my step mom hates me

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Fenner

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Yeah, it's happened a couple times.
Other times which is what happens more often than not reports just fall through
It's a messed up system. I've been reading about children's services in Florida, it's really bad there.
 

Fenner

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I have a feeling someday you'll be an advocate for Children Natania. I think God will use you to save a lot of kid's.
 
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You want to know why you don't/ can't cope with all this crap that stepmom puts on you? Because you're trying to do it all by yourself. Have you tried asking God to take over on this? If not, I suggest you do. He may not work it out the way you hope, but He WILL work it out. Even if that means that your siblings get put into foster homes with people who are more capable of taking care of them than your stepmom is. All this responsibility is destroying you, that is obvious by how you self-harm and cry yourself to sleep every night. This whole situation is a pressure cooker getting ready to explode.
I don't self harm anymore.
Yes...I know....
It's just so hard trusting....
And I just.... I have this plan and when His isn't like mine but the opposite of what I think is the best I just have trouble trusting
 
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I have a feeling someday you'll be an advocate for Children Natania. I think God will use you to save a lot of kid's.
Aw thank you
 
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Ariel82

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Social services have interviewed us.
But, sometimes reports that are made simply don't fit the level of need to come out and it's not investigated, other times they interview us and nothing happens I don't know why. Maybe they didn't find anything good enough? I have no idea
It takes alot and often really slow, but we will continue to pray that God places this situation in the right hands and helps somehow.

Not having enough time, money, sleep and love is stressful.

Try to take a few hours to just rest and pray and do something you enjoy if you can.
 

blue_ladybug

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I don't self harm anymore.
Yes...I know....
It's just so hard trusting....
And I just.... I have this plan and when His isn't like mine but the opposite of what I think is the best I just have trouble trusting
Natania, many times our plans are not HIS plans. :) There is nothing you can do but give up your plan, and let God take over this situation. Stop hindering him. We are stupid humans, and we don't have the foresight that God does, to know what will happen in our futures. This situation may not work out the way YOU want it to, but it will most definitely work out how GOD wants it to, even if you don't like how it turns out.
 
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It takes alot and often really slow, but we will continue to pray that God places this situation in the right hands and helps somehow.

Not having enough time, money, sleep and love is stressful.

Try to take a few hours to just rest and pray and do something you enjoy if you can.
I will try. I don't have any lessons today until 6:30 so I'm probably gonna just take a walk for a couple hours
 
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Natania, many times our plans are not HIS plans. :) There is nothing you can do but give up your plan, and let God take over this situation. Stop hindering him. We are stupid humans, and we don't have the foresight that God does, to know what will happen in our futures. This situation may not work out the way YOU want it to, but it will most definitely work out how GOD wants it to, even if you don't like how it turns out.
And the thing is,
I know that. I remind myself of that constantly. I truly do know that...
But I doubt....
 
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That is why I tell people,
That even those who look like they have it together don't.
Because I don't.
I've had many tell me they are amazed by how strong I am in my faith and they wish they could be like me but the thing is,
I doubt just like them
I wander away from the truth just like them
I have trouble trusting just like them.
 

blue_ladybug

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And the thing is,
I know that. I remind myself of that constantly. I truly do know that...
But I doubt....
OK, I'm gonna be a little harsh here. If you're doubting that God can work out this situation for the best for all involved, then you must not trust him very much. You HAVE TO trust him, Natania. Without any shadow of a doubt. Can you do that? :)
 

blue_ladybug

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That is why I tell people,
That even those who look like they have it together don't.
Because I don't.
I've had many tell me they are amazed by how strong I am in my faith and they wish they could be like me but the thing is,
I doubt just like them
I wander away from the truth just like them
I have trouble trusting just like them.

Unfortunately, in this situation, you have no one else to help you EXCEPT for God. You've got to trust Him, sweetie.
 

jsr1221

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You'd think they don't, actually. I live in Florida and can attest personally with a nephew and a friend and his wife that have (at least I still think they do) two foster children. Basically, they will only do something if they see physical proof. They don't care about an emotional aspect. They just need to see you bleeding profusely or drugs being used in the process of them there.
 
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OK, I'm gonna be a little harsh here. If you're doubting that God can work out this situation for the best for all involved, then you must not trust him very much. You HAVE TO trust him, Natania. Without any shadow of a doubt. Can you do that? :)
Yes.
I can
 

oyster67

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Sigh....
I just wish I didn't have to try to earn love from family
I have one little bit of good news for you; you don't. We are your family. I know that sounds cliché, but I can vouch for it on a personal level. We are so much richer for having you with us. You are an inspiration. We need you. We will pray for you. It will make a difference.

Your trials and hardships have already, at the tender young age you are, made you golden.

(Ps 91:1-7 [KJV])
He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say of the LORD, [He is] my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.
Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, [and] from the noisome pestilence.
He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth [shall be thy] shield and buckler.
Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; [nor] for the arrow [that] flieth by day;
[Nor] for the pestilence [that] walketh in darkness; [nor] for the destruction [that] wasteth at noonday.
A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; [but] it shall not come nigh thee.
 
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You'd think they don't, actually. I live in Florida and can attest personally with a nephew and a friend and his wife that have (at least I still think they do) two foster children. Basically, they will only do something if they see physical proof. They don't care about an emotional aspect. They just need to see you bleeding profusely or drugs being used in the process of them there.
Okay,
I try not to talk cap about them but I'm sorry...what you said is true....
 
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I have one little bit of good news for you; you don't. We are your family. I know that sounds cliché, but I can vouch for it on a personal level. We are so much richer for having you with us. You are an inspiration. We need you. We will pray for you. It will make a difference.

Your trials and hardships have already, at the tender young age you are, made you golden.

(Ps 91:1-7 [KJV])
He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say of the LORD, [He is] my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.
Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, [and] from the noisome pestilence.
He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth [shall be thy] shield and buckler.
Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; [nor] for the arrow [that] flieth by day;
[Nor] for the pestilence [that] walketh in darkness; [nor] for the destruction [that] wasteth at noonday.
A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; [but] it shall not come nigh thee.
Awww thank you for saying that