(#1) List of dating mistakes that should be avoided by the Christian woman

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Now, there's added bonus these days of not knowing 100% if you're dating a guy or girl (with all of the gender reassignment nonsense that's going on and all of the chemical enhancements and supplements pumped into people's body). It's kind of terrifying.
If "she" is under 40 and has whiskers, she probably isn't a she. (Hey, some of us have whiskers, but they come later. lol) If you're jealous of her Adam's apple, she probably isn't a she. If she can squat 1100 lbs. or 450 kg. or deadlift 700 lbs or 320 kg., she's probably not a she. If she has to shave her neck, she's probably not a she. If she has a wad of hair in her nose and/or ears, she's probably not a she. If the bulges are in the wrong place, she's probably not a she.
 
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You said you were unassuming and did not think about getting married at all during that date. That's why John liked you. You had no expectations and you were just being yourself. It worked for you right? The more you are desperate to find a mate the more you will not find one. I don't think John was being desperate either, he was just honest. What I am saying is just enjoy dating and don't be desperate about getting married because you will not know what you will find and might be surprised. Like the way John surprised you.






I think what you mean is don't commit or be in a serious relationship if you don't know who you are. Part of knowing who you are is by relating to others and getting to know others by dating.

Maybe I'm just bad at relating advice or explaining myself but I think the christian psychologist Henry Cloud is wise enough to be saying those things.



I agree that's why pete's idea about women being vigorous in dating is ridiculous. But speaking of provoking others including women, you seem to have those skills. jk :p
Telling your entire life story on the first date and ending it with, "And, I hate dating, but I'm the type of guy who needs to be married" is as desperate as I've ever heard.

You know that list of "things you don't say on a first date?" He said it all.

If we hadn't been friends before, I probably would have moved to make sure he couldn't find me ever again. lol
 
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Or a curse, if you don't use it well. I believe you mastered your gift well, as for me I still tend to provoke people unintentionally by thinking outloud.
Me too. So I married the guy who accepted that about me. ;)
 
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Oh just stay single. It's easier and you don't have to share your bed or your food.
Yeah, but where do you put your cold feet, if you don't share the bed? And I used to eat Chef Boyardee for dinner. He makes me shrimp, chicken catcciatori, squash soup, and pizzelles.
 
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If "she" is under 40 and has whiskers, she probably isn't a she. (Hey, some of us have whiskers, but they come later. lol) If you're jealous of her Adam's apple, she probably isn't a she. If she can squat 1100 lbs. or 450 kg. or deadlift 700 lbs or 320 kg., she's probably not a she. If she has to shave her neck, she's probably not a she. If she has a wad of hair in her nose and/or ears, she's probably not a she. If the bulges are in the wrong place, she's probably not a she.
Next Book title "She probably isnt a she"
 
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Avoid not brushing your teeth for a year cause your a new Christian
and well they didnt use tooth paste back then in bible times so why now!
 

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Telling your entire life story on the first date and ending it with, "And, I hate dating, but I'm the type of guy who needs to be married" is as desperate as I've ever heard.

You know that list of "things you don't say on a first date?" He said it all.

If we hadn't been friends before, I probably would have moved to make sure he couldn't find me ever again. lol

Being friends will not guarantee that someone will not freak out. You just made a choice and you chose not to break his heart and freak out like most people. He took a risk of being his heart broken by you. It's because he has gained your trust and he was free to be himself which is desperate. Lol.
 

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If "she" is under 40 and has whiskers, she probably isn't a she. (Hey, some of us have whiskers, but they come later. lol) If you're jealous of her Adam's apple, she probably isn't a she. If she can squat 1100 lbs. or 450 kg. or deadlift 700 lbs or 320 kg., she's probably not a she. If she has to shave her neck, she's probably not a she. If she has a wad of hair in her nose and/or ears, she's probably not a she. If the bulges are in the wrong place, she's probably not a she.
What if she has hairy armpits?

Is she a "he"...
or is she just from Eastern Europe?
 
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Agreed. Marriage is a strange war anyway. It's the only war where you sleep with the enemy. :rolleyes:
"If your marriage is a war, you married the wrong person..." :(

( Or, one-or-both of husband-and-wife reeaally do not have their priorities straight... ;) )

:)
 
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Are you serious? It was a bad joke I guess.
I am serious. Maybe it's the way you communicate, but I regularly get the impression you really don't like guys and that dating and marriage leave a bad taste in your mouth. I really hope it's just a communication issue.
 

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The Eastern European guide to resolving communication issues.

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Tinkerbell725

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I am serious. Maybe it's the way you communicate, but I regularly get the impression you really don't like guys and that dating and marriage leave a bad taste in your mouth. I really hope it's just a communication issue.

I don't know where you got that idea. I believe that marriage is sacred and my advice on threads about marriage issues is not to divorce unless you have tried everything while others say get divorced already. Maybe I have provoked you or something but I really have no idea about what I said for you to believe that.
 

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My girlfriend is from Bulgaria. The fact Eastern European women have been brought up makes me laugh.

The stereotype is wrong in that they are insanely feminine. The stereotype is right in that you do not want to cross them.
 

Tinkerbell725

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I am serious. Maybe it's the way you communicate, but I regularly get the impression you really don't like guys and that dating and marriage leave a bad taste in your mouth. I really hope it's just a communication issue.

Maybe it's you who does'nt like women? I remember someone here said you put down women and argue like a girl but some people defended you. I believed them for a moment but now I'm not so sure.
 

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Well that escalated quickly. What's this about anyway Tink and Tintin? A badly mangled one liner (the version I heard was something like " the battle of the sexes will never be won because there is too much fraternizing with the enemy")? Or a varying definition of dating as "doing social activities with a member of the opposite sex" vs "being in an exclusive relationship with another person"? You are both better than the mudslinging this is about to develop into, please don't publicly embarrass yourselves and drag down the whole forum over a miscommunication.