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Ya'know, sometimes, just sometimes, it's good to have a troll around. It can be a learning experience watching "upright", "upstanding", popular site members jump in & make a jack*** outta themselves. For when they judge the trolls on how bad & rotten to the core they are, they themselves don't realize they're showing their true colors. "He that judgest does the same things" comes to mind. And somehow, they seem to believe it's alright to treat a jerk like a jerk 'cuz he is one. The Bible has a problem with that.....

Matthew 5:43-45 (KJV)
[SUP]43 [/SUP]Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. [SUP]44 [/SUP]But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; [SUP]45 [/SUP]That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.


[HR][/HR]Luke 6:35 (KJV)
[SUP]35 [/SUP]But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.



Nowhere, in all that rambling, did I see anything that was related to the topic of discussion nor anything that made the slightest bit of sense in the context of this discussion. Did you honestly waste your time typing that drivel out to make no point at all? Thank you for demonstrating you character though. I'll be sure to avoid you like herpes. There are a LOT of you on that list, and no surprise you are all men above the age of 50. Curious, that.
 
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Nowhere, in all that rambling, did I see anything that was related to the topic of discussion nor anything that made the slightest bit of sense in the context of this discussion. Did you honestly waste your time typing that drivel out to make no point at all? Thank you for demonstrating you character though. I'll be sure to avoid you like herpes. There are a LOT of you on that list, and no surprise you are all men above the age of 50. Curious, that.
Let God judge between me & you..... you WILL reap what you sow.
 
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Let God judge between me & you..... you WILL reap what you sow.

Okay. Any other pearls of wisdom you'd like to impart? You do know where the BDF is, don't you? Your attitude fits much better over there with the rest of the vipers.
 

seoulsearch

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Maybe we should stop the witch hunt on trolls.
Catherder isn't witch hunting.

Several of us have been here a long time, and the posts he is referring to are very typical to those of use who are familiar with seeing them before.

We've seen them several times in waves over the years we've been here, and it's always the same kinds of accusations, as well as several personal attacks against Aimee that were unwarranted. We don't want to see that happen again, and are trying to nip it in the bud. I've seen people tear the hee haw out of Aimee just for sharing her background (without even listening to what she had to say), and that's why I'm protective of her. I should have stood up for her then but I didn't, so I'm not going to make the same mistake again this time, too.

I understand that people are going to complain that it's a big clique here but please understand, when you've been on CC 6 or 7 years, you come to realize a few things:

1. The mods know what they're doing, and they're doing what they can. If they intervene, it's for a reason. When I first came to CC I was a bit of a troll myself, but over time, I learned I had good reason to trust the mods, and I hold to that.

2. You come to recognize a lot of patterns in people's postings, and many users come back under different names. Sometimes it's by their choice and they're usually honest about who they used to be; sometimes they're banned and are working around the rules of their banning.

3. Some people come and go, and they can be gone for a long time, but who they are remains true. Sometimes it's for the good, and sometimes... it's for the trolling. When a person is gone or doesn't make an appearance for a long time, the new generation of CC'ers will, of course, see them as a new person and treat their posts as such.

But the people who are already familiar with their posts know the history behind it, and that's why you see some people responding the way they do. They already know what the person is about and whether they're here to voice a sincere testimony or are here to tear someone else apart.

4. There may be inside things going on you haven't heard of, but that's normal and you'll probably hear about it if you spend a lot of time here. It's not about exclusion, it's just the fact that the threads can obviously move very quickly and it's easy to miss something, especially if you have a life outside of CC, such as going to work.

Shoot, you know the "contest" where people are trying to get "landmark" posts? (Like the 50,000th post in Streams?) I never even heard of that game until a few months ago when someone explained it.

For me, it wasn't a matter of, "Everyone here knows about all these inside games and rules I don't know about," but rather, "Wow. That sounds fun... How do I get in on this?" And even if I try, and don't quite fit in, I just keep trying.

Sometimes I don't fit in with the current CC crowds either. But it's a lot like surfing--sometimes there are waves you can grab onto and soar through, and others... Well, sometimes you have to just let them go and crash with the tide... and keep watching for that next great wave.
 
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Catherder isn't witch hunting.

Several of us have been here a long time, and the posts he is referring to are very typical to those of use who are familiar with seeing them before.

We've seen them several times in waves over the years we've been here, and it's always the same kinds of accusations, as well as several personal attacks against Aimee that were unwarranted. We don't want to see that happen again, and are trying to nip it in the bud. I've seen people tear the hee haw out of Aimee just for sharing her background (without even listening to what she had to say), and that's why I'm protective of her. I should have stood up for her then but I didn't, so I'm not going to make the same mistake again this time, too.

I understand that people are going to complain that it's a big clique here but please understand, when you've been on CC 6 or 7 years, you come to realize a few things:

1. The mods know what they're doing, and they're doing what they can. If they intervene, it's for a reason. When I first came to CC I was a bit of a troll myself, but over time, I learned I had good reason to trust the mods, and I hold to that.

2. You come to recognize a lot of patterns in people's postings, and many users come back under different names. Sometimes it's by their choice and they're usually honest about who they used to be; sometimes they're banned and are working around the rules of their banning.

3. Some people come and go, and they can be gone for a long time, but who they are remains true. Sometimes it's for the good, and sometimes... it's for the trolling. When a person is gone or doesn't make an appearance for a long time, the new generation of CC'ers will, of course, see them as a new person and treat their posts as such.

But the people who are already familiar with their posts know the history behind it, and that's why you see some people responding the way they do. They already know what the person is about and whether they're here to voice a sincere testimony or are here to tear someone else apart.

4. There may be inside things going on you haven't heard of, but that's normal and you'll probably hear about it if you spend a lot of time here. It's not about exclusion, it's just the fact that the threads can obviously move very quickly and it's easy to miss something, especially if you have a life outside of CC, such as going to work.

Shoot, you know the "contest" where people are trying to get "landmark" posts? (Like the 50,000th post in Streams?) I never even heard of that game until a few months ago when someone explained it.

For me, it wasn't a matter of, "Everyone here knows about all these inside games and rules I don't know about," but rather, "Wow. That sounds fun... How do I get in on this?" And even if I try, and don't quite fit in, I just keep trying.

Sometimes I don't fit in with the current CC crowds either. But it's a lot like surfing--sometimes there are waves you can grab onto and soar through, and others... Well, sometimes you have to just let them go and crash with the tide... and keep watching for that next great wave.
Oh okay but now I have no idea who he is warning about and I first thought Aimee was a troll.
I accused a mod on another forum on being an atheist troll since I read that accusation somewhere and because he was such a hateful biggot, I thought this can't be true. He must be pretending to be a christian to ban us. Lol maybe it was a christian.
 

seoulsearch

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Oh okay but now I have no idea who he is warning about and I first thought Aimee was a troll.
I accused a mod on another forum on being an atheist troll since I read that accusation somewhere and because he was such a hateful biggot, I thought this can't be true. He must be pretending to be a christian to ban us. Lol maybe it was a christian.
I'll try to put it as plainly as I can while still trying to retain some manners.

There is a member here who has "magically" appeared in this thread out of nowhere (this person doesn't appear here often anymore) who has a long history (several years) of following Aimee around in whatever thread she decides to post in and always tries to shred her to pieces in front of everyone else. The only motivation this user seems to have is a long-held personal vendetta against Aimee and anyone who had anything to do with the otherworldly supernatural realm.

The posts will start out as thinly veiled "righteous"-sounding answers, but always end in a personal attack against Aimee in particular.

Those of us who've seen this circus before (and several times over) are trying to prevent the tent from even being set up.
 
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Okay, I grew up in a different world to most Christians as i did not grow up a Christian. But why is everyone saying it is demonic? Is it not just nerves, I often get nervous around certain people and it is natural. Am i in over my head with this whole Christian thing and what i believe? Or are just some people more devout then others and believe that people can actually be possessed by demons? It weirdly makes me feel like an episode of Supernatural or something..


Please don't hate me, I grew up differently haha
 
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Hi,

A very interesting set of posts arguments and running others down , and yet most have never met the others on this site / forum , what is happening is true to form just how the world or many people carry on , I would have to say I have read very little of the backdrop of how this place ticks over and many coming in and have a lot to say, different backgrounds a different life and how you,s have been brought up , so theres a lot of difference,s,,

and I get the impression of you are not here to give good sound advise or help when needed , that to me is rather sad, because it really shows you up for where you stand and what your about ,

To the wise be wise to the fool you have shown you are a fool , to those of us who have gifts of The Most High we will be used as is needed ,

And when the Most High sends The Spirit to work through those who are ready they will know ,
And when The Spirit speaks through those who are alive in The spirit those words have meaning that man does not know of ,

Awake oh man from out of your dream you are sleeping in a world of confusion and your words are nothing and are sounds that the solder can not understand , the language is in vain ,

Oh man will you hear ....NO.... your mind is shut down .....

...noeleena...
 

Demi777

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Okay, I grew up in a different world to most Christians as i did not grow up a Christian. But why is everyone saying it is demonic? Is it not just nerves, I often get nervous around certain people and it is natural. Am i in over my head with this whole Christian thing and what i believe? Or are just some people more devout then others and believe that people can actually be possessed by demons? It weirdly makes me feel like an episode of Supernatural or something..


Please don't hate me, I grew up differently haha
How about studying what the word says ? Besides I dont see many saying that its all demonic, it may have a cause but it can come from another source ? Besides theres a difference between possession and demonisation. And and and. People that dont believe in demons are no christians theyre fools. The teaching of the enemy starts in genesis and goes all the way through revelation
 
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coby2

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Okay, I grew up in a different world to most Christians as i did not grow up a Christian. But why is everyone saying it is demonic? Is it not just nerves, I often get nervous around certain people and it is natural. Am i in over my head with this whole Christian thing and what i believe? Or are just some people more devout then others and believe that people can actually be possessed by demons? It weirdly makes me feel like an episode of Supernatural or something..


Please don't hate me, I grew up differently haha
It's Supernatural... with Sid Roth
Yeah it's not the first thing I'd think about either, actually something I would never think about if I felt uncomfortable around someone. And if it was witchcraft they'd have to feel uncomfortable around me.
 
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I can hardly believe this thread is still going. It should have been drug out back and shot after the first 24 hours.

I do appreciate that it has gone on so long though because it's been a learning experience for me. I've learned that there is very little help to be gotten here. Judgment, yes, in spades. Truly helpful advice, not so much.

I have to go to this woman's department again today, but after this initial experience, I'm just going to keep my big mouth shut. Maybe I'll stick around to get some help with prayers as I navigate my alcoholism, but as far as asking for help with spiritual manners, too much of the membership of this website has demonstrated very clearly they aren't interested in anything more than petty human drama, and you can have all of that crap you want. I deal with it enough at work.
 

Demi777

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I can hardly believe this thread is still going. It should have been drug out back and shot after the first 24 hours.

I do appreciate that it has gone on so long though because it's been a learning experience for me. I've learned that there is very little help to be gotten here. Judgment, yes, in spades. Truly helpful advice, not so much.

I have to go to this woman's department again today, but after this initial experience, I'm just going to keep my big mouth shut. Maybe I'll stick around to get some help with prayers as I navigate my alcoholism, but as far as asking for help with spiritual manners, too much of the membership of this website has demonstrated very clearly they aren't interested in anything more than petty human drama, and you can have all of that crap you want. I deal with it enough at work.
Well In case you have prayer requests feel free tosend me a message (unless you think i am negative aswell) god bless ya
 

seoulsearch

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I hope things go well for you, Grumpy.

I wish I had some kind of helpful advice to offer on the matter, but I'm afraid I don't.

I can relate to your feeling in the original post because I used to have a male supervisor I had similar feelings about as well, and to this day, I'm not sure why or what was behind it. I was fine if other people were around, but I did not like talking to him alone. It wasn't really that I didn't trust him, I think it's because he responded to absolutely everything with biting, sarcastic comments. In a group, his sarcasm was dispersed among us, but individually I was always afraid I wouldn't be able to defend myself against him.

I went to ask him a question once about what the response was on some paperwork I had sent in, and he responded with, "He said your mother was great last night." To be honest, I was too angry and stunned to think of anything else to say.

I once had to go to this guy's office for a performance review and I was gripping the chair so hard that he even told me, "Just calm down and relax," but I was ready to run at a moment's notice. Oddly enough, we got along well, I just always felt like I was on the defensive with him.

I will definitely pray for your situation tonight at work. We hope you'll stick around and share more of what's going on in your life with us.
 
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I can hardly believe this thread is still going. It should have been drug out back and shot after the first 24 hours.

I do appreciate that it has gone on so long though because it's been a learning experience for me. I've learned that there is very little help to be gotten here. Judgment, yes, in spades. Truly helpful advice, not so much.

I have to go to this woman's department again today, but after this initial experience, I'm just going to keep my big mouth shut. Maybe I'll stick around to get some help with prayers as I navigate my alcoholism, but as far as asking for help with spiritual manners, too much of the membership of this website has demonstrated very clearly they aren't interested in anything more than petty human drama, and you can have all of that crap you want. I deal with it enough at work.
Once you release a thread out into the wild, you can't control where it will go, and at a certain point it becomes not-about-you anymore. Feel free to emotionally disown this thread and just let it continue on it's own path. The conversations has drifted well past the original post.

Also, as with any public forum, you have to sift through responses and keep what's worth keeping, and disregard the things that aren't helpful to you. There's an art to it that comes with time and way too much experience. :p