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coby

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Are you fat too? It seems the fat people are coming unglued here! LOL

Im only stating statistics. Obesity is an epidemic. It is a illness and it is bondage . Yes, I do think that my focus on water intake among other things will help someone reading on.

What have you offered on this thread besides pointing out faults of others?
Well he tried to help him in another thread and he helps him by saying shut up about fat or not fat. That was not the question. He only mentioned it because women didn't want him for that. He didn't ask do you have tips to get thin.
 
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Well he tried to help him in another thread and he helps him by saying shut up about fat or not fat. That was not the question. He only mentioned it because women didn't want him for that. He didn't ask do you have tips to get thin.
Fair enough. Im just passionate in helping people free themselves from bondage ie gluttony. Ill start my own thread trying to educate people to better themselves and in turn feeling better about their health and outlook on life. Thanks
 
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Stats are blanket statements that have nothing to do with each person. People are individuals, not statistics. I will not be assimilated by the borg by lowering a persons spirit to a number.

And i have messaged the OP privately to avoid people like you interfering in building this person up by treating them like a number and judging them on that alone. I have, also because of people like you, encouraged him to not return to this thread.
Statistics are garnered by focused studies. Ive been stating easy to understand facts for the avg person! You are correct this is not the thread to enlighten the ones who want and need help. I wont post on this thread again. Thanks. Blessings
 
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BatmanRSM

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Mark 12:30-31: And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
Please forgive my ignorance, how does this of verse apply to what I said.



Also a quick note to everybody else is posting in here can we please keep this thread on topic. If you feel passion about his believes that you are stating please start your own thread to address those ideals
 
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Please forgive my ignorance, how does this of verse apply to what I said.



Also a quick note to everybody else is posting in here can we please keep this thread on topic. If you feel passion about his believes that you are stating please start your own thread to address those ideals
Those verses are what we're supposed to do. Where is the part that says "It's all about me?"

Honestly, since you thought I was being harsh, thought I'd let you see what Jesus said on the subject. The reason I posted it is because I realized between loving God and loving others, wallowing in all things me IS sin.
 
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I never said fat people are terrible. You did. You really are a smart lady arent you?
Yes, I am actually.
That was the very first thought that ran across my mind, too.

And, almost everyone in the world who is fat, is that way only because of the huge amount of food we ingest.
Absolutely NOT TRUE. You are severely uninformed as to what can cause obesity, Willie. It CAN be caused by food, yes, BUT most often it's caused by meds, heredity or a chemical imbalance in the thyroid. So to suggest that fat people are ONLY fat because they eat too much really is rather insulting. You need to educate yourself on the subject of obesity, so you won't sound ignorant the next time you speak on the subject. :/
Most often? That is a very untrue statement!
Medical issues and heredity may be a contributing factor but certainly not the main cause. Alot of the time, the chemical imbalance comes from eating nutrient empty foods day in and day out AND, the majority of people eat when their body just wants water! How many people on meds eat only whole foods? The meds were designed to help a body whose diet is only whole foods and proper water intake.. Did you know that? The main cause of obesity is bad food,too much food, not enough water, and no to little exercise.

There is also an epidemic of over medicated people in the USA too! They are overly medicated because their diet is very bad. Medication is designed to be ingested by a body that is eating whole foods . This is the doctors fault for not educating their patients but it is also the fault of the patient for not educating themselves to have a healthier body with less weight to carry around!!
Are you fat too? It seems the fat people are coming unglued here! LOL

Im only stating statistics. Obesity is an epidemic. It is a illness and it is bondage . Yes, I do think that my focus on water intake among other things will help someone reading on.

What have you offered on this thread besides pointing out faults of others?
Not only did you talk about the fat in disgust, you decided some here are fat.

I am a smart lady. I can read.

I can also see where someone is blaming everyone else for what she is doing, and then continues to do. But enough about you and your foresight. This is Batman's thread.
 
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BatmanRSM

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Those verses are what we're supposed to do. Where is the part that says "It's all about me?"

Honestly, since you thought I was being harsh, thought I'd let you see what Jesus said on the subject. The reason I posted it is because I realized between loving God and loving others, wallowing in all things me IS sin.
You were being harsh, and still are. I may have misread them, but your words have been nothing more then "clanging gong". I did not come to the board to be told verse after verse of a Bible I have been studing since 1992 if not longer. I came here for fellowship with other believers. To SHOWED the love you keep talking about not lectured to. Trust me I have more then enough voices the tell me I am at fault and how wrong I am in every single way and thing I do. I came looking for grace and mercy. A place I can be open and honest with out judgement. Here I have some annonimity, I do not have to put on the "Stained Glass Mascarade" as Casting Crowns calls it. I am willing to be that many other out there needs that kind of a place. Why do you think bars are always crowded? People can drink cheaper at home, but the corner pub has fellowship with other people. Where the guy next to you is "Duty bound" to the code of the bar to listen to all your troubles. The church is dying because why go to a place that is full of pious gas bags that only look at a person's "Scarlett Letter", and not the hurt behind it. If you are unable to provide that, please do not reply further.
 
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I really do not know if this is the right place for this, or if the subject of this thread is correct. I have depression, disabled, PTSD and "suicdal". The reason for these things are long and do not know if they would help in finding answers. The main reason I am depressed is I am very lonely. I spend 96-98% of each week completely alone. No really to call one the phone or text that will reply. I have been basicly single all my life I have been on a few dates but nothing long term.


This makes me feel like I am not good enough for anyone. The only compliment I get is "you have a nice smile". Which always sounds like the stereotypical "You have a great personality" type compament. One that is safe you do not insult them, but you cannot say the truth because it would be rude. I have been called ugly in the past, and repeatedly treated like I am. Judging by how many girl/women have completely turned me down I can only concluded that it is true. That I am a horiable person or worse both.

i am overweight because I am disabled and cannot work out to much. Because of not being able to work I have little to no money. These are three huge strikes with most women. Younger girl do not want some of my age (37) especially brim out of shape and poor. They want some one young attractive and has money. Either enough to support them completely or to be an equal partner in the finances. Women my age want all of that plus if they have kids the last thing they want is someone that basically is another kid to take care of. I have tried with women of all (legal) ages, heights as sizes. Both short and tall girls want a guy over six feet tall. I do not make that if I stand on my tip toes.

i have a lot of aquatences but no real friends that I can count on. A few also are in different states. That is another problem with my age. Most guys my age have families they would rather spend time with.

I really do not want to be alive anymore, but I cannot kill myself either. I frequently wish God would call me home. That or I would be killed by somebody so I can leave this broken down torn up tent and go home.

i bet I know all the Bible verses that will be posted following this...
If those women are so shallow that they reject you on looks, weight, highth, disability and money then praise the Lord you never married one of those.
I dated an almost blind guy. Noone wants those either except for a bossy woman who left because it was too much effort and took the stuff out of the house because he couldn't see it.
Not shallow people exist but they are very scarse.

Guys didn't want me, even that almost blind guy didn't want me, because I used to have borderline and did a suicide attempt and was depressed and they don't believe God can heal you. Plus they want a woman who has it all together and a great social life. What are your hobbies, do you have friends? Posting, I have online friends LOL. 3 kids is too much effort for most too.
I just don't care about getting a guy anymore. Jesus made me happy. I'm actually quite happy single without all those demands and responsibilities. If He has someone, he'll come along, great, if not also great.
He can heal you up totally and He's not unable to give you someone if you want that, as long as you put Him first and in my case when I did that I didn't even care about it anymore.
 
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You were being harsh, and still are. I may have misread them, but your words have been nothing more then "clanging gong". I did not come to the board to be told verse after verse of a Bible I have been studing since 1992 if not longer. I came here for fellowship with other believers. To SHOWED the love you keep talking about not lectured to. Trust me I have more then enough voices the tell me I am at fault and how wrong I am in every single way and thing I do. I came looking for grace and mercy. A place I can be open and honest with out judgement. Here I have some annonimity, I do not have to put on the "Stained Glass Mascarade" as Casting Crowns calls it. I am willing to be that many other out there needs that kind of a place. Why do you think bars are always crowded? People can drink cheaper at home, but the corner pub has fellowship with other people. Where the guy next to you is "Duty bound" to the code of the bar to listen to all your troubles. The church is dying because why go to a place that is full of pious gas bags that only look at a person's "Scarlett Letter", and not the hurt behind it. If you are unable to provide that, please do not reply further.
If this was "pious gas bag"
Batman, just to give you some idea of what I meant in my first post to you, that I know of, (not to be confused with I know everyone. I really only do know some people on here), at least three disabled people responded to you with helpful suggestions and support. And one person said he found the woman worth marrying on this site. (Not that this site is a dating service by any means, but true friendships start on here.) So it is possible to do something helpful even if disabled and it is possible to have long-lasting friendships with everything you already have -- the ability to write, a computer and internet access.

No more excuses. You are now set to be a useful member of society and see that what goes around comes around. Love your neighbor as yourself. We're your neighbors! Get used to us.
I will remain silent around you.
 

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You were being harsh, and still are. I may have misread them, but your words have been nothing more then "clanging gong". I did not come to the board to be told verse after verse of a Bible I have been studing since 1992 if not longer. I came here for fellowship with other believers. To SHOWED the love you keep talking about not lectured to. Trust me I have more then enough voices the tell me I am at fault and how wrong I am in every single way and thing I do. I came looking for grace and mercy. A place I can be open and honest with out judgement. Here I have some annonimity, I do not have to put on the "Stained Glass Mascarade" as Casting Crowns calls it. I am willing to be that many other out there needs that kind of a place. Why do you think bars are always crowded? People can drink cheaper at home, but the corner pub has fellowship with other people. Where the guy next to you is "Duty bound" to the code of the bar to listen to all your troubles. The church is dying because why go to a place that is full of pious gas bags that only look at a person's "Scarlett Letter", and not the hurt behind it. If you are unable to provide that, please do not reply further.
One thing you need to realize is that Lynn (Depleted) is very direct and straight forward in her replies, as am myself and several others here. We offer the raw, ugly truth, NOT a glossed-over and watered down version of the truth. Our directness offends some here, but if they can't handle hearing the REAL truth, then they shouldn't ask for advice because they're going to get lots of it, and it may not always be what you want to hear. As to your statement about people in bars, and the guy next to you is "duty bound" to listen to your troubles, that's not true. No one is duty bound to listen to anyone's tales of woe. Now accept the fact that you ARE good enough, and someday God will send you who he has in mind for you. :)
 
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BatmanRSM

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If this was "pious gas bag"

I will remain silent around you.
I apologize to you Depleted. I should have taken the time to go back and reread postings. I had you confussed with a different replies on here. Please except my humble apologies.


To address the reply of yours you have reminded me of I have private messaged a few people on here and have talked with them on a few things. I would love to do so with you if you are willing, if not I understand.
 
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One thing you need to realize is that Lynn (Depleted) is very direct and straight forward in her replies, as am myself and several others here. We offer the raw, ugly truth, NOT a glossed-over and watered down version of the truth. Our directness offends some here, but if they can't handle hearing the REAL truth, then they shouldn't ask for advice because they're going to get lots of it, and it may not always be what you want to hear. As to your statement about people in bars, and the guy next to you is "duty bound" to listen to your troubles, that's not true. No one is duty bound to listen to anyone's tales of woe. Now accept the fact that you ARE good enough, and someday God will send you who He has in mind for you. :)
Lady Blue, I was not looking for advice, I was and am looking for comfort. That is why I said I knew what Bible verses were going to be quoted. I have a list of my own as well as theological backing to state a case on.

Some times the "raw truth" is what is need like when Nathan confronted David. But, there are also time when someone needs to be built up and before they can handle such directness. Sadly as author and Pastor Chip Ingram has pointed out that the church is on one side of two different end of the spectrum. Either it is "love with out any truth, or it is the truth with out any love" ( paraphrasing). The later is exacerbated online or in print where it is much harder to tell what the tone of what someone is using is.

The "Duty Bound" part is was referencing an episode of the TV show [Scrubs], I did not know the full quote or I would have used it. But the point I was making is 99% of the time the guy (or girl) next to you at the bar will set there and listen to your problems with out judgement because they are there for that very reason. The lyrics to the 1980's television show Cheers explain it far better then in can.
 

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​I wasn't offered any comfort during my times of depression, from age 9 or 10, up until a few years ago. I hid my depression very well from family and friends. Now, so what if girls aren't interested in you? Most girls only want a guy for how they look anyway. Unfortunately, that's the mindset of today's society. It doesn't matter what you look like, or how much you weigh, how much money you have, etc. Just do what you can to make yourself feel good. You may think you're not good enough, but I assure that God absolutely thinks you're good enough!! Don't let your current life get you down. Adopt a positive mindset and your depression WILL begin to lift. I guarantee it. :) Depend on God to pull you out of this pit you're in, and bring you back into His light.
 
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BatmanRSM

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​I wasn't offered any comfort during my times of depression, from age 9 or 10, up until a few years ago. I hid my depression very well from family and friends. Now, so what if girls aren't interested in you? Most girls only want a guy for how they look anyway. Unfortunately, that's the mindset of today's society. It doesn't matter what you look like, or how much you weigh, how much money you have, etc. Just do what you can to make yourself feel good. You may think you're not good enough, but I assure that God absolutely thinks you're good enough!! Don't let your current life get you down. Adopt a positive mindset and your depression WILL begin to lift. I guarantee it. :) Depend on God to pull you out of this pit you're in, and bring you back into His light.
That breaks my heart that you were not offered any comfort or support.
 

blue_ladybug

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That breaks my heart that you were not offered any comfort or support.
Thank you. :) I was a very isolated child, and I enjoyed my own company and playing alone. My family, or more accurately, my mom and oldest sister, were the main source of my depression all my life, although other life events certainly factored in. To this day, my mom and sister are still nasty individuals but I've come to accept that I can't change them nor can I change the hurt they caused me.
 
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I want you to know that you were made in the image of GOD and Jesus died on the cross to show you how much he loves you. OK?

For everyone that keeps steadfast to their faith , I am positive that Jesus will reward them with joy and peace when he returns.

The worst thing you can do is give up.

Remember we are only pilgrims in this world and that life is truly short.

Hear the Apostle Paul

Php 3:13 My brothers, I do not count myself to have taken possession, but one thing I do, forgetting the things behind and reaching forward to the things before,
Php 3:14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
Heb 3:12 Take heed, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God.
Heb 3:13 But exhort one another daily, while it is called today
Heb 3:14 For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence steadfast to the end

God bless you :)
 
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BatmanRSM

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I have recently been posted on my struggles with depression. Today I found some comfort in the words of King David as recorded in I Samuel 17:37, this is my paraphrase of it


"The Lord, who delivered me from the abuse of my father and from severe food poisoning He will deliver me from the hand of depression"
 

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I have recently been posted on my struggles with depression. Today I found some comfort in the words of King David as recorded in I Samuel 17:37, this is my paraphrase of it


"The Lord, who delivered me from the abuse of my father and from severe food poisoning He will deliver me from the hand of depression"

​Weird paraphrase, lol.. But it's true, He WILL deliver you from this depression. God always keeps his word.. :)
 
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​Weird paraphrase, lol.. But it's true, He WILL deliver you from this depression. God always keeps his word.. :)
I paraphrase it using examples from my own life. Just like the two David mentioned both of mine had a high likelihood of killing me.
 
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BatmanRSM

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Not feeling depressed right now, but having someone to hold/hold me would be so wonderful.