That sounds fair. It is good not to go into his negative aspects, but I suppose a question be how maybe he'd feel about you raising his kid and all that. Like would he be cool with it or could you possibly end up on Jerry Springer?
Sounds like a good kid and sounds like he likes you and that's cool. I guess I wasn't meaning so much like how he interacts with you, but more like what are your feelings towards the boy? Do you see yourself raising him the rest of your life? Would raise him even if for random unforeseeable plot twists something happened to the mother? What are some things you like about being a father figure for him particularly?
My apologies if seeming too intrusive, just kind of intrigues me since a very close friend of mine is kinda in a similar situation with a single mom woman, though they kinda been doing the on again off again thing for a bit over a year now, so I am mindful all are somewhat unique cases.
Well, his dad is married, with a new wife, and she helps raise the boy. So he knows one day he may have another man in his life helping to raise his son. I met him once, and he was friendly enough to me. Met his brother, mother, wife as well. They were all friendly towards me.
This is not the first single mom i've dated. So i'm aware of the concept of helping to raise someone else's kids. My dad did the same thing. My mom had 3 kids from another marriage. She died 20 years go, and he still views them as his own children. So that's the example i grew up with.
Well, i liked to think i'd have a positive affect on his life. His family has a lot of dysfunction. So i thought i might be able to bring some calmness and stability to his, and his moms life. I was helping her to learn better ways of dealing with him in a disciplinary role. As a result i sometimes had to point out when she wasn't listening and overreacting. Or when she wasn't doing enough. Some of her issues makes it hard for her to deal with such things in a right manner.
He has a father with a wife, two grandmothers. So not sure how likely it is i'd end up taking care of him. But i'm aware it's possible. I would do what i had to do, the best i was able, to raise him if it came to that.