If you did a sample of actual churches that allow it in their bylaws, the numbers traditionally have been low so it isn't just my church as you would have it appear.
Jude 1:3 ¶ Beloved, when I gave all diligence to write unto you of the common salvation, it was needful for me to write unto you, and exhort you that ye should earnestly contend for the faith which was once delivered unto the saints.
Tell me now, in light of Jude 1:3, when in the last 1900 years excluding this messed up century was women pastors or elders the faith that was once delivered? It wasn't.
Well since I'm a woman copy paster:
Although most churches no longer officially recognize “Apostles,” “Prophets” and “Evangelists,” they are still given to the Church today in its “gifted” theologians, apologists, evangelists, missionaries and church planters, Bible teachers, etc. (Schaff, Vol. I, p. 489).
Among the offices of the Early Church was that of “widow” or “woman elder.” Several things need to be spelled out about this office.
First, this office or position is described in I Timothy 5:9–13 in terms of the congregation electing qualified widows to a position of honor and ministry. These special widows were “put on the roll” or elected to a position and were later ordained to it by the laying on of hands (Alford,*The Greek Testament, III, p. 347).
The requirements for joining this order of special widows were of a spiritual nature and paralleled those for male elders (1 Tim. 3:1–7). That Paul is not speaking of widows in general but a special group within such a class can hardly be doubted because the church never demanded such spiritual qualifications from the merely poor and destitute before giving them aid.
Ellicott comments:
“The instructions in this passage are so definite, so precise, that it is impossible not to assume in the days of Timothy and of Paul, in some, if not in all the great churches, the existence of an official band of workers, consisting of widows, most carefully selected from the congregation …(they) were a distinct order.”*Ellicott’s Commentary, Vol. VII
