bad mouth I am trying to tame
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Believe it or not, I used to swear a lot. Especially at work where it was sort of part of the culture there, but after I accepted Jesus I wanted to stop.
At first it was hard because it just happens without thinking about it, but what I found helped was to..
1) pray for God to help
2) And this was a BIG help.... Come up with less harmful subsitutes for the cuss words: (Shoot instead of _____, Funk or fungus instead of ______, darn or darn-it instead of _____)
3) try to catch yourself BEFORE you cuss. That was the hardest part.
Hope that helps
In my case I'm not only cuss-free now, but I feel uncomfortable hearing others do it.
At first it was hard because it just happens without thinking about it, but what I found helped was to..
1) pray for God to help
2) And this was a BIG help.... Come up with less harmful subsitutes for the cuss words: (Shoot instead of _____, Funk or fungus instead of ______, darn or darn-it instead of _____)
3) try to catch yourself BEFORE you cuss. That was the hardest part.
Hope that helps
In my case I'm not only cuss-free now, but I feel uncomfortable hearing others do it.
I'm totally kidding!!!!! Lol do not take me seriously
You've taken the first important steps: you have owned the behaviour, and agreed that it is wrong and unacceptable to continue. Keep stepping... ask forgiveness from the Lord when you fail, ask Him to change you on the inside, and as others have suggested, try replacing the junk with something better. It's a pitched battle, but with the gifts God provides (strength, perseverance, etc.) you can conquer this sin.
Remember that God works in you to conform you to His will, and that He has begun a good work in you and will bring it to completion.
PS... don't beat yourself up. The enemy does enough of that, and he will often use other people to echo his abuse.
Remember that God works in you to conform you to His will, and that He has begun a good work in you and will bring it to completion.
PS... don't beat yourself up. The enemy does enough of that, and he will often use other people to echo his abuse.
T
I used to get in trouble for saying dang around my teacher according to her it's the same as saying the D word darn was just as bad.
Cussing apparently can be very easy to do so I just say frickle frackle lol. Jk my sister is the one who says that but feel free to use it
Cussing apparently can be very easy to do so I just say frickle frackle lol. Jk my sister is the one who says that but feel free to use it
Here's a simple solution to try and stop your bad habit... Just punish yourself every time you cuss. Get a big jar and put $20 in it every time you use a bad word, your husband too. If your kids can't afford it, get a bar of soap for their filthy mouths (literally). I personally had a potty mouth and tried this method to correct myself.. I still cuss, but I've got one heck of a savings account at my bank now
Jennifer: Sometimes you have to do things one minute at a time. Meaning, if you can go an entire minute, hour or day without cursing.....and at the end of the day thank God for your small victory..that is what will give you the hope strength and encouragement that you are on the right path and to continue......Be blessed and patient with yourself..we are all a work in progress
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I was like you also, I had a horrible mouth on me. Instead of saying I talked like a trucker, I called it talking like a trailer factory worker (my mama's phrase, since she worked in a trailer factory. When I had babies, I realized how bad it made me sound, I started replacing cuss words with food words.....like ooooh peaches! or oooooooh pickles....my kids still do this....mostly in front of me, now that they are grown, our of respect for me, but I have heard my youngest still saying, "ooooooh buttered biscuits" a few times.
You have the tools in you to change this through the fruits of the spirit, one being self control, and one being Love. The characteristics of love are: patience, kindness, being slow to anger, not keeping a record of wrongs, but relishing in what's right...the traits found in Corinthians. God made you in HIS image, His masterpiece! Walk in that, and the rest begins to fall into place. And even when you fall in this (and trust me I still fall more often than I wish, after YEARS of knowing Christ's love)....God still keeps your picture on His fridge. You can do this girl!!
Peace!
You have the tools in you to change this through the fruits of the spirit, one being self control, and one being Love. The characteristics of love are: patience, kindness, being slow to anger, not keeping a record of wrongs, but relishing in what's right...the traits found in Corinthians. God made you in HIS image, His masterpiece! Walk in that, and the rest begins to fall into place. And even when you fall in this (and trust me I still fall more often than I wish, after YEARS of knowing Christ's love)....God still keeps your picture on His fridge. You can do this girl!!
Peace!
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I didn't let the girls tell each other, nor anyone else to "shut up" either....nor "ain't". I even had an "ain't jar". Anyone using the word "ain't" had to deposit a quarter into the jar. The money went for family games, munchies for movies or whatever, but it got my point across. That word just grates on my nerves like fingernails on a chalkboard.
I was saved out a very wordly environment. About 6 years earlier, even though unsaved, I realized my vocabulary had shrunk to about 10 swear words that I used for everything. So I started trying to monitor myself and replace those words with the English words that made better sense. This was difficult, but it was a good start.
But I still had a large collection of angry swear words for when I was angry or mad at someone. These were the hard words to get rid of even after I got saved. Fortunately, my future husband had been through this himself when he got saved, and he was very quick to condemn... Errr help point out to me my sins!
But ultimately it was God who really did the final work. And a big part of that was repentance. I would apologize to those around me for swearing, even if they didn't care. It was kind of embarrassing to do, so by avoiding cursing, I could avoid apologizing! Even more important was really taking the matter to God. He always had words of wisdom to help me. He was very firm, but always let me know he loved me.
So you have lots and lots of good ideas on this thread. Now go and do them!
But I still had a large collection of angry swear words for when I was angry or mad at someone. These were the hard words to get rid of even after I got saved. Fortunately, my future husband had been through this himself when he got saved, and he was very quick to condemn... Errr help point out to me my sins!
But ultimately it was God who really did the final work. And a big part of that was repentance. I would apologize to those around me for swearing, even if they didn't care. It was kind of embarrassing to do, so by avoiding cursing, I could avoid apologizing! Even more important was really taking the matter to God. He always had words of wisdom to help me. He was very firm, but always let me know he loved me.
So you have lots and lots of good ideas on this thread. Now go and do them!
How about sitting down with your husband and your children and letting them know you want to change? Together, as a family, all of you can help each other.
God tells us we cannot tame our tongue (James 3:8 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison). I didn't know that when I tried to change what came out of my mouth. I finally came across that verse and felt so much better at my failure. Not that I was proud of my poor language, but I was glad God showed me how wrong I was in trying to tame my tongue. And poor language is more than just cussing. Some people are very adept at criticizing others without saying a single cuss word. That is just as bad as cussing. We are instructed to speak good words that build up others and minister grace to the hearer (Eph 4:29).
The secret to taming the tongue is to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23,24 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee).
What do you listen to when you're driving in your car? What do you listen to when you're in your house? Listen to Christian-based radio or Christian-based music online.
God tells us we cannot tame our tongue (James 3:8 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison). I didn't know that when I tried to change what came out of my mouth. I finally came across that verse and felt so much better at my failure. Not that I was proud of my poor language, but I was glad God showed me how wrong I was in trying to tame my tongue. And poor language is more than just cussing. Some people are very adept at criticizing others without saying a single cuss word. That is just as bad as cussing. We are instructed to speak good words that build up others and minister grace to the hearer (Eph 4:29).
The secret to taming the tongue is to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23,24 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee).
What do you listen to when you're driving in your car? What do you listen to when you're in your house? Listen to Christian-based radio or Christian-based music online.
The Word changes your mind and heart. Everyday start Matthew, the words of Jesus are there. According to Ephesians 5, He washes you with the water of the Word, to present a spotless bride to a Himself. And don't speak when you get angry, just send them to their room if they're really acting up. Calm down, cry out to the Lord, then go talk to them. Find the trigger for this breakdown.
It's no different than any other bad habit or addiction. More than likely, it's caused by a certain mindset that you can change. That's the word's job.
It's no different than any other bad habit or addiction. More than likely, it's caused by a certain mindset that you can change. That's the word's job.