The "nice guy" or "nice girl" routine
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If they're actually "playing" a "routine", then that's totally a problem. If they're pretending to be someone they're not in order to sway people's opinions of themselves or be manipulative, then of course that's not a good thing, but their true motives do have a way of coming through with time. Asking God for discernment about someone or something is always a great idea, IMO.
But people who are legitimately nice, kind, and polite? I don't see that as a negative thing at all. Sometimes nice people are looked upon with suspicion simply because true kindness is rare these days. People tend to wonder if their kindness is just an act. But I don't think a little suspicion is a bad thing, because sometimes kindness IS just an act.
Just don't go overboard with cynicism, give people the benefit of the doubt and an opportunity to prove who they really are.
I'm not completely sure that my response was on topic with the OP. Lol
But people who are legitimately nice, kind, and polite? I don't see that as a negative thing at all. Sometimes nice people are looked upon with suspicion simply because true kindness is rare these days. People tend to wonder if their kindness is just an act. But I don't think a little suspicion is a bad thing, because sometimes kindness IS just an act.
Just don't go overboard with cynicism, give people the benefit of the doubt and an opportunity to prove who they really are.I'm not completely sure that my response was on topic with the OP. Lol
If they're actually "playing" a "routine", then that's totally a problem. If they're pretending to be someone they're not in order to sway people's opinions of themselves or be manipulative, then of course that's not a good thing, but their true motives do have a way of coming through with time. Asking God for discernment about someone or something is always a great idea, IMO.
But people who are legitimately nice, kind, and polite? I don't see that as a negative thing at all. Sometimes nice people are looked upon with suspicion simply because true kindness is rare these days. People tend to wonder if their kindness is just an act. But I don't think a little suspicion is a bad thing, because sometimes kindness IS just an act. Just don't go overboard with cynicism, give people the benefit of the doubt and an opportunity to prove who they really are.
I'm not completely sure that my response was on topic with the OP. Lol
But people who are legitimately nice, kind, and polite? I don't see that as a negative thing at all. Sometimes nice people are looked upon with suspicion simply because true kindness is rare these days. People tend to wonder if their kindness is just an act. But I don't think a little suspicion is a bad thing, because sometimes kindness IS just an act.
Just don't go overboard with cynicism, give people the benefit of the doubt and an opportunity to prove who they really are.I'm not completely sure that my response was on topic with the OP. Lol
I used to be the nice guy. Now I'm the real guy. I still hold doors for people or help an old lady if she drops her groceries or accidentally kinks her air hose in the car door or gets her scarf wrapped around the electric cart wheel at malmart. Lol. It wasn't that I'm not authentically nice. It was that I cared too much about what other people thought of me and it slowly killed my soul. So ya....avoid those kind of nice people. They don't have any self respect.
My first question would be how do you know it is a routine? Is he just really a nice guy perhaps? This is not a question that you need to give me the answer for, but it is something you need to ask yourself. Are you certain the nice-guy routine is just a routine?
If you do you have reason to believe it is just a routine, I would just follow the Bible suggestion and mark that person in your mind as somebody to avoid. Not really much else you can do about the situation.
If you do you have reason to believe it is just a routine, I would just follow the Bible suggestion and mark that person in your mind as somebody to avoid. Not really much else you can do about the situation.
i think i know what she means by "nice" person.
i have a friend. we'll name him bob. bob and i have known each other for 20+ years. a new girl joined the group. we'll call her susie. bob became interested in susie. anytime the group went out to eat, bob was always willing to pay for her meal. he was always willing to do favors for her because he liked her. he was always doing nice things for her, including sending her good morning texts and God bless you texts.
bob and i are friends, right? and yet, he never did nice things for me. lol.
i have a friend. we'll name him bob. bob and i have known each other for 20+ years. a new girl joined the group. we'll call her susie. bob became interested in susie. anytime the group went out to eat, bob was always willing to pay for her meal. he was always willing to do favors for her because he liked her. he was always doing nice things for her, including sending her good morning texts and God bless you texts.
bob and i are friends, right? and yet, he never did nice things for me. lol.
Women HATE the nice guy... its totally repulsing to them.
Women love confidence, being brash, edginess and "outcome indifference."
This is biological fact backed with social statistics.
https://youtu.be/Wyct_8OL1Zg
Women love confidence, being brash, edginess and "outcome indifference."
This is biological fact backed with social statistics.
https://youtu.be/Wyct_8OL1Zg