Blaming the victim seems to happen a lot. When I was about 20 years old I worked as a waitress in a retirement home. My boss was this friendly guy, he was married and had a child. In between serving times I'd do prep work in the kitchen. We'd talk mostly about baseball or tv shows. Never anything inappropriate. There were other people around too, so we weren't alone. This guy started working there that wasn't very friendly. He complained all the time and said bad things about other people. I stayed away from him as much as possible because I didn't like him. Groups of us would sometimes go out after work to a movie or dinner. I stopped going because I didn't want to involve my self with the gossip queens. He spread a rumor that my boss and I were sleeping together. I was mortified. Someone asked if it was true? Of course I said, no. I went to my boss and told him about the rumor. We went to the director of the home to tell her what was said and who started it. I wanted him fired, he caused all sorts of drama and it was bad. She said to us, we'll maybe you two shouldn't talk so much. That was it. My boss had his own meeting and without saying we knew who it was he basically said, I know who started the rumor. If I hear it again your done. It did stop, but I found another job, I couldn't stay there after that.