things that we are used to, we think is a good thing.have u learn how to listen to Gods voice in silence,have u learn how to mourn when u are full of joy,or how to find the sweetness in the bitterness,have u learned how to rejoice in sadness,i know this are not logical thing for our human reactions,but u know that the scripture says it too,because if u learn to love God way beyond your human understanding u will learn how not to question God for what he is doing,because u trust him and know that he is doing the best for u,i know that anybody can taste a candy and say is sweet,or distinguish between dark and light,but do u think it is written in vane that he is the God that call things that are not, like if they were.that is y sometimes we ask God whats going on and that is because he works as he wishes.pride before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall,this mean that before u get one thing u need to go through the other first and this for both ways this for humiliation and for honor.