Questioning Myself

[Amazing-Grace]

I also just realized that I may have actually missed the meaning of the thread : p

No you didn't lol.

 

[Yeraza_Bats]

Yes. Sometimes I even have disagreements with someone I am actually very fond of - that's just individuality.

I was just reflecting this morning which I often do when it's early and there aren't many people around. None of us are perfect and we all struggle with something - even sin.

I was just thinking. If you are on good grounds with a friend and have their trust, and you know they have their heart set on the Lord, why not talk to them in private and talk about your concerns with them?
I do it with some friends I have who are Christian. It can be productive sometimes too. Maybe they arent aware of the things your concerned about, or maybe you can help them reflect on it and see it in a different light.

 

[missy2014]

Reading through the posts this morning I find myself wondering about my favourite members here and my not-so-favourites (lol) and wonder how they are in reality, if it would in reality be a case of "reversed roles". I have to question myself and consider my position as a Christian because it is judgement of sorts.

There is one young man here (I won't mention his name) that if I met him in reality I probably wouldn't give him the time of day yet his posts inspire me, he is so humble and has turned his life around; resisting a sinful lifestyle to obey The Lord - wow! Yet if I met him I would probably reflect on that sinful lifestyle and not even consider the possibility he could be reborn and a child of God. I seriously have to search my heart! Do we all do this or is it just me?

I often wonder about folks here, what they are like in reality - they're almost always positive but inquisitive thoughts. I know that people aren't always how we imagine them to be - more often than not they aren't. Would we really be close friends with those whose posts we so enjoy reading? Would their lifestyles be poles apart from those of ourselves?

Just reflecting and questioning myself.

Can I give you an example ? sometimes were like we look at a Christian that turns good -bad and we think at stage thats it their so hurt so they must be a bad person or Christian but because God is hope its what happens at the end and thats the exciting part . i ponder like yourself i ponder too when I get to heaven im gonna see people like bad as monkey hollywood stars (they may have been death bed confessionees )

 

[Tinkerbell725]

First impressions last but its the last impression that counts. It takes time to know people for us to see if they have integrity. It's difficult to like everyone because we have different personalities, values, interpretation of the Bible and cultures. We are called to be at peace with everyone but it's only human to dislike people who put you or others down. Besides being at peace with others is two way and we can't force others to like us back. I like many people here for their wisdom, integrity, humility, kindness and humor. I'm doubtful about a few people here for their pride, prejudice, unkindness and hipocrisy.

 

[wwjd_kilden]

It is natural to like some people more than others.
Even God has favourites (Jacob vs Esau)

...but we can never truly know someone. (Not even in real life), so it can be useful to reflect on why we feel a way about a given person. There have been times when I have caught myself being angry at people for things I recognize and dislike in myself.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

It is natural to like some people more than others.
Even God has favourites (Jacob vs Esau)

...but we can never truly know someone. (Not even in real life), so it can be useful to reflect on why we feel a way about a given person. There have been times when I have caught myself being angry at people for things I recognize and dislike in myself.

You have a point. We project to others what we hate about ourselves.
And yeah I am jealous of David's love for God. That's why he is also God's favorite. Those who love us the most naturally become our favorites.

 

[Miri]

I have often wondered what I would say to people on here if I met them in real life.

The real me is rather quiet (yes honest). I tend to let others talk over me
and hold back from speaking, which isn't actually hard to do in a crowd.
Its amazing how you can be in a crowd of people and never say anything.

Why I do that, I have no idea as I'm not shy. It just seems like everyone wants to
get their word in first and by the time I think of something to say, the subject
has changed and moved on.

The only time I seem to get a word in edgeways is if someone asks me to lead a
bible study. It's strange how the people who have the most to say in real life,
never know what to say when bible study is mentioned. Lol

So if you met me in real life, I would be the one hanging back from all the conversations
looking a bit lost fiddling with my nails or fingers. Its probably why I don't use the chat function
much as well.

I feel that I have got to know several people on here far better, than I have of
my real life friends, who I have known for years! Isn't that rather sad.
Sometimes I think it can be hard to be the real "you" in Christian circles.

Having said that I go to a women's small group (never more than 10 of us at any one time,
sometimes there may just be 5-6) and we are getting better at being who we are.
But even in that group it's easier to be the real you with some people than with others.

As far as meeting people I tend to gravitate towards younger or older people. I don't know
why but I have never felt comfy in my own peer group. Like a fish out of water!

 

[Depleted]

you know.. theres a cat that visits me in the mornings at the train station.. his name is Tommy.. He does kinda remind me of you. a golden little tiger

Tommy the Cat. Did he tell you his name? I'm just wondering how one learns the name of a cat if it lives at a train station. lol

 

[Depleted]

This is really me -- the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, the always-changing-moods woman I appear to be.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I'm an old soul as well Miri. I can relate more to older people. If I happen to relate to people my age or younger, probably it's because they are old souls as well. I am the eldest and I grew up early because life was hard and there was no one to rely on but myself. My childhood was a bit ok but I felt I skipped teenage life.

 

[Miri]

This is really me -- the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, the always-changing-moods woman I appear to be.

Its called PMT (pensioner mental tension)

 

[Amazing-Grace]

I have often wondered what I would say to people on here if I met them in real life.

The real me is rather quiet (yes honest). I tend to let others talk over me
and hold back from speaking, which isn't actually hard to do in a crowd.
Its amazing how you can be in a crowd of people and never say anything.

Why I do that, I have no idea as I'm not shy. It just seems like everyone wants to
get their word in first and by the time I think of something to say, the subject
has changed and moved on.

The only time I seem to get a word in edgeways is if someone asks me to lead a
bible study. It's strange how the people who have the most to say in real life,
never know what to say when bible study is mentioned. Lol

So if you met me in real life, I would be the one hanging back from all the conversations
looking a bit lost fiddling with my nails or fingers. Its probably why I don't use the chat function
much as well.

I feel that I have got to know several people on here far better, than I have of
my real life friends, who I have known for years! Isn't that rather sad.
Sometimes I think it can be hard to be the real "you" in Christian circles.

Having said that I go to a women's small group (never more than 10 of us at any one time,
sometimes there may just be 5-6) and we are getting better at being who we are.
But even in that group it's easier to be the real you with some people than with others.

As far as meeting people I tend to gravitate towards younger or older people. I don't know
why but I have never felt comfy in my own peer group. Like a fish out of water!

Me too Miri!

 

[Depleted]

I love animals and cats I find very special. alone this morning..lol I was waiting for my tea to get done and the next thing I know is I have a cat on my shoulders and another on my lap with pushing away the space of my laptop..and obviously they didnt want me to get up and the one on my lap started pushing buttons and stuff on my lap top opening pages..lol
Its never boring

I was the bookkeeper in a factory with two businesses under one roof. The cat lived there, because he was a great mouser. (Also a great ratter. Very disturbing seeing how cats kill rodents. It's not about eating. It's playing too rough.) The dog -- mostly German Shepherd, but too small for one, so a mut hidden inside -- lived with one of the owners. He was a dying stray that wandered in a year or two before I started.

His owner liked me when the dog would strategically place himself over my shoe when I crossed my leg (ladylike, not crossed my legs in my chair when I sat, which was the cat's preferred position) to cool off "between his legs" on my leather and I didn't flinch. We just laughed, because we knew the dog got attention and a good overall body rub down from me. (I'd lean over to rough him up and then scratch him until he walked away.)

And the cat would climb into my lap every time I got down to business, because she knew I wouldn't move for hours.

I had no idea how much I catered to those animals until nine years later, and I was looking for a new job but discovered all my pants were frayed at the lap. The cat would knead my leg when I'd idly go over numbers and scratch him. Big spreadsheets, so I'd have to look at a lot of numbers to figure out the math. lol

 

[Depleted]

Anyone who has PG Tips is a friend of mine!

I'm trying to figure out what PG tips are.

 

[Depleted]

well I grew up with cats and all. Even Chickens (alive) havebeen my best friends as long as we had them. Animals are the greatest blessing ever (besides Jesus) we got

Good! Growing up with dead chickens would be disturbing.

 

[Depleted]

It is natural to like some people more than others.
Even God has favourites (Jacob vs Esau)

...but we can never truly know someone. (Not even in real life), so it can be useful to reflect on why we feel a way about a given person. There have been times when I have caught myself being angry at people for things I recognize and dislike in myself.

Wait! Is there another reason to get angry at someone?

 

[Depleted]

I have often wondered what I would say to people on here if I met them in real life.

The real me is rather quiet (yes honest). I tend to let others talk over me
and hold back from speaking, which isn't actually hard to do in a crowd.
Its amazing how you can be in a crowd of people and never say anything.

Why I do that, I have no idea as I'm not shy. It just seems like everyone wants to
get their word in first and by the time I think of something to say, the subject
has changed and moved on.

The only time I seem to get a word in edgeways is if someone asks me to lead a
bible study. It's strange how the people who have the most to say in real life,
never know what to say when bible study is mentioned. Lol

So if you met me in real life, I would be the one hanging back from all the conversations
looking a bit lost fiddling with my nails or fingers. Its probably why I don't use the chat function
much as well.

I feel that I have got to know several people on here far better, than I have of
my real life friends, who I have known for years! Isn't that rather sad.
Sometimes I think it can be hard to be the real "you" in Christian circles.

Having said that I go to a women's small group (never more than 10 of us at any one time,
sometimes there may just be 5-6) and we are getting better at being who we are.
But even in that group it's easier to be the real you with some people than with others.

As far as meeting people I tend to gravitate towards younger or older people. I don't know
why but I have never felt comfy in my own peer group. Like a fish out of water!

Oh, wow! If we ever met in person it would go like this:
Lynn: Miri?

Miri: Lynn?

(hug and giggles)

Lynn: I thought-- Miri: Welcome to --

Lynn: No, you go first.

Miri: No you.

Lynn:

Miri:

Lynn:

Miri:

Lynn:

Miri:

Both: Well--

Miri: No you.

Lynn: No you.

Lynn:

Miri:

Lynn:

Miri:

Lynn:

Miri:

Followed by more giggling.

I know why I don't talk much to anyone outside of John. (And, poor John. I am so not quiet. lol) Most folks are so busy talking about themselves, they don't come up for breath. (Which, I'm like too, except I was taught not to interrupt. lol)

And my family has it set in their minds what they expect me to say, so stopped listening decades ago. And I stopped trying to get them to listen.

 

[BeyondET]

I have a friend that is a alcoholic I'm not a alcoholic but he is still my friend...

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I have a friend that is a alcoholic I'm not a alcoholic but he is still my friend...

Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you mine.

 

[Amazing-Grace]

I'm trying to figure out what PG tips are.

Haha you are soooo not British Lynn: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWQtX0-9aZ0