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BeyondET

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A good point made here is we all been hurt from something even those who lash out at others or even When we lash out at ourselves.

lets forgive n let live and move on and tell us that you make us stronger Lord Amen.
 
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kaylagrl

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#22
Lord help me....
But it's true
PwrnJC....
All he ever does is offend offend offend...
Forgive me....I don't care....my levy broke
I'm sick of it!
He can say what he wants to me....
Meh
Ya,he was being ruff on Ugly for sure. Saying he lived up to his screen name was uncalled for. JMO
 
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Hellooo

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Been divorced 4 months now. Living in a studio apartment. Renewed my lease. I'm afraid. I don't want to live alone rest of my life in this apartment. I want my own house or mobile home with a cat and dog. Feel so lost and forgotten. I believed with all my heart God lead me to get married, now I'm divorced cause my ex couldn't keep his pants on. I don't understand what God wants. I work 7 days week to pay rent , etc. I'm so tired. I don't know what else to do but what I'm doing. It's hard to even go to church cause by the time I'm done working I'm to tired to go to a church. Well, thanks for reading.
Mookie22yrold, you are so much stronger than you think you are. You are supporting yourself - maybe just getting by for now - but you're doing it.

2 Tim 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

You don't have to have all the answers right now, as far as your living situation and such. if things seem overwhelming, narrow down your focus to just making it through the next week, or next month. When you have a chance, start job/roommate hunting, as some have suggested. Do you have any family outside of your ex husband?

You are in my prayers girl.
 
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BeyondET

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There's a old saying sometimes hurting people hurt others.
 
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Ugly

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Myst - Yeah, it's been a while though haha. :p

Ariel - Wow, thanks, didn't expect that from you. ;)

ET - Thanks again. :cool:
 
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Ugly; Jesus has authority over every cell in your body, also "Foxes have dens,....but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head" (he was homeless) may Jesus keep you in the abundance of His Grace, Amen!!
 

Dan58

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Been divorced 4 months now. Living in a studio apartment. Renewed my lease. I'm afraid. I don't want to live alone rest of my life in this apartment. I want my own house or mobile home with a cat and dog. Feel so lost and forgotten. I believed with all my heart God lead me to get married, now I'm divorced cause my ex couldn't keep his pants on. I don't understand what God wants. I work 7 days week to pay rent , etc. I'm so tired. I don't know what else to do but what I'm doing. It's hard to even go to church cause by the time I'm done working I'm to tired to go to a church. Well, thanks for reading.
Your in a situation that's not uncommon for lots of people. Being self-supportive ain't easy, but it sounds like your doing okay. Sometimes in life we need to be content to just tread water for awhile and live paycheck to paycheck. But don't be discouraged, you might meet another guy who already has a house and a dog or cat :). And don't think that God led you to marry a man who was unfaithful, you just picked a questionable character who turned out to be the wrong partner.
 
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BeyondET

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I've heard it expressed, perhaps, a bit more realistically, as:
"Only hurting people, hurt people,"
True that though realistically hurting people not only hurt people but can abuse animals too
 
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BeyondET

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I've heard it expressed, perhaps, a bit more realistically, as:
"Only hurting people, hurt people,"
though I'm not going to keep harping but when us people hurt others do you think your Father in Heaven isn't hurt also think again friend.
 
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skylove7

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A good point made here is we all been hurt from something even those who lash out at others or even When we lash out at ourselves.

lets forgive n let live and move on and tell us that you make us stronger Lord Amen.
Amen
This is true
 

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UGLY....you just lived up to your screen name....
We understand that you represent confusion, but must you continually offer it up as a solution? QUOTE]


Actually, Ugly represents clarity and offers real-world insight.
 
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LiJo

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Been divorced 4 months now. Living in a studio apartment. Renewed my lease. I'm afraid. I don't want to live alone rest of my life in this apartment. I want my own house or mobile home with a cat and dog. Feel so lost and forgotten. I believed with all my heart God lead me to get married, now I'm divorced cause my ex couldn't keep his pants on. I don't understand what God wants. I work 7 days week to pay rent , etc. I'm so tired. I don't know what else to do but what I'm doing. It's hard to even go to church cause by the time I'm done working I'm to tired to go to a church. Well, thanks for reading.
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

You're in the beginning stage of your divorce and it will take time. Divorce Care is a great ministry for healing and support, you won't regret it.

Please remember what you are going through right now is temporary, God is always with you, you're not alone, use this time for personal growth and remember to be grateful and praise God always. I will be praying for you!!
 

tourist

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Your in a situation that's not uncommon for lots of people. Being self-supportive ain't easy, but it sounds like your doing okay. Sometimes in life we need to be content to just tread water for awhile and live paycheck to paycheck. But don't be discouraged, you might meet another guy who already has a house and a dog or cat :). And don't think that God led you to marry a man who was unfaithful, you just picked a questionable character who turned out to be the wrong partner.
Yeah, that's what happen to me in my first marriage. It was my biggest regret in life but I have learned from my mistake and God allowed me to overcome it. After much reflection and prayer. It took a few years.
 
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I'm 40, never been married. The woman i thought i should marry won't give me a second chance, though i did nothing wrong the first time. Yet she gives whatever random guy she meets on dating sites chances. I spent half my 20's living in a 2 bedroom apartment with my gf and her 3 kids... i got the couch. The next half i spent living in my car, in an area it was a misdemeanor to sleep in your car. When i left that area and moved back in with my dad i got sick. And spent the past almost decade having constant health problems, along with the depression i've battled since i was 14. I've never owned a house, never even rented an apartment of my own. Never had a car that i didn't have help getting. I am pretty much certain now that i will live alone, sick and die alone. This is only a tiny portion of the things i've dealt with. Welcome to life.

yeah...that will certainly help

please stop giving people advice

what you describe is certainly not life

ready for all comebacks

actually I don't care

must have been something I read
 
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Reverend Killjoy strikes again. Good job Killjoy. Ugly is a survivor and he was sharing his experience to let Mokie know she's not alone. Knowing someone understands brings great comfort to those in need. Why the hell do you think Jesus was tempted? So we know He understands our battles.

whoah dude...utah even

ugly states welcome to life

yeah, that ain't life

if I wrote all I have been through...and it's plenty....I could hang my head and look up to see the curb too

but Jesus came that we might have life and have it more abundantly

we are ALWAYS going to fail if we depend on others for our happiness and or peace

ps...I don't have virgin ears or mouth, but a little less rough language would be ok on this forum...

still love you in Christ!
 
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kaylagrl

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Been divorced 4 months now. Living in a studio apartment. Renewed my lease. I'm afraid. I don't want to live alone rest of my life in this apartment. I want my own house or mobile home with a cat and dog. Feel so lost and forgotten. I believed with all my heart God lead me to get married, now I'm divorced cause my ex couldn't keep his pants on. I don't understand what God wants. I work 7 days week to pay rent , etc. I'm so tired. I don't know what else to do but what I'm doing. It's hard to even go to church cause by the time I'm done working I'm to tired to go to a church. Well, thanks for reading.

I don't think anyone really wants to be alone. But you don't have to be married to be with people. It might be a good thing to surround yourself with friends and family and as much support as you can. When we go through hard times its really hard to see the other side of the tunnel,we only see where we are at the moment. So don't let the circumstances you are in now make you feel like things will never change. Things can change quickly, you don't know the future but you do know God wants the very best for you.Rest in that.

When someone breaks trust with you its easy to feel the way you do,lost and forgotten. But our feelings are just that,feelings. They are not truth. Also there are times when we want something so badly we feel like it is what God wants and we are hearing from Him when really its just our own desires. When we feel confused about what God told us,its a good indication that it was our own desires that guided us. I did the same thing,just luckily I didn't marry the person. On the other hand maybe your ex was brought into your life by God but he decided to follow his own lust. Either way you are not to blame.As time passes your hurt will fade away. But don't let fear of being alone make you jump into another relationship on the rebound. Certain people are good at detecting hurting people on the rebound and taking advantage. Try to focus on the good you have in life,family,friends. Ask for prayer support at church and try to make it there,it will help in your healing. Do not focus on where you are right now. You're going through a trail but you don't have to stay there. You can make it through and minister to someone else in your circumstances in the future.
 

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1Jo 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

Fear is a terrible thing. It robs believers of their joy. Trust the Lord that saved you to provide that which you need. Patience is not what we want but what we must exercise to see God move in our lives. Time spent waiting on the Lord is never wasted time.

For the cause of Christ
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Been divorced 4 months now. Living in a studio apartment. Renewed my lease. I'm afraid. I don't want to live alone rest of my life in this apartment. I want my own house or mobile home with a cat and dog. Feel so lost and forgotten. I believed with all my heart God lead me to get married, now I'm divorced cause my ex couldn't keep his pants on. I don't understand what God wants. I work 7 days week to pay rent , etc. I'm so tired. I don't know what else to do but what I'm doing. It's hard to even go to church cause by the time I'm done working I'm to tired to go to a church. Well, thanks for reading.
I'm single and have lived most of my life in an apartment, and I am very happy with my life. What bothers me is that you are working seven days a week. It would be better if you had at least one day off each week. You need the rest. Life looks a lot better when we get the rest we need.
 

tourist

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Oh don't even!
I do undoubtedly remember. ...oh about six months ago
A few of us ladies witnessed you...in the young adult forums giving a bit too much detail of the passionate relations with your wife...to a teen

Oh yea!
Oh yea...I said it....
Why?
Because I'm sick of it!

Say what you want to me
Pfft
You don't hurt me....
Because I speak the truth!

Cookie? :)
He probably don't do cookies. Certainly not sugar cookies. Perhaps chocolate chip to go with that chip on his shoulder.