Should Men Qualify as Olympic Medals?

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seoulsearch

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Hey everyone,

After catching a few glimpses of the Olympic Games, and then thinking back to some of the situations I've been around, whether in school, at work, or in social settings...

Why is it that so many smart, attractive, and even Christian women seem to often be at war over a man? Why are men somehow seen as trophies that women feel they must conquer and divide the masses in order to obtain the assumed prize of a man? I just hear so many women, and like I just said, even good, Christian women, cutting each other down behind one another's backs... somehow trying to set themselves up as THE woman a certain guy should be date or marry, etc. For example, have you ever heard things like, "I don't know why he's with her... she's (insert snide comment here)."

Having been someone who has been left for another woman at various points in life, I've given up trying to "compete" or prove I have something no other woman has. I just figure, hey, this is me, if that's not enough... best wishes... I don't want to hold you up, and would appreciate it if you were honest with me as well.

Am I getting it all wrong or have you observed this too?

And maybe you guys out there feel the same way, that you constantly have to battle it out to get a woman's attention?

Will the gold, silver, and bronze medalists please show yourselves... :D

In the meantime, I'll be at the concessions stand getting a sundae with extra whipped cream (nods to Ashton over the "shaving" thread.)
 
MahogonySnail

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Which men are you talking about seolsearch the ones on Days of our Lifes? lol.
 
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Nope, you're not wrong...some women are just mean and conniving and want to persue those men who, for a lack of a better word, "belong" to someone else...there's no excuse for a woman who goes after another woman's husband or boyfriend...these type of women love competition and thrive on "taking" the guy away from their stable (or apparently, not so stable) relationship...they remind me of hungry lionesses fighting for food, like in National Geographic...they see another predator that just killed its prey, then they position themselves for the ambush, as soon as the other animal feels secure and it's about to eat its meal, the evil lioness attacks and takes what's not hers...

hmmmm...not nice!!! :mad:
 
Pheonix

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Its a psychological thing. Women instinctively desire the men who are taken because the belief is that if they already have secured a female companion then they are obviously worth the time and effort and anyone who isn't taken is not worth it. Add to that the fact that these men are usually muscle bound and you also have the whole he can protect me and provide for me thing. That's why at school you will see the Jocks surrounded by a bevy of females and that just as good looking guy who is more interested in science or technology or something else that requires a mind is left in the corner and no female wants to be within a thousand miles of him. The irony is the jock will likely end up as a beer swilling drug addict, and the other one will become a millionaire. Statistically speaking anyhow.
 
seoulsearch

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Yeah, it's not just the ones who are taken either... I've seen women fight ferociously over, say, "the new single guy" in the work environment... unfortunately, that usually means flaunting their sexuality and throwing themselves at him...

And I've seen it in at church as well--sometimes not as over, but then again!! It can become very nasty. I'm thinking of a friend of mine who married a great Christian guy at my home church... but the upcoming wedding became a huge stress factor for her because she soon found out every other single girl (including her best friend and attendants in her wedding) had turned their backs on her because she was "winning the prize."

CRAZY!!!

Do you feel there is as much competition among men for women as well?

It does't seem that way to me but it might just be because I'm a woman myself (and unfortunately, do not have men fighting over me, as much as I might enjoy the sport of winning my hand to an Olympic status. :D)
 
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seoulsearch said:
Yeah, it's not just the ones who are taken either... I've seen women fight ferociously over, say, "the new single guy" in the work environment... unfortunately, that usually means flaunting their sexuality and throwing themselves at him...

And I've seen it in at church as well--sometimes not as over, but then again!! It can become very nasty. I'm thinking of a friend of mine who married a great Christian guy at my home church... but the upcoming wedding became a huge stress factor for her because she soon found out every other single girl (including her best friend and attendants in her wedding) had turned their backs on her because she was "winning the prize."

CRAZY!!!

Do you feel there is as much competition among men for women as well?

It does't seem that way to me but it might just be because I'm a woman myself (and unfortunately, do not have men fighting over me, as much as I might enjoy the sport of winning my hand to an Olympic status. :D)
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Interesting question. I think this has to do with the population ratio. Women outnumber men, now, if it were the other way around, I think we would see a change in behavior from men.., their "survival of the genepool" instincts would re-surface.
 
Pheonix

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seoulsearch said:
Yeah, it's not just the ones who are taken either... I've seen women fight ferociously over, say, "the new single guy" in the work environment... unfortunately, that usually means flaunting their sexuality and throwing themselves at him...

And I've seen it in at church as well--sometimes not as over, but then again!! It can become very nasty. I'm thinking of a friend of mine who married a great Christian guy at my home church... but the upcoming wedding became a huge stress factor for her because she soon found out every other single girl (including her best friend and attendants in her wedding) had turned their backs on her because she was "winning the prize."

CRAZY!!!

Do you feel there is as much competition among men for women as well?

It does't seem that way to me but it might just be because I'm a woman myself (and unfortunately, do not have men fighting over me, as much as I might enjoy the sport of winning my hand to an Olympic status. :D)
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Having always been the guy in the corner and thus unwanted I really don't know if competition is the same with guys. However from what I've observed, men generally leave well enough alone. Maybe theres an unspoken brotherhood or something. The other possibility is that men are more likely to get physical if they feel their "territory" is getting threatend. Its not really worth it to get pummled over some girl, no matter how pretty she is.
 
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I've never wanted someone elses man. And I can't stand a man who is with someone else trying to flirt with me. I've also thought it really crazy of women who would fight the other woman when their man cheats on them. If the man cheats put the blame where it belongs, on the man.
 
zeroturbulence

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Guys arent as picky I think. In my experience, if two guys like the same girl, they actually encourage each other to "go for it", even if they try themselves but once the girl makes her choice, there is no hard feelings (especially if she doesnt choose either of them). The other guy basically accepts his defeat and moves on.

Did you know that the chinese symbol for war is two women under one roof? I wonder where they got that from..:cool:
 
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They got some thing extremely right with that symbol :p

Things may be different here in Australia, it also might be the type of people I tend to hang around but what I notice is females typically weigh up the status and worth of a male first (both by themselves then as a group) and then they figure out what that's worth on the market by checking for demand... if there's other girls interested and they can see those signs then the games on.

Right or wrong for each other gets thrown out the window as I've seen girls go through some pretty high extremes to convince a guy to like her, one of my friends ended up marrying a girl who was nice in every way and did more than every thing around the house and tended for his needs, the second they had a child she actually used the child to control him and actually left a total of 11 times without telling him where they were going, so it was a four year charade until she found some thing he cared the world for that she knew he couldn't ever stand to lose.

I've learned two tricks in my life, one is how to fly low on that female radar and the other just recently is how to tell she genuinely likes me, I feel adequately equipped for when the right one comes along :p

Now we play 'The waiting game' ^_^
 
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Women are like a pack of hyenas, they stalk the heard, then when they spot the weak one they all pounce on him and snap at each other for whom shall get to devour him. :p

Honestly though, in my personal experience, attention from women is either feast or famine. Most times the women don't even know each other, it's like you have a sixth sense or something.
 
Ashton

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seoulsearch said:
In the meantime, I'll be at the concessions stand getting a sundae with extra whipped cream (nods to Ashton over the "shaving" thread.)
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Can't say I've ever tried it on my legs. :D

I think it's the man's place to compete for a woman, but I'm not going to say that women don't compete for men either. I competed for my ex against something like 2-3 other men. Boy, was I proud of her, too, when I finally got her. I wouldn't say that she was my trophy, but she was my little lady (supposedly) and that was good enough for me.
 
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DinoDillinger said:
Women are like a pack of hyenas, they stalk the heard, then when they spot the weak one they all pounce on him and snap at each other for whom shall get to devour him.
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Lol. Wow... Haven't quite heard it said that way, but I would agree with you in some cases. Where I come from young and naive girls will troop around in the security of packs and try to catch a boy after which they'll fight each other for. I had one younger girl yell some suggestive comment to me when I was passing by.

I've also heard it said, "Laughter is the mating call of a woman." Personally, I like that saying since I've found it to be true. Before dating: the woman laughs at your jokes. During dating: she rolls her eyes. :D
 
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Women are at war with each other because they are taught to be chosen you can't just be good, you have to be better than her.

I blame high school politics and Hollywood, however cliche that may seem.
 
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DinoDillinger said:
Women are like a pack of hyenas, they stalk the heard, then when they spot the weak one they all pounce on him and snap at each other for whom shall get to devour him. :p

Honestly though, in my personal experience, attention from women is either feast or famine. Most times the women don't even know each other, it's like you have a sixth sense or something.
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hahaha i agree with this guy! I personally dont like women because of this issue. So much competitiveness, if a guy likes me he likes me, but if not, oh well. I dont go out of my way to chase him down. Im to lazy.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
hahaha i agree with this guy! I personally dont like women because of this issue. So much competitiveness, if a guy likes me he likes me, but if not, oh well. I dont go out of my way to chase him down. Im to lazy.
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*Sits back, fluffs her couch, and agrees with Nod*

These days, I'm lucky if I make enough effort to brush my hair... (and then I complain that I'm still single... :) ha.)
 
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