I will probably not get married because of the likelihood of marrying a heathen

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Roh_Chris

Roh_Chris

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I will probably not step out of my home because of the likelihood of getting hit by a vehicle.

I will probably not use an electrical appliance because of the likelihood of getting electrocuted.

I will probably not use public transport because of the likelihood of being involved in a fatal crash.

I will probably not earn a living because of the likelihood of getting laid off.

You never have a single event in life where the probability is 0 (i.e. absolutely impossible). It is all relative and as an individual, your goal must be to minimize risks and maximize benefits. Buck up, buckle down and plod on!
 
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I will probably not step out of my home because of the likelihood of getting hit by a vehicle.

I will probably not use an electrical appliance because of the likelihood of getting electrocuted.

I will probably not use public transport because of the likelihood of being involved in a fatal crash.

I will probably not earn a living because of the likelihood of getting laid off.

You never have a single event in life where the probability is 0 (i.e. absolutely impossible). It is all relative and as an individual, your goal must be to minimize risks and maximize benefits. Buck up, buckle down and plod on!
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Nobody is required to, so really it's up to them.
 
lv2ski

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HisHolly said:
Thank you.. the trouble is I was in a church and everyone married and not was dating each other I found out.. even so I fall into the bitter category and need to get into the other...
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I'll pray for you. I know that bitter feeling, maybe not the same as yours, but I had a wife that truly, multiple times over betrayed every single trust that any marriage or relationship has. I did and am free. I see her and there's no more ugly thoughts, despising feelings, just kind of nothing. Almost like, just this woman I know.

Although I don't want to be her friend, she is my children's mother so we're just okay. In fact I payed for her and my girls to go to the movie last weekend, bc she didn't have any money and they wanted to see Pete's dragon. I gladly have them the money and didn't have any resentful thoughts. Actually I was glad that I did. Yes, thats a God thing, after what we went thru bc of her backsliding and meth and all the drama that goes with it. I'm even surprised!
 
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HisHolly said:
Nobody is required to, so really it's up to them.
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Sure, and so you can sit in a shell and not experience the beauty if life.. or step out and experience it. It is said, and I quote, "Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."

But, whatever floats your boat, yo. :)
 
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I'll pray for you. I know that bitter feeling, maybe not the same as yours, but I had a wife that truly, multiple times over betrayed every single trust that any marriage or relationship has. I did and am free. I see her and there's no more ugly thoughts, despising feelings, just kind of nothing. Almost like, just this woman I know.

Although I don't want to be her friend, she is my children's mother so we're just okay. In fact I payed for her and my girls to go to the movie last weekend, bc she didn't have any money and they wanted to see Pete's dragon. I gladly have them the money and didn't have any resentful thoughts. Actually I was glad that I did. Yes, thats a God thing, after what we went thru bc of her backsliding and meth and all the drama that goes with it. I'm even surprised!
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thank you, I do appreciate it. Good for you to be so willing. that's how I want to be. able to live freely as tho nothing had happened. aware that it did but no hold on me, would be fantastic
 
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Sure, and so you can sit in a shell and not experience the beauty if life.. or step out and experience it. It is said, and I quote, "Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."

But, whatever floats your boat, yo. :)
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im not 12. I have been in relationships. none worth that strong of a commitment. your responses would be correct and helpful to someone younger with no experience.. ive been around and as for now I choose to ride solo.. and I did say, should someone change my mind, id accept.. I never said id flat out refuse..
 
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thank you, I do appreciate it. Good for you to be so willing. that's how I want to be. able to live freely as tho nothing had happened. aware that it did but no hold on me, would be fantastic
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It can, and that's what forgiveness looks like. Forgiving someone doesn't necessarily mean restoring trust. Many people see it that way. That could be in some situations , but many things no. It's just you releasing your right to be offended and revenge or retribution. The bible says God will repay.

My step daughter is a waitress in our local strip club right now. She thinks she's so strong. I told her get out of there, its very humiliating for me and I'm very afraid of where it could lead. She has the looks and the body for the stage and she's so hung up on money right now that I can see them coerceing her to go farther.
 
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you scoff at me as tho im a fool. you mix preference with things of necessity and claim in so many words that its foolish to disregard something bc of a possible negative outcome.. its a circled argument u pose. you choose what you want for your life as do others.. my not wanting to get married is a preference that impedes nothing in your life. im free to choose and it makes me none the wiser to do so..
 
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HisHolly said:
you scoff at me as tho im a fool. you mix preference with things of necessity and claim in so many words that its foolish to disregard something bc of a possible negative outcome.. its a circled argument u pose. you choose what you want for your life as do others.. my not wanting to get married is a preference that impedes nothing in your life. im free to choose and it makes me none the wiser to do so..
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Don't let him get to you. You're fine, just keep pouring in the good meal
 
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It can, and that's what forgiveness looks like. Forgiving someone doesn't necessarily mean restoring trust. Many people see it that way. That could be in some situations , but many things no. It's just you releasing your right to be offended and revenge or retribution. The bible says God will repay.

My step daughter is a waitress in our local strip club right now. She thinks she's so strong. I told her get out of there, its very humiliating for me and I'm very afraid of where it could lead. She has the looks and the body for the stage and she's so hung up on money right now that I can see them coerceing her to go farther.
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i'll keep her in my prayers.. its easy to get caught up. especially when you can deny that its as bad as it is..
 
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i'll keep her in my prayers.. its easy to get caught up. especially when you can deny that its as bad as it is..
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I'm about ready to go and give her a good ol fashioned whooping!
 
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i'll tell you, it was the void from having no men that influenced my choices.. attention is attention even if its negative or mixed with it... I would have benefited greatly had a man stood up to be in my life. affirmation is a big deal.
 
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HisHolly said:
i'll tell you, it was the void from having no men that influenced my choices.. attention is attention even if its negative or mixed with it... I would have benefited greatly had a man stood up to be in my life. affirmation is a big deal.
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I'll remember that. I keep thinking about calling her. She's my step daughter, so she's always turning to her dad, who's a total loser. But she tells me that I'm her dad, bc I'm the one who raised her from 13-17. It's complicated. I want to bring my grandson to church for Awana on Wednesdays, he's almost 4. I have stood up to her. The last time I was pretty hard on her. She's so hung up on money.

She's dating some guy she met there. I flipped out over that. She doesn'trealize that there's not enough naked women or sex for those guys.
 
lv2ski

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HisHolly said:
i'll tell you, it was the void from having no men that influenced my choices.. attention is attention even if its negative or mixed with it... I would have benefited greatly had a man stood up to be in my life. affirmation is a big deal.
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I'll remember that. I keep thinking about calling her. She's my step daughter, so she's always turning to her dad, who's a total loser. But she tells me that I'm her dad, bc I'm the one who raised her from 13-17. It's complicated. I want to bring my grandson to church for Awana on Wednesdays, he's almost 4. I have stood up to her. The last time I was pretty hard on her. She's so hung up on money.

She's dating some guy she met there. I flipped out over that. She doesn'trealize that there's not enough naked women or sex for those guys.
 
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I'll remember that. I keep thinking about calling her. She's my step daughter, so she's always turning to her dad, who's a total loser. But she tells me that I'm her dad, bc I'm the one who raised her from 13-17. It's complicated. I want to bring my grandson to church for Awana on Wednesdays, he's almost 4. I have stood up to her. The last time I was pretty hard on her. She's so hung up on money.

She's dating some guy she met there. I flipped out over that. She doesn'trealize that there's not enough naked women or sex for those guys.
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its perversion. people hung up on it only need more to satisfy the desire... unquenchable thirst. money is the lure, always.. its not hopeless thank God.. Nothing impossible for Him.. do not get discouraged.. I went as far as you can and I came out.. whatever she's looking for is found in God.. until she meets him, she'll look everywhere..
 
Roh_Chris

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HisHolly said:
you scoff at me as tho im a fool. you mix preference with things of necessity and claim in so many words that its foolish to disregard something bc of a possible negative outcome.. its a circled argument u pose. you choose what you want for your life as do others.. my not wanting to get married is a preference that impedes nothing in your life. im free to choose and it makes me none the wiser to do so..
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lv2ski said:
Don't let him get to you. You're fine, just keep pouring in the good meal
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Woah, I have to apologize here. My first post #141 was directed at the OP, but I did not quote him, so I now see why it was taken as an attack at you. I am sorry for that confusion, HisHolly. Again, when you responded in #142, I thought you were supporting the OP, so I responded to it vehemently. Again, I am sorry because I perceived you to be supporting the OP.
I think you are doing great, HisHolly. Please accept my apologies. :)

Now that I read the previous page, I understand that this thread had derailed a while back. My bad.
 
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Woah, I have to apologize here. My first post #141 was directed at the OP, but I did not quote him, so I now see why it was taken as an attack at you. I am sorry for that confusion, HisHolly. Again, when you responded in #142, I thought you were supporting the OP, so I responded to it vehemently. Again, I am sorry because I perceived you to be supporting the OP.
I think you are doing great, HisHolly. Please accept my apologies. :)

Now that I read the previous page, I understand that this thread had derailed a while back. My bad.
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I do! do accept mine as well.. thank you
 
lv2ski

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its perversion. people hung up on it only need more to satisfy the desire... unquenchable thirst. money is the lure, always.. its not hopeless thank God.. Nothing impossible for Him.. do not get discouraged.. I went as far as you can and I came out.. whatever she's looking for is found in God.. until she meets him, she'll look everywhere..
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Thank you. Sad thing is, she walked with Him as a teenager
 
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Thank you. Sad thing is, she walked with Him as a teenager
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so did I.. I grew up in church, new born to 18.. Loved God! was the most on fire.. told everyone about Him and His love, forgiveness, healing ect.... I didn't know how to transition into a relationship.. I felt alone again and went off to find what I could..
 
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