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To me, it does not matter. I do not know how that compares to the bible. I myself, think that it is up to the woman. The reason being, I have been raised in a Midwest Conservative household, but have also been taught to respect women. I also understand, that the way the real world works, it's not the '50s anymore. In most circumstances it requires both man and woman, to support a family financially. I also think the male should be involved in raising the children either. So guys, don't be afraid to change diapers... it's not that bad... really... I spent 4-5 years on a hog farm in Western Kansas, one diaper won't hurt...
pfffffffffffft , everyone knows that a stay at home wife or mom means meet up with girlfriends for coffee and chat at 10, clothes and shoe shopping at 11, lunch while watching Dr Phil followed by days of our lives in the afternoon , and then pretend to be busy and hard working when the husband comes home from work.
a stay at home mom is a very hard working woman..indeed!!
if possibly i think a woman should stay home BUT if necessary .absoluteyl nothing wrong with a woman working outside the home...so to me i guess it depends on the situation
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if possibly i think a woman should stay home BUT if necessary .absoluteyl nothing wrong with a woman working outside the home...so to me i guess it depends on the situation
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wanna bet? For mothers, often looking after the kid is the best excuse for watching TV with the kid , or leaving em with granma or the babysitter to go shoe shopping. As a single male I cook, clean, do the dishes , shop, everything, and I still have enough time in the day to work 50 hours a week + have free time. Makes me wonder just what it is stay at home women actually do in a 12 hour day?
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I work full time. My husband does not 'work' officially. He has taken on the role of caring for his elderly unwell parents and we get a small compensation from the Gov't for doing this...but nothing that equates to a full income.
He does all the laundry,dishes,most of the shopping, vaccuming etc. I cook. I also have to travel more than an hour each day to get to work, so I don't have much time when I'm home.
He's a good guy. I am lucky!
He does all the laundry,dishes,most of the shopping, vaccuming etc. I cook. I also have to travel more than an hour each day to get to work, so I don't have much time when I'm home.
He's a good guy.
I am lucky!
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Maybe mothers do all of that stuff- with children.
Ever babysit children? It's hard to get anything done. Lets factor in that you're buying grocery for one person, cleaning up after an adult (most likely yourself, one person), do the dishes for one person (maybe a couple because you've had adult friends over), shop for one person, and go to work without having to get ready children and put them in their car seats before driving off to work.
Yeah, motherhood must be such a cakewalk.
Ever babysit children? It's hard to get anything done. Lets factor in that you're buying grocery for one person, cleaning up after an adult (most likely yourself, one person), do the dishes for one person (maybe a couple because you've had adult friends over), shop for one person, and go to work without having to get ready children and put them in their car seats before driving off to work.
Yeah, motherhood must be such a cakewalk.
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I know with my mom she needs to work to help support the family, but it adds a lot of extra stress to her life, to try and balance work and house work. I think if it's necessary then yes the woman should work. If it's not necessary then why wouldn't she want to stay home and be with her kids. That's just my two cents. I know I'm not a woman but I can see in my mom that she would much rather be at home and not have the extra stress of a workplace.
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First of all...life is not a marathon. Children need time. I know working as a teacher, children need to absorb what they learn. This is not healthy to cram life, experience, and knowledge in them as fast as you can and expect them to just do it. Life is a process and I know plenty of women who stay at home and are not lazy. Children need thorough care and guidance from their parents. To sit at home on your bum for 30 min and help your kid read everyday is amazing. Schools recommend it, and how many the parents out there actually do it? What about helping them brush their teeth, flossing...these kinds of things. Kids need constant reminders and direction. I wish I had more time for them. The people who do not have children don't know the reality of actually caring for a child 24-7. It is not easy and it is not a responsibility that should be rushed. I have often seen the difference in the children who have parents at home for them, in the classroom helping, and active in extracurricular activities with them from those who don't. I have seen the difference in single parent homes vs homes with two parents who are loving to one another. People also need to take into consideration that some children and people have special needs. Yeah you can say...oh get over it tough it out, but many of the issues will get worse or manifest in other ways.
I can imagine a day for a stay at home mom would be to cook, clean-organize, teach, bathe, play with her kids, nurse, provide comfort, spend time in nature, garden...and do things that she and the children love to do. When her husband comes home he is nurtured by her because he cares for her and the babies. He appreciates that she is loving and providing for his children. He probably feels the reward in having the ability to provide for his family. His needs are probably being met because the children and her needs are being met. I am sure that they look forward to being together.
I totally support stay at home moms. Being a single mother, I feel comforted and relaxed just being around a mom who has that security. As a teacher, I appreciate the effect it has on the child and how they are with others in the classroom who do not have that experience. What happens at home reflects onto others and is carried out through the day. Everyone can benefit from it.
I can imagine a day for a stay at home mom would be to cook, clean-organize, teach, bathe, play with her kids, nurse, provide comfort, spend time in nature, garden...and do things that she and the children love to do. When her husband comes home he is nurtured by her because he cares for her and the babies. He appreciates that she is loving and providing for his children. He probably feels the reward in having the ability to provide for his family. His needs are probably being met because the children and her needs are being met. I am sure that they look forward to being together.
I totally support stay at home moms. Being a single mother, I feel comforted and relaxed just being around a mom who has that security. As a teacher, I appreciate the effect it has on the child and how they are with others in the classroom who do not have that experience. What happens at home reflects onto others and is carried out through the day. Everyone can benefit from it.
Theres a big difference from doing that for yourself than doing it for a family! some women may just laze about, you can't tar everyone with the same brush.
Im single now and do that, I work 4 days on 4 days off, 12 hour shifts also. yet I will still say that it is just as hard raising a family, lookiking after a house and all that goes with it.
I can see your point if the woman has no kids, I cant see then why they shouldnt get a job, its up to them and their husabands and thats their own private business.
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If you break it down into the what the time is actually spent doing then it doesn't sound very impressive....but staying at home raising kids is more about the mental and emotional effort than it is about physical jobs done.
My mother often had part time jobs to suppliment my fathers income but they were evening jobs when dad was home and so everyday was an 18 hour day and she never stopped.....that may not be a representation of the average family but some stay at home moms live this kind of life.
But what was most difficult was the need for peripheral vision, being aware of where we were and what we were doing, it's generally easy for a grown adult to care for themselves but so few people make the effort to do it that when someone does it seems impressive.....but it's not.....it doesn't compare to what a dedicated stay at home mom does each day.
You may shop, cook, clean and take care of yourself but imagine that workload for 3 or 4 people instead of just 1, and then add onto that the mental stress of keeping 3 or 4 schedules not just 1 etc....comparing the single life to a stay at home mom with even just 1 child......is pretty ridiculous.
My mother often had part time jobs to suppliment my fathers income but they were evening jobs when dad was home and so everyday was an 18 hour day and she never stopped.....that may not be a representation of the average family but some stay at home moms live this kind of life.
But what was most difficult was the need for peripheral vision, being aware of where we were and what we were doing, it's generally easy for a grown adult to care for themselves but so few people make the effort to do it that when someone does it seems impressive.....but it's not.....it doesn't compare to what a dedicated stay at home mom does each day.
You may shop, cook, clean and take care of yourself but imagine that workload for 3 or 4 people instead of just 1, and then add onto that the mental stress of keeping 3 or 4 schedules not just 1 etc....comparing the single life to a stay at home mom with even just 1 child......is pretty ridiculous.
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This is so funny....I don't see the phrase, "and look after a child" in the middle there that you do Mahogany. Have one for a week, then get back to us on how utterly exhausting, mindblowing, mindnumbing, it is to look after a child.
Oh and clean up after them, when they spill stuff, wet their pants, throw toys everywhere, scream the house down, and when you are on the phone making an important call for an appointment, lets say, see how much quiet you get to do that. Cleaning a house and cooking and shopping is a breeze...its looking after the children, feeding them, getting them dressed, getting them to sleep, take a bath, go to the toilet, that is all so time consuming!
Cheers. Btw, I know all this, having raised one all on my own for the past 15yrs, and I work in childcare.
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