The struggle is real tonight! I've barely done any work OR play, because I've just been fighting for consciousness (even with UBERMonster Energy coursing through my veins...)...
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Sometimes I think people stay in defense mode without even thinking about it. It helps to call that to their attention.
"I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just adding to what you are saying."
Or even... "You seem a little defensive, is everything okay?"
They will hopefully go home and think to themselves... gee... maybe I do get too defensive.![]()
boss and i were talking about weddings the other day (because he saw the bridal magazine on my desk lol), and he mentioned the average cost of a wedding today is around $30,000. i was like what the heck!
i remember years ago, i was helping my friends prepare their wedding decorations (and by helping, i was cutting ribbon because i can't be trusted with anything else lol), and they kept ranting about stress. "we should've just eloped!" i said, "IF i get married, it's gonna be a BBQ in a backyard!" they said, "you do that, melita! if that's what you want! we'll be there!!!" lol
THIS.If someone said "You seem a little defensive, is everything okay?" to me, that would put me on the defensive, and annoy me. I might even go so far as to say it would make me grumpy.
Similarly to how someone telling me to "calm down" works. When people say that, I usually think "I AM calm!"
Of course it depends on whether or not I feel that their statement was focused on the "You are a little defensive" vs. "is everything okay?"
I'm not sure why, but one of the hardest things for me, is when people comment on, or try to alter my attitude.
Sounds like the merchandisers did with weddings in your country what they did with Valentine's Day in our country.$30,000 woud be how much the food+dinner+alcohol costs for the reception alone. The diamond-studded dress would be a few thousands, then the 100's of sovereigns of gold ornaments would be another few thousands and then the cost of hosting family members and close friends. I am sure my friend's wedding would have cost upwards of $100,000. :/
QUESTION FOR ANY AND ALL:
Have you ever known people who always assume you are arguing with them? No matter what you say, no matter how carefully you phrase it, their default conversation mode is argument - how do you deal with those people? Cause I could really use some help with this.
So what happened to abing? She okay?
You seem a little defensive...If someone said "You seem a little defensive, is everything okay?" to me, that would put me on the defensive, and annoy me. I might even go so far as to say it would make me grumpy.
Similarly to how someone telling me to "calm down" works. When people say that, I usually think "I AM calm!"
Of course it depends on whether or not I feel that their statement was focused on the "You are a little defensive" vs. "is everything okay?"
I'm not sure why, but one of the hardest things for me, is when people comment on, or try to alter my attitude.
I guess she felt as though she was spending too much time here. Hoping to see her again.Nobody knows? Did she retire? Do we hang her jersey in the rafters now![]()
Nobody knows? Did she retire? Do we hang her jersey in the rafters now![]()
Yes, Abing said she felt CC was starting to take up too much of her time and she wanted to focus on other endeavors...You seem a little defensive...
I guess she felt as though she was spending too much time here. Hoping to see her again.

So what happened to abing? She okay?
Hi folks!
It's been a while since I've spent much time here, let alone posted something...I'm not gonna catch up on three weeks of "Streams" though. Too much to catch up on.
Just wanna share a pic from my latest gig. Among other works, we did John William's "Star Wars" suite. R2D2 showed up! He let me take a pic with him...
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...and why, yes! I do own a comb!
I'm not sure what happened to Abing, but she seems like she's doing well on Facebook.