The "Rules" to Being Single...

[Yeraza_Bats]

Id do fast food alone, but I couldnt go to like a real sit down restaurant alone : p I gotta have a friend or someone there sitting with me, it just doesnt work doing it alone : p

Its not that Im "ashamed" to be there alone or anything, I have friends and I dont need to prove it to anyone : p But the whole point is to socialize with food. So just sitting there on your own, it would just be uncomfortable and not worth the time : p

 

[Lynx]

I think we will have to agree to disagree on this one. For me it's fun to go to a random restaurant, curl up in a booth with a good book and eat a good meal. Especially if they have homemade desserts. Those pies from the Sysco truck are eeeeeevil!

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

I agree with Lynx. Going to a restaurant by yourself is super awesome. It has the added benefit of being so outside the norm that it messes with people and most of them can barely eat their meals for looking over at you trying to figure out why you're there, alone, enjoying yourself. It's good for many lulz.

 

[Jilly81]

First off, hello to SearchingForTruth! I was very glad to see you, as I hadn't seen any of your posts in years. I really hope that you're doing well.


Now, concerning the restaurant/eating alone ... at one point years ago I was at a sad place emotionally. I didn't like being single then, and that was a severe understatement (thank You Jesus for delivering me! ). I vividly recall being at a museum where families with children commonly went. Nerd couples would also go there on dates, I'm sure =P. Anyway, I was getting this horrible feeling that I couldn't put my finger on. Then I realized that it was a notion of "I don't belong here". I decided not to go there again until things changed in my life. I would just about guarantee you that the restaurant would have had the same effect at the time, although now that I'm generally happy being single I assume that I'd be fine with patronizing either place. I would RATHER go to a restaurant with others ... not sure if it's for the reasons Grace and Yeraza gave, or more due to not wanting to go places alone because it's safer to go in groups.

 

[leslee19]

That was a great reply!

 

[Tintin]

I have no problem going to a fast-food place by myself, but I would visit a restaurant or pub only with family or friends (those places are made for conversation). I have no problem going to the cinema to see a horror or thriller or drama by myself. But family movies, comedies, action movies, fantasy/sci-fi and some dramas are best experienced with family or friends.

 

[laughingheart]

Id do fast food alone, but I couldnt go to like a real sit down restaurant alone : p I gotta have a friend or someone there sitting with me, it just doesnt work doing it alone : p

Its not that Im "ashamed" to be there alone or anything, I have friends and I dont need to prove it to anyone : p But the whole point is to socialize with food. So just sitting there on your own, it would just be uncomfortable and not worth the time : p

I'm a huge book lover so I have to admit that for most of my adult life whether in a relationship or not it has been a treat to take a great book and snuggle into a booth for lunch. I get to read and have food magically appear while I relax. No phone calls, or chores I should be doing to interrupt. I do tend to pick a time that is not too busy and I don't stay too long as the servers and restaurant are trying to make a living. I make sure I tip very well and I usually get a big smile when I arrive as I am a low maintenance customer. It is a perfect little bit of "me" time.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I like these rules by Henry Cloud

1. Enjoy being single by going out with almost any one once or maybe twice.

2. Date with no expectations. You might be surprised.

3. Don't date to find a mate but to learn, grow, experience and serve other people.

4. Get used to rejection. It's part of life.

5. Guard your heart. Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs (Matt. 7:6). They will trample your treasures under their feet.

 

[Lenardzw]

...and as the short list of guidelines grows.....

119. Remember that a romantic relationship is not a basic need. Christ is.
120. Remember that we are created as complete beings.Keep the "you complete me" mindset in the Jerry Maguire movie, not real life.
121. In all the rules don't rule yourself out of the possibility of a relationship. God can still hook you up.
122. As far as relationships go, quit comparing yourself with the "Joneseys." Fairly often the Joneseys are broke.
123. God can use shape you and use you during your single season. Embrace it! You are NOT serving time.

I got involved in local amateur theatre for a while and it was a great ... i don't want to use the word distraction....(so I'll go with)... fun experience.

 

[Lenardzw]

I agree with Lynx. Going to a restaurant by yourself is super awesome. It has the added benefit of being so outside the norm that it messes with people and most of them can barely eat their meals for looking over at you trying to figure out why you're there, alone, enjoying yourself. It's good for many lulz.

I would visit a restaurant if I worked late and I didn't feel like preparing a meal when I get home at say, 9pm. So I'd visit a quiet restaurant. Order a meal. Enjoy it. I don't have issues with eating alone. The company of friends is great but I enjoy eating alone too. I often keep a small book in my car, something light- hearted and fun. I love to read but not in restaurants. To be honest I take a more functional approach to visiting restaurants alone. I get in, order a meal and enjoy it and leave, but I take my time to relax and enjoy it. When I go with company, its a completely different dynamic.

 

[Coffeegirl]

As for me, like my first rule implies, I try not to "fall in love." Unintentionally, I'm weird... and I'm "Christian". But not christian enough for the prospects of having a wife who believes. And too "Christian" for those who aren't. And that's the belief thing alone. I'm either too worldly or too spiritual. So, I'm caught in this weird place in between. Often or not I never meet up to the standards of those I'm interested in. That, or they are busy with their lives. Or plainly not interested. Which i can understand.

This sounds like my struggle. I'm either too wordly or too spiritual. People are busy or not interested. For me it doesn't really help that I don't go anywhere.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Id do fast food alone, but I couldnt go to like a real sit down restaurant alone : p I gotta have a friend or someone there sitting with me, it just doesnt work doing it alone : p

Its not that Im "ashamed" to be there alone or anything, I have friends and I dont need to prove it to anyone : p But the whole point is to socialize with food. So just sitting there on your own, it would just be uncomfortable and not worth the time : p

I used to feel exactly like that, but one day i went to a nice restaurant alone and it was fine. I took a book with me (cellphones did not exist yet ). I figured people would just think I am a lone traveler like someone in town for business or something... and I really was a lone traveler