Tomorrow is the big day
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I know it's out of style, but how about a "talk to the hand" gesture for your friends.
And I really don't mean that literally, but talk to your friends when they start commiserating to tell them you don't need help being angry. Then give some kind of gesture they'll recognize, so the next time they start in with it you can make that gesture and they'll remember. That way you don't get help to be angrier, but don't lose your friends either. Added bonus: you don't have to keep telling them the same thing.
It really is hard not to commiserate. Empathy has a negative side too.
And I really don't mean that literally, but talk to your friends when they start commiserating to tell them you don't need help being angry. Then give some kind of gesture they'll recognize, so the next time they start in with it you can make that gesture and they'll remember. That way you don't get help to be angrier, but don't lose your friends either. Added bonus: you don't have to keep telling them the same thing.
It really is hard not to commiserate. Empathy has a negative side too.
I know it's out of style, but how about a "talk to the hand" gesture for your friends.
And I really don't mean that literally, but talk to your friends when they start commiserating to tell them you don't need help being angry. Then give some kind of gesture they'll recognize, so the next time they start in with it you can make that gesture and they'll remember. That way you don't get help to be angrier, but don't lose your friends either. Added bonus: you don't have to keep telling them the same thing.
It really is hard not to commiserate. Empathy has a negative side too.
And I really don't mean that literally, but talk to your friends when they start commiserating to tell them you don't need help being angry. Then give some kind of gesture they'll recognize, so the next time they start in with it you can make that gesture and they'll remember. That way you don't get help to be angrier, but don't lose your friends either. Added bonus: you don't have to keep telling them the same thing.
It really is hard not to commiserate. Empathy has a negative side too.
Played guitar for three services this weekend. So many people that I've never even seen before came up and said the same thing..."it was really good to see you up there". It was nice to hear for sure. Looking back on this weekend I think it was the first time I've ever not cared about impressing people or being liked or whatever. Probably the first time in my life I've ever truly felt that way. This may sound course but for the first time in my life I honestly don't care about what people think of me. I feel free of those chains.
Praise the Lord! It sounds as if you are growing. Thats so wonderful!
When we are performing for Jesus we shouldnt have any care but letting HIM lead and we really dont see anything else around us. Right? Been there done that. But I wasnt always in that "zone"
I was a lead sing for many yrs. I am a professionally trained musician. I had to learn surrender to Christ leading when performing. Beforehand and in the world, I was used to performing as the world performs; self gratuitous and for their own glory.
When we are performing for Jesus we shouldnt have any care but letting HIM lead and we really dont see anything else around us. Right? Been there done that. But I wasnt always in that "zone"
I was a lead sing for many yrs. I am a professionally trained musician. I had to learn surrender to Christ leading when performing. Beforehand and in the world, I was used to performing as the world performs; self gratuitous and for their own glory.
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Welcome to the club! And stick around, because the only time people get to decide if they like you or not is when you let them know who you are. If they don't like you? Oh well. 7.X billion people on the planet. If they do like you, then the next question comes. Do you like them? If you don't, oh well. 7.X billion people on the planet. If you do? One more friend!
Thanks T. Looking back on that experience I don't know how I survived. Words can't express how awful it was. One thing I've learned is to really guard myself. I've always been the type of person who gives the shirt off my back for others. I'm not gonna change in that regard because I don't want to be this jaded prick....but I will never sacrifice my boundaries for sick people again.
Now-a-days, there's too many people who will take the shirt off your back, and everything else. Misplaced compassion can be very detrimental to your own well being and peace of mind.
If you ever get married again, I have found that its always good to work with the person first. You learn more about what a person is made of when they have a load of work in front of them. Paint a house or something, and if the other person doesn't do their share, the marriage will be no different
If you ever get married again, I have found that its always good to work with the person first. You learn more about what a person is made of when they have a load of work in front of them. Paint a house or something, and if the other person doesn't do their share, the marriage will be no different
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Brother Sirk May God Bless you and strengthen you through this stressful situation! Be on guard when you meet this person and also do what's right for yourself and your young son! Don't let this person (your op) who lacks self-respect bully you into anything! May God give you discernment in this situation! Blessings to you!
Don't let this person (your op) who lacks self-respect bully you into anything! May God give you discernment in this situation! Blessings to you!