The "Rules" to Being Single...

[Searching4Truth]

Or being unintentionally single.

Okay. So, this thread popped into mind after thinking about my #1 rule: Never fall in love.

I was just wondering if any of you nice folk out there have any similar rules that "guide" you into oblivion... Oops. I mean "singledom."

This thread is about what you do to maintain singularity, or what you don't do, depending on who you are and where you stand in singlehood.

As for me, like my first rule implies, I try not to "fall in love." Unintentionally, I'm weird... and I'm "Christian". But not christian enough for the prospects of having a wife who believes. And too "Christian" for those who aren't. And that's the belief thing alone. I'm either too worldly or too spiritual. So, I'm caught in this weird place in between. Often or not I never meet up to the standards of those I'm interested in. That, or they are busy with their lives. Or plainly not interested. Which i can understand.

So, I take the singles route with somewhat of a heavy heart.

Rule #2: NEVER... FALL... IN... LOVE.

Rule 2 is my "just in case I break rule # 1" plan. It's a reminder to myself that that following this path only leads to heartbreak and misery. So, if I wanna experience that again, I break my 2 main rules.

Rule #3: Find God.

Number 3 is in regards to what Matthew 6:33 says. Whatever I need, God will provide.




But, yeah. These are just a few of mine. If you, denizens of CC Singles Forum have any other things to share, please "Like" and "Subcribe". And let me know what you think should be added below in the comments section!

Jk.

You know what to do.

 

[zeroturbulence]

That's more like a rule of being forever alone.

 

[Lynx]

It's really easy to stay single. Just don't go looking for a date. Worked for me for 38 years now.

How to NOT be single? Probably looking for someone would work. I wouldn't know, I haven't bothered trying it.

 

[Lynx]

Speaking of The Rules...

She's lucky. In MY dream all the people who grew up loving The Giving Tree and all the people who had weird dreams after reading Metamorphosis paired up. That one was a lot more confusing.

 

[Demi777]

hmm how about
1. Embrace it and the freedom
2. Get a cat
3. Get a good book
4. Get some good coffee,tea or cocoa
5. love it

 

[zeroturbulence]

My rules for being single...

1. Join the CC Singles forum
2. Don't be a catfish
3. Don't get yourself banned
4. Know your junk food - because we will probably talk about it
5. Be nice to zero

 

[Willie-T]

Probably the easiest way to stay single is to never develop, or realize you possess, anything worth giving to another.

 

[Fenner]

My rules for being single...

1. Join the CC Singles forum
2. Don't be a catfish
3. Don't get yourself banned
4. Know your junk food - because we will probably talk about it
5. Be nice to zero

Always be nice to Zero or Fenner will be mad.

 

[Monnkai]

I gave up looking for girlfriend. By my own efforts it's impossible (Im rather ugly) If God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend which its becoming increasingly obvious he doesn't I guess I'm fine with that. Although now that I think about it I'm rather shallow too. Hmmmm maybe its just me lol.

 

[AbigailZeke]

I wouldn't stop myself from falling in love! Heaven forbid! Falling in love is GREAT.

But I like being single right now too, so I'll just modify your rule to:

ONLY FALL IN LOVE WITH CHRIS PINE.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Always be nice to Zero or Fenner will be mad.

Thank you, Fenner!

 

[zeroturbulence]

Here's a few more....

6. This isn't a dating site - any questions, ask BlueLadybug
7. Dig up old threads at your own risk
8. What happens in the BDF forum stays in the BDF forum!

 

[cinder]

Let's see these are more like guidelines:

1) Value people for friendship, not just in terms of whether they're going to lead to a date or not.
2) If you want to do something or go somewhere, don't be afraid to do it alone.
3) Find ways to contribute to others (writing on forums, writing something more formal, volunteering, supporting a missionary, praying, etc).
4) Take responsibility to make the effort to change what you don't like about yourself.
5) When real life people are just plain crappy, turn to a good book (or movie) for companionship and inspiration.
6) Remind yourself frequently, there's more to life than obtaining a significant other.
7) Remember a bad relationship is so much more miserable than being single.
8) Find something to be a part of and give your life meaning (like church or God's kindgom).
9) When you're really feeling like having someone would solve so many of your problems, go visit the Family forum for a reality check.

When I hear people talk about all the horrible relationship and dating experiences they've had, well I don't know for sure if I'm missing out on something good or just dodging a whole lot of bullets.

 

[Lynx]

2) If you want to do something or go somewhere, don't be afraid to do it alone.

This right here. WHY do people insist they cannot go out to a nice restaurant, sit and eat a meal and enjoy it without a date? I don't know how many times I have been discussing a place to eat and the person I'm talking to says he can't go there because he doesn't have a date. Why not?

And when you go, leave the phone at home. If you go to a restaurant and keep your nose buried in your phone you might as well get the order to go and take it back home with you. Leave the phone at home and enjoy the ambiance. Ambiance is still there, we just forgot what it looked like after years of phonage.

 

[AuntieAnt]

I gave up looking for girlfriend. By my own efforts it's impossible (Im rather ugly) If God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend which its becoming increasingly obvious he doesn't I guess I'm fine with that. Although now that I think about it I'm rather shallow too. Hmmmm maybe its just me lol.

I've seen your photo and you're not ugly by any stretch of the imagination. You stop saying that! Plus you're an awesome writer with a fantastic creative mind.

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

1. Figure out what you really enjoy in life and find a way to do it and enjoy it alone.

2. Quit giving a flip about what other people think. Stop being a slave to trends and fads.

3. Learn to enjoy the beautiful sound of silence.

4. Be selective in your choice of friends. They can be a blessing, but they can very easily be a curse and a burden.

5. Try to avoid bitterness taking root in your heart (this is very difficult for some)

6. Learn how to define yourself through your own eyes instead of through the eyes of other people. Life is NOT a competition, and you don't have to live up to any standards except your own - and you can change those at any time.

7. No matter what you do; no matter what you achieve; no matter where life takes you - it ends the same for all of us.

 

[SarahFaith]

(1Cor 7:32)
But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:

 

[laughingheart]

1. Don't wait for someone else before you live your dreams.
2. Have dreams.
3. Focus on gratitude. You are surrounded by daily miracles and reasons for joy. Identify them, enjoy them and share about them. People will enjoy your company a lot more if you have a passion for life.
4. Stop equating single with incomplete. Who you are matters more than who you are with.
5. Surround yourself with others whom you admire, have heart and make your heart glad when you hear their voice on the line. Also have at least one crazy friend who puts it all into perspective.
6. Allow yourself to pursue what is important rather than what is urgent. You are free to choose.

 

[Tintin]

I wouldn't stop myself from falling in love! Heaven forbid! Falling in love is GREAT.

But I like being single right now too, so I'll just modify your rule to:

ONLY FALL IN LOVE WITH CHRIS PINE.

Chris Pine? No, thanks. I prefer women.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

This right here. WHY do people insist they cannot go out to a nice restaurant, sit and eat a meal and enjoy it without a date? I don't know how many times I have been discussing a place to eat and the person I'm talking to says he can't go there because he doesn't have a date. Why not?

I'm one of those people who never eats in a restaurant alone. It's not because I hate being along. It's just that taking the time to deliberately go into a restaurant and stay there for an hour, for me, isn't about the food. It's about the company. Food? I can take it or leave it. I'd just as soon eat a sandwich at my house as sit by myself at a table and be waited on. If I do need to eat out, I go through a drive-through.