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QuestionTime

QuestionTime

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bobie said:
i actually am not sure about what is the thing that i did!
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There are some women out there - typically heathens - who will get offended at every little thing you either say or fail to say. I worked with such a woman and her mood swings were unbearable. I always endeavored to speak in as Christian a manner as possible, yet she was continually offended.

After a time of dealing with this I gave up trying to have peace with her. I always bent over backwards to apologize for any wrong, but I became convinced after a time that I wasn't doing anything wrong. I certainly had no problems with other women, so clearly it was just her mental state.

Anyway... Don't let this woman get to you Bobie. Maybe send her an email and express your concerns, apologize for any wrong doing on your part and then let it go. If she still acts weird you ought to wash your hands of her.

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QuestionTime said:
There are some women out there - typically heathens - who will get offended at every little thing you either say or fail to say. I worked with such a woman and her mood swings were unbearable. I always endeavored to speak in as Christian a manner as possible, yet she was continually offended.

After a time of dealing with this I gave up trying to have peace with her. I always bent over backwards to apologize for any wrong, but I became convinced after a time that I wasn't doing anything wrong. I certainly had no problems with other women, so clearly it was just her mental state.

Anyway... Don't let this woman get to you Bobie. Maybe send her an email and express your concerns, apologize for any wrong doing on your part and then let it go. If she still acts weird you ought to wash your hands of her.:)

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thank you for the advise
 
QuestionTime

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shanaynay said:
Then there is the problem.
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bobie said:
for some reason im kinda hesitant on doing that!
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I agree with Shanaynay. Is there perhaps something you know that you have done wrong, and you are not telling us? Not that you have to tell us, but it seems to me from some of your prior comments, that you have a good idea why she is mad at you.

If you know what you did wrong then apologize and if you can, fix it. If you are afraid to talk to her in person then send an email. An email is always an easy way to face someone when you are afraid to.

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QuestionTime said:
I agree with Shanaynay. Is there perhaps something you know that you have done wrong, and you are not telling us? Not that you have to tell us, but it seems to me from some of your prior comments, that you have a good idea why she is mad at you.

If you know what you did wrong then apologize and if you can, fix it. If you are afraid to talk to her in person then send an email. An email is always an easy way to face someone when you are afraid to.

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No offense, but it's also immature and cowardly. I will concede it is easier, but you should always speak to someone face to face.
 
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Grace2010 said:
No offense, but it's also immature and cowardly. I will concede it is easier, but you should always speak to someone face to face.
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I agree wholeheartedly. Still, it's better to resolve the issue in a cowardly manner than not to resolve it at all. At least if he sends an email that might be the ice-breaker which could lead to talking face to face.

It's difficult to go up to someone and apologize when you know they are going to flip out on you. If everyone forgave like Jesus did we wouldn't have issues apologizing.

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first, try to remember your last conversation together and think of something that you said or did to make her act cold and give you that look. second, if you found out that there's really is a reason for her to act that way (thats the time that you need to talk to her and maybe apologize..) but if there isn't anything you can think of.. the best way to know is to ask her ^-^
 
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bobie said:
all of a sudden start acting cold towards you? im just curious!
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Ask her. I always found the best way to answer a question about someone is to go right to the source, if accessible.

God's Speed!
 
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well she just started acting nice towards me again for some reason so maybe its either just her mood swing or she already forgave me! anyway this thing is kinda complicated and i still wanna ask her wats up with dat cold treatment that i got from her a week ago!
 
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bobie said:
well she just started acting nice towards me again for some reason so maybe its either just her mood swing or she already forgave me! anyway this thing is kinda complicated and i still wanna ask her wats up with dat cold treatment that i got from her a week ago!
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Ya, people can be flaky, I would know, he he, sometimes the best medicine is to just wait it out and see what happens. Oh ya, and try not to jump to conclusions, ya, I am guilty of that from time to time. Have to catch yourself.

You should ask her still; but, try to be civil about it.

Try this:

"Hey, you seemed upset with me a week ago; I just wanted to know if you are okay".
 
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