bummed about my daughters high school

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kim12345

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Hi friends,
My 2 older kids went to a great high school in our neighborhood but I made the decision to have my youngest go to a different high school in the neighborhood. I just had her go there because most of her girlfriends are going there. They are very nice girls from very nice families(I know the parents) however, I struggle with my decision because the school is old, worn out lookin, teachers don't seem as professional. There was a lot more high school spirit at the other school. Plus the sports she in at this old school has the worst coach I have ever seen. He would not agree to a high school team dinner for the student/athletes to get together and have a fun day. All the other high schools have sport team dinners. If you complain he will take it out on your athlete. I been praying this coach would leave but so far I don't feel God is going to answer that. So long story short I keep thinkin about switching her to other high school but she doesn't want to leave. Her dad says dont move her. She does have some Excellent sweet girlfriends there. These are nice girls that are not into drama or gossip. So I try to tell myself its ok because of that. I'm not going to move her but I just wished her high school experience was better. I just love her and want her to have a great experience, education and memories.
Prayers are welcome-thanks
 
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Think quality of experience. As you know in life, you can't just do something for what you get immediately. Those 2 things don't seem big enough. I agree with your husband. If she has quality friends and relationships I don't think I'd mess with that. Especially with girls. It's so hard for them to fit in at a new school, you might open her up to bad actors, just so she won't be alone. Girls n need relationships, I've seen stuff l like this really back fire on people. Your husband is right IMO.
 
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If she is happy there, why upset things?
 
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kim12345 said:
Hi friends,
My 2 older kids went to a great high school in our neighborhood but I made the decision to have my youngest go to a different high school in the neighborhood. I just had her go there because most of her girlfriends are going there. They are very nice girls from very nice families(I know the parents) however, I struggle with my decision because the school is old, worn out lookin, teachers don't seem as professional. There was a lot more high school spirit at the other school. Plus the sports she in at this old school has the worst coach I have ever seen. He would not agree to a high school team dinner for the student/athletes to get together and have a fun day. All the other high schools have sport team dinners. If you complain he will take it out on your athlete. I been praying this coach would leave but so far I don't feel God is going to answer that. So long story short I keep thinkin about switching her to other high school but she doesn't want to leave. Her dad says dont move her. She does have some Excellent sweet girlfriends there. These are nice girls that are not into drama or gossip. So I try to tell myself its ok because of that. I'm not going to move her but I just wished her high school experience was better. I just love her and want her to have a great experience, education and memories.
Prayers are welcome-thanks
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Leave the choice up to her and don't get angry about what she decides.
When you enter high school it's time to start making decisions that affect you. If she makes this decision she will have to live with whatever the consequences are for four years.
Responsibility starts :)
That's what I would want my guardians to do
 
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kim12345

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yes, she seem happy, although she says she doesnt like school-so to speak
I dont want to move her -I just wish it was a better school


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If she is happy there, why upset things?
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kim12345

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I asked her if she wants to switch and go to the other school and she said "no" and I said nothing

TemporaryCircumstances said:
Leave the choice up to her and don't get angry about what she decides.
When you enter high school it's time to start making decisions that affect you. If she makes this decision she will have to live with whatever the consequences are for four years.
Responsibility starts :)
That's what I would want my guardians to do
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kim12345 said:
yes, she seem happy, although she says she doesnt like school-so to speak
I dont want to move her -I just wish it was a better school
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She gets her books from school, and meets friends there. She gets her teaching from you. And sports don't really matter all that much.
 
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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Leave the choice up to her and don't get angry about what she decides.
When you enter high school it's time to start making decisions that affect you. If she makes this decision she will have to live with whatever the consequences are for four years.
Responsibility starts :)
That's what I would want my guardians to do
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That's not good advice. She's still a minor and she doesn't know what is best for herself. That's a parents job.
 
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kim12345 said:
I asked her if she wants to switch and go to the other school and she said "no" and I said nothing
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Well, then let whatever happens happen and see how it goes.
I had a choice between two high schools.
Both had downsides. And I have to live with the consequences of my choice. It hasn't turned out too bad and ultimately I'm pretty pleased with my decision.
So, prayers are sent but just play a game of wait and see for now :)
 
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lv2ski said:
That's not good advice. She's still a minor and she doesn't know what is best for herself. That's a parents job.
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My guardians gave me a choice between two schools.
I have to deal with the consequences of either choice. Many of the kids from my school made their choice of high schools.
I don't think it's a bad way to go as long as you leave out the options you as a parent absolutely aren't okay with
 
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Willie-T said:
She gets her books from school, and meets friends there. She gets her teaching from you. And sports don't really matter all that much.
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Sports don't matter that much?!?! Lol whatttt
 
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Maybe I'm being harsh and I apologize. I don't do the easy parenting thing. That's not how I was raised haha. I do the kick in the butt go grow up type lol
 
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What do you mean she gets her teaching from me. I don't home school her.
I do think sports are important. They build friendships, school spirit, they learn to work hard and get physical exercise.



Willie-T said:
She gets her books from school, and meets friends there. She gets her teaching from you. And sports don't really matter all that much.
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kim12345 said:
What do you mean she gets her teaching from me. I don't home school her.
I do think sports are important. They build friendships, school spirit, they learn to work hard and get physical exercise.
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You are her mother. You have so much impact on how she looks at everything ect.
You teach her what schools can't
 
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Ya know mom...I know what your saying about the experience of a life long memory...but if you have ment and like her friends and ment the parents too...your a blessed woman. High school brings a lot of peer pressure with it as you may know. Your battle is half won because you know and like her friends. Keep that in consideration for what could be the opposite in the other schools. Not saying your daughters a bad kid but like I said that peer pressure can be challenging.
 
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kim12345

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I agree... it's just hard. Especially knowing what other schools offer and this one is in desperate need of improvement in all ways. But I am not going to move her. It's taken me 50 years to figure out that friends and relationships are important since I dont have many. So I figure if she comes out of high school with some really Great friendships I think it will be worth it.


lv2ski said:
Think quality of experience. As you know in life, you can't just do something for what you get immediately. Those 2 things don't seem big enough. I agree with your husband. If she has quality friends and relationships I don't think I'd mess with that. Especially with girls. It's so hard for them to fit in at a new school, you might open her up to bad actors, just so she won't be alone. Girls n need relationships, I've seen stuff l like this really back fire on people. Your husband is right IMO.
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kim12345

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Yes, You are so right - To have my daughter have good friends Half the battle is won. I must keep my mind focus on that. I must be grateful for that! thank you


pottersclay said:
Ya know mom...I know what your saying about the experience of a life long memory...but if you have ment and like her friends and ment the parents too...your a blessed woman. High school brings a lot of peer pressure with it as you may know. Your battle is half won because you know and like her friends. Keep that in consideration for what could be the opposite in the other schools. Not saying your daughters a bad kid but like I said that peer pressure can be challenging.
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kim12345

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Wow all of you are so nice to take the time to chat with me about this- I already feel better!1
 
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