Advice for single people

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Ethan97

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Well iv been through many good and bad relationships in my life so far and i would like to share some things with you god has life laid out for us we may not see it all the time but he is always there and he is guiding us. well im no saint nor a bad person but i do know that to find someone you want to be with look into their heart and try to find the good and then the bad because a lover with a good heart is better than a lover with a pretty face and their are people out there who have both dont take me the wrong way but you know love is a creek it turns swerves gets rough when it rains but it goes on so if your a lonely soul like myself just keep in mind someone in life will show up god will always have you in his arms when you need him. god bless you
 
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Ugly

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Don't be afraid to use periods and capitalization, and even comma's. Makes reading easier.
 
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Ugly said:
Don't be afraid to use periods and capitalization, and even comma's. Makes reading easier.
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​What he said. Also, God should be capitalized, not lowercase. :)
 
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Ethan97 said:
Well iv been through many good and bad relationships in my life so far and i would like to share some things with you god has life laid out for us we may not see it all the time but he is always there and he is guiding us. well im no saint nor a bad person but i do know that to find someone you want to be with look into their heart and try to find the good and then the bad because a lover with a good heart is better than a lover with a pretty face and their are people out there who have both dont take me the wrong way but you know love is a creek it turns swerves gets rough when it rains but it goes on so if your a lonely soul like myself just keep in mind someone in life will show up god will always have you in his arms when you need him. god bless you
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You are quite wise for your age. :)
 
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spunkycat08

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Ugly said:
Don't be afraid to use periods and capitalization, and even comma's. Makes reading easier.
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That and no run on sentences.

What happened to using correct punctuation and capitalization?

The OP is 18, and so I would think that he went to school and learned this.
 
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Yes, thank u for the comforting words bro. Its hard to forget the beloved one but as it is we need to love all our brothers and sisters the same - with sacrificial and undying love. Let the Lord bless u and keep u and bring joy inspite of the sorrow u r going through!
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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You know what else is easier to read? Posts that aren't so critical and detracting.
 
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spunkycat08

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Ok...

Then I will put it this way...

It is difficult for me to read the OP's post due to the way it is written, and so I cannot post a reply.
 
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spunkycat08 said:
Ok...

Then I will put it this way...

It is difficult for me to read the OP's post due to the way it is written, and so I cannot post a reply.
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No problem, there are tons of other posts in the forum to read and reply to. If it's too much effort to read posts such as the original one here, there are hundreds of thousands of others to choose from that might be easier for people with more discerning grammatical tastes to read.

I've met/worked with several people who have learning disorders, speak mother tongues other than English, etc.--not to mention the fact that English is the only language I speak and I myself make plenty of typos in my posts--so I tend to be a bit more lenient about posting/"speaking" styles (through writing.)

It's just my personal opinion (and of course, you are entitled to your own opinion as well) that sometimes the information a post contains is more important than whether or not the grammar/style is perfect or not. I actually come from what most would consider to be an "uneducated" family and have family members who still say "ain't" as a regular part of their vocabulary.

I'm pretty sure that if they posted here, there would be a whole host of complaints and insults directed at their posts as well.

The funny thing is... I know what they're trying to say (from their hearts), and I've never had a problem understanding them.

Ethan97, there are many of us here who know what you're trying to say.

And we hope you won't be discouraged from continuing to keep on posting.
 
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P.S. I myself am certainly not exempt from having criticized people for their communication in the past, which is why I feel uneasy about seeing other people criticized for their writing now.

I was once at a friend's house during Christmas and noticed a card on the table that was signed, "Unckle Bob" (not his real name.) My friend was saying that his Uncle Bob had some problems... And I very snarkily said, "Oh really. Does 'Unckle Bob' have some problems with spelling as well?"

My friend then explained that his uncle had both learning disorders and mental disabilities... and I was utterly mortified at having made such a horrible, critical comment. No apology in the world could make up for that.

I'm sure I've failed many times along the way, but I hope to never make that same terrible mistake again.
 
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jeremyPJ

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many people have difficulties with grammar, I catch myself a lot.

Funniest thing I saw lately was finding some of my ex's papers from her high school years. She just left a lot of stuff behind when she moved...anyway there was a letter to her sister in there, she was telling her she was "pist" about something. Me and my cousin (who was visiting) laughed a lot over that. They both quit school early, so maybe that explains it. Lol...
 
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jeremyPJ

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As for the singles out there, don't let yourself get hurried/pressured by "friends, family or anyone else". You'll know when you find your true love. In the meantime, do what you love with whom you want to be around, even if it is yourself.
 
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Levite

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I am new here
 
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ramx2016

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AND... the OP is gone... wonder why...
 
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Ugly

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seoulsearch said:
No problem, there are tons of other posts in the forum to read and reply to. If it's too much effort to read posts such as the original one here, there are hundreds of thousands of others to choose from that might be easier for people with more discerning grammatical tastes to read.

I've met/worked with several people who have learning disorders, speak mother tongues other than English, etc.--not to mention the fact that English is the only language I speak and I myself make plenty of typos in my posts--so I tend to be a bit more lenient about posting/"speaking" styles (through writing.)

It's just my personal opinion (and of course, you are entitled to your own opinion as well) that sometimes the information a post contains is more important than whether or not the grammar/style is perfect or not. I actually come from what most would consider to be an "uneducated" family and have family members who still say "ain't" as a regular part of their vocabulary.

I'm pretty sure that if they posted here, there would be a whole host of complaints and insults directed at their posts as well.

The funny thing is... I know what they're trying to say (from their hearts), and I've never had a problem understanding them.

Ethan97, there are many of us here who know what you're trying to say.

And we hope you won't be discouraged from continuing to keep on posting.
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This may be true, and if it continues this may be the problem. But there have been many times i've commented on difficult to read posts and the person changes the way they post for the better.
Alerting someone to things that they can do to improve their time here by increasing the number of people who will read and reply to their intended words isn't a criticism, it's a help. And if it's something they are unwilling or unable to do then they will have a smaller audience. But if they Are capable of being more clear, it's not a bad thing to point it out.
Helping someone isn't necessarily about sitting by and watching people do things in a way that may not be ideal for them, but we don't want to hurt their feelings so we say nothing.
No one is asking perfection. Just making a few small adjustments to make things easier to read and understand. I am sure i make plenty of mistakes as well, but i do attempt to structure things to make them readable.
 
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Ugly said:
This may be true, and if it continues this may be the problem. But there have been many times i've commented on difficult to read posts and the person changes the way they post for the better.
Alerting someone to things that they can do to improve their time here by increasing the number of people who will read and reply to their intended words isn't a criticism, it's a help. And if it's something they are unwilling or unable to do then they will have a smaller audience. But if they Are capable of being more clear, it's not a bad thing to point it out.
Helping someone isn't necessarily about sitting by and watching people do things in a way that may not be ideal for them, but we don't want to hurt their feelings so we say nothing.
No one is asking perfection. Just making a few small adjustments to make things easier to read and understand. I am sure i make plenty of mistakes as well, but i do attempt to structure things to make them readable.
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There are often many things I also want to suggest in order to help as well...

Maybe I've been holding back too much.

I'll consider speaking up more often in the future.
 
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spunkycat08

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Ugly said:
This may be true, and if it continues this may be the problem. But there have been many times i've commented on difficult to read posts and the person changes the way they post for the better.
Alerting someone to things that they can do to improve their time here by increasing the number of people who will read and reply to their intended words isn't a criticism, it's a help. And if it's something they are unwilling or unable to do then they will have a smaller audience. But if they Are capable of being more clear, it's not a bad thing to point it out.
Helping someone isn't necessarily about sitting by and watching people do things in a way that may not be ideal for them, but we don't want to hurt their feelings so we say nothing.
No one is asking perfection. Just making a few small adjustments to make things easier to read and understand. I am sure i make plenty of mistakes as well, but i do attempt to structure things to make them readable.
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^^^^ I agree.

This is what I am getting at.

The forums I belong to have members of different ages and different levels of education.

I am not asking for any OP to write an essay or a dissertation.

I am just asking the OP to make their post readable and understandable.

What I wish would happen is this...

Consider your audience when posting. Understand that people of different ages and different education levels will read it.

Only the basics are needed for me such as using complete sentences that the average reader is able to understand as well as using paragraphs. That makes the post much easier to read and to understand.

We all have something to contribute.

What we contribute should be readable and understandable to the average reader.
 
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seoulsearch

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Ugly said:
This may be true, and if it continues this may be the problem. But there have been many times i've commented on difficult to read posts and the person changes the way they post for the better.
Alerting someone to things that they can do to improve their time here by increasing the number of people who will read and reply to their intended words isn't a criticism, it's a help. And if it's something they are unwilling or unable to do then they will have a smaller audience. But if they Are capable of being more clear, it's not a bad thing to point it out.
Helping someone isn't necessarily about sitting by and watching people do things in a way that may not be ideal for them, but we don't want to hurt their feelings so we say nothing.
No one is asking perfection. Just making a few small adjustments to make things easier to read and understand. I am sure i make plenty of mistakes as well, but i do attempt to structure things to make them readable.
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spunkycat08 said:
^^^^ I agree.

This is what I am getting at.

The forums I belong to have members of different ages and different levels of education.

I am not asking for any OP to write an essay or a dissertation.

I am just asking the OP to make their post readable and understandable.

What I wish would happen is this...

Consider your audience when posting. Understand that people of different ages and different education levels will read it.

Only the basics are needed for me such as using complete sentences that the average reader is able to understand as well as using paragraphs. That makes the post much easier to read and to understand.

We all have something to contribute.

What we contribute should be readable and understandable to the average reader.
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It's important to remember though that we also have to balance this in such a way that the poster is not made to feel as if they never should have posted in the first place, just because they may lack the skills to post their thoughts in a more formal manner.

Something encouraging must be said to them along with the corrections.
 
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