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Most guys will miss flirting, unless they are the kind of guys that make meeting women a hobby they engage in regularly.
And sometimes what seems like a flirt to you, and maybe most others, will just be how that person always is.
If in doubt don't rush.
Mat the end of the day the only person that is 100% sure of what they mean is the person whose behavior is in question.
And sometimes what seems like a flirt to you, and maybe most others, will just be how that person always is.
If in doubt don't rush.
Mat the end of the day the only person that is 100% sure of what they mean is the person whose behavior is in question.
In my view of it, flirting is just your basic social interactions delivered with a little sugar. It's simply a way of engaging with someone that flatters and notices another as a person. There are some people who "flirt" with everyone...particularly, for example, salespeople. They know how to engage with people in a flattering way in order to make the sale. They'll compliment a woman's hair, or a man's suit, etc. There are people who go through the world flirting with others because it allows them to get their way in most situations.
There are others who reserve flirting exclusively for the opposite sex...and it may or may not involve any actual pursuit of that person. I have a brother, for example, that is flirty with every woman he comes across. As a result, women looooooooove my brother. They think he's "such a cool guy." The vast majority of them are not interested in dating him (nor he, them), but they do find him charming.
Finally, there are people who only flirt with the opposite sex when they are specifically interested in that person. It's a way of showing their interest and hoping that the other person returns it.
In regard to the third group, there are actually sociological studies of flirting and what it involves--lots of eye contact, body language (feet turned toward each other), conversational banter, some non-sexual touch on the part of the woman toward the man (removing lint, laughing and touching his arm, etc.), a returned non-sexual touch from the man (moving a fallen piece of hair out of the way, touching her shoulder, etc).
There are others who reserve flirting exclusively for the opposite sex...and it may or may not involve any actual pursuit of that person. I have a brother, for example, that is flirty with every woman he comes across. As a result, women looooooooove my brother. They think he's "such a cool guy." The vast majority of them are not interested in dating him (nor he, them), but they do find him charming.
Finally, there are people who only flirt with the opposite sex when they are specifically interested in that person. It's a way of showing their interest and hoping that the other person returns it.
In regard to the third group, there are actually sociological studies of flirting and what it involves--lots of eye contact, body language (feet turned toward each other), conversational banter, some non-sexual touch on the part of the woman toward the man (removing lint, laughing and touching his arm, etc.), a returned non-sexual touch from the man (moving a fallen piece of hair out of the way, touching her shoulder, etc).
Flirting is very risky for guys.
Its ok for women to flirt though. For example a woman can say, "My what strong hands you have. I never would have been able to lift that myself." And the guy would just be like, "Thanks"
..but if I guy says something like, "My what beautiful eyes you have. I bet you can spot a whale from half a mile away." The girl might be like, "Get away from me creep!"
Its ok for women to flirt though. For example a woman can say, "My what strong hands you have. I never would have been able to lift that myself." And the guy would just be like, "Thanks"
..but if I guy says something like, "My what beautiful eyes you have. I bet you can spot a whale from half a mile away." The girl might be like, "Get away from me creep!"
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Flirting is very risky for guys.
Its ok for women to flirt though. For example a woman can say, "My what strong hands you have. I never would have been able to lift that myself." And the guy would just be like, "Thanks"
..but if I guy says something like, "My what beautiful eyes you have. I bet you can spot a whale from half a mile away." The girl might be like, "Get away from me creep!"
Its ok for women to flirt though. For example a woman can say, "My what strong hands you have. I never would have been able to lift that myself." And the guy would just be like, "Thanks"
..but if I guy says something like, "My what beautiful eyes you have. I bet you can spot a whale from half a mile away." The girl might be like, "Get away from me creep!"
Someone doing that is not really a nice girl, so who cares anyway? My brother once complimented a girl in school. She said: are you flirting with me?
No he just thought her pants looked nice, serious.
Later she asked him for fire for a cigarette and he said: are you trying to flirt with me?
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Maybe you don't pick up flirt signs.
Advice from a Dutch guy on flirting, lol (I dated 2 Dutch guys in my life when I was older and I could do the work. When I was young and not bad looking Dutch guys never showed any interest in me, because I was shy and apparently they expect the woman to do it, I married an Indian guy who was the only one who asked me out):
Regarding the flirting: I've gotten this before when I dated an American girl. Apparently we dutch guys are more distant en less forward initially. The thing is: we don't mind being forward, just when we know you're into us. I almost didn't pick up on any of her (very, very) subtle flirtations initially. She told me American girls are less obvious about it if they like a guy than Dutch girls are. So flirt just a tad more, and he might just start flirting back.
Advice from a Dutch guy on flirting, lol (I dated 2 Dutch guys in my life when I was older and I could do the work. When I was young and not bad looking Dutch guys never showed any interest in me, because I was shy and apparently they expect the woman to do it, I married an Indian guy who was the only one who asked me out):
Regarding the flirting: I've gotten this before when I dated an American girl. Apparently we dutch guys are more distant en less forward initially. The thing is: we don't mind being forward, just when we know you're into us. I almost didn't pick up on any of her (very, very) subtle flirtations initially. She told me American girls are less obvious about it if they like a guy than Dutch girls are. So flirt just a tad more, and he might just start flirting back.
(Asifinpassing would be proud......)
flirt
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verb
gerund or present participle: flirting
flirt
flərt/
verb
gerund or present participle: flirting
- 1.
behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.
"it amused him to flirt with her"
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Now, with this being the definition.....i'm not sure that is how I would have defined flirting. I don't think it is just for the 'amusement' of the person delivering the flirting. It can definitely be done with the intent of getting the attention of another to show geniune interest to hopefully continue into something meaningful.
I don't think its as simple as stating that men and women view flirting differently...I think its safe to say that any given person can view the situation of flirting any given way. What may fall into the 'webster' definition for one person (just for amusement), may acctually be tugging at the heartstrings of the person wanting the flirting...but there was no intent for more from the person initiating the flirting/banter to begin with.
As it was stated in an earlier post, if there is a true interest, it is best to be upfront for there to be proper growth. That way there is no risk of 'games' being played and noone gets hurt.
Now, from my mindset this is where it can get a bit tricky.....because I do believe its for the man to pursue the woman for the most part....so if your unsure if she is sending you signals at all (ie:flirting) that she is interested it can be tough. So at this point, I guess it would be best to lead conversations into a bit of a deeper level with certain questions etc to see where it leads to see if you get bigger clues from her if there is a real interest.
It is always a risk to lay ones heart out there and have the possibility of not having the interest returned. (rejection) But I think that if you are taking the time to have conversations go past flirting, and into things that are more meaningful to get past the surface with them, and you are being prayerful in your actions and words, then you will know more on what their interactions mean with you.
(Hopefully this all made sense)
