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You take the words out of my mouth, only I am not able to say it that well.
If someone has been abused and not healed up they can accuse a guy like him and take the jokes he makes wrong.
I was just in church. My ex who preached said: whenever there are fights between people it's because of past hurts and they aren't healed up.
Then he said: did anyone ever hurt you?
I joked: no we don't know what you're talking about.
People need to forgive and get their heart healed up. That's possible in a church. Not on a forum where they just ban people who want to reconcile.
But that someone can say that about him just absolutely baffles me.
If someone has been abused and not healed up they can accuse a guy like him and take the jokes he makes wrong.
I was just in church. My ex who preached said: whenever there are fights between people it's because of past hurts and they aren't healed up.
Then he said: did anyone ever hurt you?
I joked: no we don't know what you're talking about.
People need to forgive and get their heart healed up. That's possible in a church. Not on a forum where they just ban people who want to reconcile.
But that someone can say that about him just absolutely baffles me.
I like to flirt...but not on a forum....because you can't see me. Lol. I saw this cute girl (probably mid 30's) on main street today...I waved and smiled....she waved and smiled back......I wouldn't have waved and smiled if I didn't notice how cute she was. That said....I need to not flirt or smile or wave at cute girls cuz they always get me in trouble. Lol
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I figure it this way -- either be willing to be hurt or be willing to be alone.
When I was young, I had no problems being alone. Now I do. I think that had everything to do with trusting two guys, who end up being trustworthy -- God and hubby. One of them has never let me down. The other one? Meh, too late. I love him too much to let that get in my way.
When I was young, I had no problems being alone. Now I do. I think that had everything to do with trusting two guys, who end up being trustworthy -- God and hubby. One of them has never let me down. The other one? Meh, too late. I love him too much to let that get in my way.
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Funny story. The first guy I met in that new church (before meeting future-hubby) was a very nice guy, but, although clearly I was supposed to be part of the Singles group, I didn't want to be the object of attention with all the guys, aka "the new girl." (Somehow new and single when young means everyone of the opposite gender wants to check you out.) So, I told him that I wasn't interested in being in the Singles to date.
That's what meant. He took that to mean I'd never date him. So, we did become good friends, and then I wondered why he didn't ask me on a date and then... well everything else that happens in a young woman's mind after changing from "I don't want to be a slab of meat" to "Wow, this guy is cool."
He introduces me to his best friend. Later on, I find out he told his friend I won't date any guys. His best friend is my hubby now. So, yeah "just friends" works sometimes. Hubby and I are still best friends. I married him to make sure my best friend wouldn't leave town without me.
That's what meant. He took that to mean I'd never date him. So, we did become good friends, and then I wondered why he didn't ask me on a date and then... well everything else that happens in a young woman's mind after changing from "I don't want to be a slab of meat" to "Wow, this guy is cool."
He introduces me to his best friend. Later on, I find out he told his friend I won't date any guys. His best friend is my hubby now. So, yeah "just friends" works sometimes. Hubby and I are still best friends. I married him to make sure my best friend wouldn't leave town without me.
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I'm sorry I wasn't here when all this erupted. I really didn't know this was back to that again. I do know one person cannot get someone banned from this site. FOUR times? Something happened. And something didn't happen. (Reconciliation.) I'm done.
I'm also done with this conversation, although I feel badly for Ruthy. I remember being in her shoes, and lo and behold? Ends up I was wrong.
I'm also done with this conversation, although I feel badly for Ruthy. I remember being in her shoes, and lo and behold? Ends up I was wrong.
I figure it this way -- either be willing to be hurt or be willing to be alone.
When I was young, I had no problems being alone. Now I do. I think that had everything to do with trusting two guys, who end up being trustworthy -- God and hubby. One of them has never let me down. The other one? Meh, too late. I love him too much to let that get in my way.
When I was young, I had no problems being alone. Now I do. I think that had everything to do with trusting two guys, who end up being trustworthy -- God and hubby. One of them has never let me down. The other one? Meh, too late. I love him too much to let that get in my way.
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This is the heart of it. I don't get that. Any chance you can explain it?
And to me, this is like 3D movies. I can't watch 3D movies without seeing that shadow thing happening on the screen that people who enjoy them don't see. I'm cockeyed, so I have no depth perception. (My BIL can't watch them because he's color blind, so there is a small percentage of people who can't watch them.) And I'm just curious what everyone else is getting out of it. I'll never get either 3D movies or flirting, but I am curious what others get out of flirting. (Apparently, with 3D movies "it's like its coming right at you." Well, okay then, but why do you want a shark to look like it's coming right at you?
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And to me, this is like 3D movies. I can't watch 3D movies without seeing that shadow thing happening on the screen that people who enjoy them don't see. I'm cockeyed, so I have no depth perception. (My BIL can't watch them because he's color blind, so there is a small percentage of people who can't watch them.) And I'm just curious what everyone else is getting out of it. I'll never get either 3D movies or flirting, but I am curious what others get out of flirting. (Apparently, with 3D movies "it's like its coming right at you." Well, okay then, but why do you want a shark to look like it's coming right at you?
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So it's sort of like elbows. As long as you don't lean them on the table during a meal, they're good. (Elbows on the table while eating is supposed to be bad manners in the US. Funny. I don't think that one is still taught and yet, I cannot put my elbows on the tables anymore just because it feels weird. lol)
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I am just old enough to have forgotten. Oh yeah! I had 2-3 cats the entire time I was "alone." (Had to give up one to marry. How's that for scary thought, but married a guy who couldn't take longhaired cats. He also hated cats in general, but the cat, who stayed, stayed for 14 more years, and hubby grieved as much as I did. And yes, he did watch me silently for 15 minutes deciding who stayed -- him or the cat. Now that's what I call "a leap of faith.")
But keep this between you and me.
I think I replaced the cat with stuffed animals, because I've been talking to them and hugging them a lot in the last 7 months. To the point of wondering if my neighbors want to know who I'm talking to.
But keep this between you and me.
I think I replaced the cat with stuffed animals, because I've been talking to them and hugging them a lot in the last 7 months. To the point of wondering if my neighbors want to know who I'm talking to.