think people stay in defense mode without even thinking about it. It helps to call that to their attention.
"I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just adding to what you are saying."
Or even... "You seem a little defensive, is everything okay?"
They will hopefully go home and think to themselves... gee... maybe I do get too defensive.
"I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just adding to what you are saying."
Or even... "You seem a little defensive, is everything okay?"
They will hopefully go home and think to themselves... gee... maybe I do get too defensive.
Similarly to how someone telling me to "calm down" works. When people say that, I usually think "I AM calm!"
Of course it depends on whether or not I feel that their statement was focused on the "You are a little defensive" vs. "is everything okay?"
I'm not sure why, but one of the hardest things for me, is when people comment on, or try to alter my attitude.
$30,000 woud be how much the food+dinner+alcohol costs for the reception alone. The diamond-studded dress would be a few thousands, then the 100's of sovereigns of gold ornaments would be another few thousands and then the cost of hosting family members and close friends. I am sure my friend's wedding would have cost upwards of $100,000. :/
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Have you ever known people who always assume you are arguing with them? No matter what you say, no matter how carefully you phrase it, their default conversation mode is argument - how do you deal with those people? Cause I could really use some help with this.
I don't know. I sort of have the problem in reverse with my dad. Every day he makes some comment about something I do or how I do it, making it sound like criticism, but he keeps claiming it isn't. (Like, he'll comment that my sweater is lying on the sofa, and fail to see that his camera has been on the table for a week).
I don't know. I sort of have the problem in reverse with my dad. Every day he makes some comment about something I do or how I do it, making it sound like criticism, but he keeps claiming it isn't. (Like, he'll comment that my sweater is lying on the sofa, and fail to see that his camera has been on the table for a week).
Hi folks!
It's been a while since I've spent much time here, let alone posted something...I'm not gonna catch up on three weeks of "Streams" though. Too much to catch up on.
Just wanna share a pic from my latest gig. Among other works, we did John William's "Star Wars" suite. R2D2 showed up! He let me take a pic with him...
...and why, yes! I do own a comb!
It's been a while since I've spent much time here, let alone posted something...I'm not gonna catch up on three weeks of "Streams" though. Too much to catch up on.
Just wanna share a pic from my latest gig. Among other works, we did John William's "Star Wars" suite. R2D2 showed up! He let me take a pic with him...
...and why, yes! I do own a comb!