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mokie22yrold

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Been divorced 4 months now. Living in a studio apartment. Renewed my lease. I'm afraid. I don't want to live alone rest of my life in this apartment. I want my own house or mobile home with a cat and dog. Feel so lost and forgotten. I believed with all my heart God lead me to get married, now I'm divorced cause my ex couldn't keep his pants on. I don't understand what God wants. I work 7 days week to pay rent , etc. I'm so tired. I don't know what else to do but what I'm doing. It's hard to even go to church cause by the time I'm done working I'm to tired to go to a church. Well, thanks for reading.
 
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Ariel82

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Can you get a roommate, less expensive apartment or better job that allows you to have one day of rest?
Will pray.
 
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Ariel82 said:
Can you get a roommate, less expensive apartment or better job that allows you to have one day of rest? Will pray.
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Excellent advice and very well obtainable. Talk with your church members. There's always someone trustworthy to room with, even temporarily just to help you get on your feet financially. Prayers lifted for you, Sister.
 
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I understand how circumstances can overwhelm us. The Lord is with you. Here is a great website that may be of help to you concerning the divorce. I don't agree with all of their doctrine but I certainly agree with their exhortation to believe God and that he can do the impossible..Bless you sister...things will all work out for you..He will be faithful to you.

https://www.rejoiceministries.org/

mokie22yrold said:
Been divorced 4 months now. Living in a studio apartment. Renewed my lease. I'm afraid. I don't want to live alone rest of my life in this apartment. I want my own house or mobile home with a cat and dog. Feel so lost and forgotten. I believed with all my heart God lead me to get married, now I'm divorced cause my ex couldn't keep his pants on. I don't understand what God wants. I work 7 days week to pay rent , etc. I'm so tired. I don't know what else to do but what I'm doing. It's hard to even go to church cause by the time I'm done working I'm to tired to go to a church. Well, thanks for reading.
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I was once down and out too, having lost everything, so I can relate to what you are going through. I am sure that you are tired. Like yourself, there are times that I have a hard time understanding what God wants from me. I have said a prayer that God gives you rest, peace, comfort, and eventually, joy. God Bless You.
 
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Ugly

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I'm 40, never been married. The woman i thought i should marry won't give me a second chance, though i did nothing wrong the first time. Yet she gives whatever random guy she meets on dating sites chances. I spent half my 20's living in a 2 bedroom apartment with my gf and her 3 kids... i got the couch. The next half i spent living in my car, in an area it was a misdemeanor to sleep in your car. When i left that area and moved back in with my dad i got sick. And spent the past almost decade having constant health problems, along with the depression i've battled since i was 14. I've never owned a house, never even rented an apartment of my own. Never had a car that i didn't have help getting. I am pretty much certain now that i will live alone, sick and die alone. This is only a tiny portion of the things i've dealt with. Welcome to life.
 
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UGLY....you just lived up to your screen name....mokie22yrold did not ask for your life's history to be dished in her face. How insensitive can one be? She is seeking help and CHRISTIAN advice...and you offered more confusion, more fuel on the fire and a sad, ugly picture that she nor anybody else needs. She needs to heal. She needs direction. She does not need to be dumped on with more negativity.
We understand that you represent confusion, but must you continually offer it up as a solution? You could of easily said "I understand...and together we can pray and get this into one accord, and let the Holy Spirit take control here.." or something to that effect. I pray for YOU..that the NEGATIVE spirit that you excerpt here on a daily basis will FLEE..in the name of JESUS!!!!!
 
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As far as money goes, Dave Ramsey, a financial advisor, has a statement well worth learning and remembering.

"Live today, like no one else you know lives, so that tomorrow, you can live like no one else you know." (Slightly paraphrased to make it clearer to you.)

The things you want will never just be given to you. And, if you keep spending what little you have left over at the end of the week to make yourself "feel a little more comfortable", then plan on never having any more than you have today.

You want that steak? Get it...... But, remember that you will have, thereby, extended your time in poverty by another week.
 
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BeyondET

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pwrnJC said:
UGLY....you just lived up to your screen name....mokie22yrold did not ask for your life's history to be dished in her face. How insensitive can one be? She is seeking help and CHRISTIAN advice...and you offered more confusion, more fuel on the fire and a sad, ugly picture that she nor anybody else needs. She needs to heal. She needs direction. She does not need to be dumped on with more negativity.
We understand that you represent confusion, but must you continually offer it up as a solution? You could of easily said "I understand...and together we can pray and get this into one accord, and let the Holy Spirit take control here.." or something to that effect. I pray for YOU..that the NEGATIVE spirit that you excerpt here on a daily basis will FLEE..in the name of JESUS!!!!!
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I disagree totally, Ugly he is strong for sharing his story for it is that testimony helps others can see in their life that they are not alone for others share lifes pain and sorrow that's what he did shared a painful memory.

Lord knows I have them too but haven't mustard that strength and I admire Ugly's strength.
 
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pwrnJC said:
UGLY....you just lived up to your screen name....mokie22yrold did not ask for your life's history to be dished in her face. How insensitive can one be? She is seeking help and CHRISTIAN advice...and you offered more confusion, more fuel on the fire and a sad, ugly picture that she nor anybody else needs. She needs to heal. She needs direction. She does not need to be dumped on with more negativity.
We understand that you represent confusion, but must you continually offer it up as a solution? You could of easily said "I understand...and together we can pray and get this into one accord, and let the Holy Spirit take control here.." or something to that effect. I pray for YOU..that the NEGATIVE spirit that you excerpt here on a daily basis will FLEE..in the name of JESUS!!!!!
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Ugly was explaining that being afraid of being alone or never owning your own home is typical and also, if you really consider it, is not something that will end one's life or make life horrible. We all have dreams and we have all had frustrations and disappointments. We have to allow people to feel safe here to open up about their own issues or there is no point. As you can see, Ugly is feeling pain that surfaced due to the original post and maybe they could find support in each other's pain...if they would be allowed to express it openly.

We are all broken. We should feel safe to be so among other broken believers, otherwise what's the point?
 
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Ugly

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Apparently i'm pwrs new punching bag tonight. Not the first post he was eager to trash me on.
Thank you Myst and ET.
 
mystdancer50

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I am 36, have never married, and live with my mom. :) It is frustrating to feel "trapped" in a limited place, but do try to see past your immediate place. Prayerfully seek God's will and intention and direction. Don't leap into something that would lead to great hardships in the realm of debt or frustration or even endanger you. Patience will see you through. Focus. Plan. And then, allow the Lord to direct your steps, as He says in His word. Allow God to take the time now to heal the wounds that have formed due to this separation and do not rush past the lessons and the strengths that God wants to use this time to develop in you. Remember that God's love for you is complete and perfect and His love casts out fear. Learn to rest in His love and trust in His timing. :)
 
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I've always liked you and your posts, Ugly. :)
 
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BeyondET

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Ugly said:
Apparently i'm pwrs new punching bag tonight. Not the first post he was eager to trash me on.
Thank you Myst and ET.
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Hehe thanks Ugly now I feel better, for I can see I'm not alone being in those cross hairs
 
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Ariel82

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Hey be nice to ugly. I have seen him do,some wonderful work,for,the Lord in here.

Ugly sorry you are feeling down tonight. I wouldn't have guessed at your life story. Will pray for you brother.
 
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Ariel82

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The best thing in life is free..,,God's grace and forgiveness through Christ's sacrifice on the cross for our sins.
 
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skylove7

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pwrnJC said:
UGLY....you just lived up to your screen name....mokie22yrold did not ask for your life's history to be dished in her face. How insensitive can one be? She is seeking help and CHRISTIAN advice...and you offered more confusion, more fuel on the fire and a sad, ugly picture that she nor anybody else needs. She needs to heal. She needs direction. She does not need to be dumped on with more negativity.
We understand that you represent confusion, but must you continually offer it up as a solution? You could of easily said "I understand...and together we can pray and get this into one accord, and let the Holy Spirit take control here.." or something to that effect. I pray for YOU..that the NEGATIVE spirit that you excerpt here on a daily basis will FLEE..in the name of JESUS!!!!!
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Oh don't even!
I do undoubtedly remember. ...oh about six months ago
A few of us ladies witnessed you...in the young adult forums giving a bit too much detail of the passionate relations with your wife...to a teen

Oh yea!
Oh yea...I said it....
Why?
Because I'm sick of it!

Say what you want to me
Pfft
You don't hurt me....
Because I speak the truth!

Cookie? :)
 
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kaylagrl

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skylove7 said:
Oh don't even!
I do undoubtedly remember. ...oh about six months ago
A few of us ladies witnessed you...in the young adult forums giving a bit too much detail of the passionate relations with your wife...to a teen

Oh yea!
Oh yea...I said it....
Why?
Because I'm sick of it!

Say what you want to me
Pfft
You don't hurt me....
Because I speak the truth!

Cookie? :)
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Oh skylove is kicking butts and takin names tonight. Y'all better behave! :p
 
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skylove7

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Lord help me....
But it's true
PwrnJC....
All he ever does is offend offend offend...
Forgive me....I don't care....my levy broke
I'm sick of it!
He can say what he wants to me....
Meh
 
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Utah

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pwrnJC said:
UGLY....you just lived up to your screen name....mokie22yrold did not ask for your life's history to be dished in her face. How insensitive can one be? She is seeking help and CHRISTIAN advice...and you offered more confusion, more fuel on the fire and a sad, ugly picture that she nor anybody else needs. She needs to heal. She needs direction. She does not need to be dumped on with more negativity.
We understand that you represent confusion, but must you continually offer it up as a solution? You could of easily said "I understand...and together we can pray and get this into one accord, and let the Holy Spirit take control here.." or something to that effect. I pray for YOU..that the NEGATIVE spirit that you excerpt here on a daily basis will FLEE..in the name of JESUS!!!!!
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Reverend Killjoy strikes again. Good job Killjoy. Ugly is a survivor and he was sharing his experience to let Mokie know she's not alone. Knowing someone understands brings great comfort to those in need. Why the hell do you think Jesus was tempted? So we know He understands our battles.
 
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