Forbidden Love.

[ISAACLovesGod]

I have a feeling i have crush on a muslim girl. She is indonesian. So I looked up one forum that talks about christianmuslim relationship and some on the counselor said that if u get married would u like your children to be muslims? Would u convert? Would u like it whehn they have fasting season and they get grouchy sometimes? So uh.. yea I tot about it and um I really have a lot to talk about.

 

[JosephsDreams]

If you have only a crush, and nothing more, just forget it. Walk away. Now.
If you have a idea you might want to marry her one day, best to ask her straight out, from the beginning if she would convert if a Christian man wanted to marry her, and her him.
Otherwise, you going down a path of heartache and maybe even spiritual adultery,.

 

[ISAACLovesGod]

But what if there is fear of rejection involved and its all just a feeling but u know u will never find a girl like her. And the fact thats she is muslim makes it even harder to process. And* also... I know theres a lot of problems... and also we have fights sometimes, I get hurt easily or get jealous easily and she doesnt care at all. Its like I dont want her to know im forcing, but I want her to know christ but she is muslim, so its really hard to like swallow. And* I have my major exam in like 3 weeks

 

[ISAACLovesGod]

And** she is that type which has like emotional problems like she can become really mad* and be really happy she just says f off to ur face and then pretend it never happens. And when u say it to her she thinks u cant take it and ur weak and small, and that she will never extend a relationship with someone like that. And the fact that she says that when her mom sees the cross her mom would scold.

 

[ISAACLovesGod]

God pls help me overcome this problem.

 

[coby2]

Ask God to turn it into His love, stay away from her and simply pray she gets saved. That's real love.

 

[kaylagrl]

God pls help me overcome this problem.

Walk away,now. God is not leading you to this relationship. Sorry, no doubt you wont accept that advice,you don't want to hear it. You're too far apart,you're on didn't paths. Marriage to someone with anger issues is hell,I have it in my family and I know. Walk away. The right person is still out there. Ask God to direct you.

 

[sharkwhales]

if God means for you to be together, maybe he will give you an opportunity to witness to her before you get involved.

if not, it's probably not worth the heartache.

 

[Demi777]

And I can tell you dear do not change your lifestyle because of her. Not your God or way because God should always be the no 1 and God is a jealous God.

 

[notuptome]

The bible says not to be unequally yoked together. Unless you and she are going to have the same religious beliefs you will not achieve the happiness you seek.

Will you walk away from Christ to lust for a woman?

For the cause of Christ
Roger

 

[resurrection33]

I have a feeling i have crush on a muslim girl. She is indonesian. So I looked up one forum that talks about christianmuslim relationship and some on the counselor said that if u get married would u like your children to be muslims? Would u convert? Would u like it whehn they have fasting season and they get grouchy sometimes? So uh.. yea I tot about it and um I really have a lot to talk about.

It’s worth considering the long-term effects of the decisions that you make. You might like someone a lot, but marrying that person could lead to misery. You should think it through.

 

[Pilkington]

You need to walk away from this. The deeper things get the more problems it will cause you. Are you prepared to ship wreck your faith for the sack of this girl. What profit a man if he gains the whole world but loses his sole. This is not God's best for you. Currently focus on your exams.

Have you talked with her about marriage? Are you aware if she is a practising Muslim she isn't allowed to marry a Christian in fact she is only allowed to marry another Muslim. However Muslim men are allowed in their faith to marry Christians or Jews. I don't very much even if she was prepared to marry you her family would allow her too.

Please walk away before it is too late.

 

[blue_ladybug]

So she's a muslim AND has emotional problems AND spews the F word AND doesn't care? Anybody else see red flags waving here??

 

[MrsRobinson]

So she's a muslim AND has emotional problems AND spews the F word AND doesn't care? Anybody else see red flags waving here??

Thanks for putting that all into one concise thought blue-ladybug. I was thinking just that but didn't know how to tactfully word it. I see many red flags and they are big!!!

 

[blue_ladybug]

Thanks for putting that all into one concise thought blue-ladybug. I was thinking just that but didn't know how to tactfully word it. I see many red flags and they are big!!!

I call it as I see it..lol.. And what I see here is a massive train wreck in progress.

 

[Angela53510]

I think the OP is right when he states this relationship is a "crush." It is infatuation, and has nothing to do with the Biblical concept of love, especially in marriage.

First, you cannot fix anyone but yourself. If she is emotionally disturbed, has a temper, etc, all the "love" in the world isn't going to change her. In fact, without Christ she is likely to get worse and worse.

You cannot love this woman, because you do know really know or understand her. If she converts, she will lose her family and friends. Not that it would be a terrible thing, but you know the consequences of that already.

If you convert to Islam for her, there is no firm commitment that she will marry you, or that the marriage will work out. Then there is the most important fact - if you walk away from Christ, you are going to hell. If you ever were truly saved in the first place.

My conclusion is spend the next three weeks studying for your test. Put her out of your mind. When the exam is done, see if she understands who Jesus really is, and if she wants to give her life to Christ. If not, you have your answer. Move on, and leave this person behind, forever.

 

[Demi777]

Be glad friend, crushes pass while God doesnt. best is to stay away from her, that will let it pass quicker. I hope you will do the right thing. I can truly say that everytime this has been happening to me I put extra focus on God and let him guide me if something is true , Resisting made my bonds with God stronger and he blessed me strongly. I can bet he will do the same with you

 

[Depleted]

But what if there is fear of rejection involved and its all just a feeling but u know u will never find a girl like her. And the fact thats she is muslim makes it even harder to process. And* also... I know theres a lot of problems... and also we have fights sometimes, I get hurt easily or get jealous easily and she doesnt care at all. Its like I dont want her to know im forcing, but I want her to know christ but she is muslim, so its really hard to like swallow. And* I have my major exam in like 3 weeks

1. There is always a fear of rejection. So what?
2. You will never find another girl like her because every single one of us is an individual. So what?
3. How are you at fighting stage if you only have a crush? Fights don't start coming until after crush stage.
4. Her being Muslim isn't hard to process. She IS Muslim. There's the problem.
5. If you get hurt and jealous easily, this isn't a good relationship anyway. Walk.
6. You aren't forcing. You can't force. She is who she is, and you cannot change her. She is Muslim. There's the problem again. Walk.
7. If you're already to fight stage but you haven't told her about Christ, all you've done is properly hid who you are to her, which says it's a bad relationship, so walk.
8. You have exams in three weeks. Walk. Then study for exams. The walk part should be accomplished by midnight, unless it's 11 PM when you read this. (Just not good to call someone at 11 PM ever.)

So, yeah. Really. WALK! WALK away. This is so not the relationship for you, and it's only partly because she's Muslim. If this is you in a relationship, I recommend maturing some more before getting into the next one.

 

[Depleted]

So she's a muslim AND has emotional problems AND spews the F word AND doesn't care? Anybody else see red flags waving here??

I saw problems before I got to that part. And not on her part.

 

[Depleted]

Thanks for putting that all into one concise thought blue-ladybug. I was thinking just that but didn't know how to tactfully word it. I see many red flags and they are big!!!

There's that tactfully thingy again.