(#1) List of dating mistakes that should be avoided by the Christian woman

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Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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cinder said:
Well that escalated quickly. What's this about anyway Tink and Tintin? A badly mangled one liner (the version I heard was something like " the battle of the sexes will never be won because there is too much fraternizing with the enemy")? Or a varying definition of dating as "doing social activities with a member of the opposite sex" vs "being in an exclusive relationship with another person"? You are both better than the mudslinging this is about to develop into, please don't publicly embarrass yourselves and drag down the whole forum over a miscommunication.
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I also don't know what this is about. Maybe you should ask him. I don't have an issue with him. But he obviously has an issue with me.
 
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missy2014 said:
Avoid not brushing your teeth for a year cause your a new Christian
and well they didnt use tooth paste back then in bible times so why now!
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In grade school, I went to a Catholic School. Try teaching the Ten Commandments to first and second graders. Especially #6 (RCC style. And to this day, I can't remember which is which number Protestant style. lol) "Thou shalt not be impure."

We really were taught that meant to brush our teeth twice a day, take a bath at least on Saturday night, (our aroma must offend God at mass), and comb our hair before school.

So, toothpaste? It's in there. Ask my nun. lol
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
Being friends will not guarantee that someone will not freak out. You just made a choice and you chose not to break his heart and freak out like most people. He took a risk of being his heart broken by you. It's because he has gained your trust and he was free to be himself which is desperate. Lol.
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I suspect "become friends first" helps a lot. I often found my friends in guys. It's a different relationship, giving us room to see the things that would drive us nuts about the person, but without the tangle ups of roommates or romance. (If a guy leaves the toilet seat up in his house, would it bother me as much as if I lived with him? No, because I'm never going to the bathroom in the middle of the night to forget it's up. lol)

Maybe you're idea of dating is simply what I'd call "being friends." I am as honest to friends as I was on dates. The reason I got up and walked out on a couple of guys at the beginning of the date saying no more then, "This isn't going to work out, and I'd rather be watching my TV at home." Or my reaction to a friend when he asked me why we never married. "Because I know you well enough to know I could never live with you." But we stayed friends for quite some time after that, and each of us did marry when we were still friends.

I don't know what it is within the church that so many think they can't be friends with the other gender. Not every guy is going to hit on you, and, if they do, a strong reaction gets the message across clearly.

I became friends with hubby through another friend -- a guy. He and hubby were friends before that, and he warned future-hubby that I'd tell him what I think if he ever dared ask me on a date. I don't even remember what I told that friend. He never asked me on a date, but had he, I think I could have gone for one or two dates and then left it at that. Friend. Not someone I could live with.

Then again, he too was looking to marry. (And he did, to another friend. Great match!)
 
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maxwel said:
What if she has hairy armpits?

Is she a "he"...
or is she just from Eastern Europe?
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Might not be into shaving the pits. Have you ever had an ingrown hair? Imagine that in the pits. Not shaving is no longer just a thing in eastern Europe. ;)
 
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Desdichado said:
The Eastern European guide to resolving communication issues.

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From what I see on this site, that seems more American than Eastern Europe. Many of the guys on here are packing. Do you really think women shouldn't? Or boys? (Warning, my brothers were hunting for dinner before they were teens. I would have to, except, even if I think Bambi and Thumper are delicious, I can't talk myself into skinning them first. lol)
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
Maybe it's you who does'nt like women? I remember someone here said you put down women and argue like a girl but some people defended you. I believed them for a moment but now I'm not so sure.
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Which is why it's a good idea to stop gossip instead of listen to it.

That, and, dang! "Argue like a girl?" What does that even mean? How did that not get the goat of at least 50% of the people reading it? I'd spend the next two pages arguing like a girl over that alone. :rolleyes:
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
I also don't know what this is about. Maybe you should ask him. I don't have an issue with him. But he obviously has an issue with me.
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I'll s'plain it to you. Your advice sounded like you don't trust men. All men. (Because let's face it some of everybody isn't trustworthy.) And he's worried about you because of it, which annoyed you, so you bit him. AND proved you DO have something against him in the process.

That's what happened, but it's between the two of you if you want to resolve it.
 
Tinkerbell725

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I'll s'plain it to you. Your advice sounded like you don't trust men. All men. (Because let's face it some of everybody isn't trustworthy.) And he's worried about you because of it, which annoyed you, so you bit him. AND proved you DO have something against him in the process.

That's what happened, but it's between the two of you if you want to resolve it.
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There is nothing in my advice that sounded like I don't trust men. It was simply don't be desperate about getting married and just enjoy dating. Yeah I have an issue with him now but none before this but he had an issue before this.
 
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1-Dating someone who's not a believer
2-Dating someone who's not active in their faith
3-Dating someone with unhealed emotional or sexual wounds from their upbringing
4-Dating someone with unhealed addictions from their past
5-Dating someone who has a history of unstable relationships
6-Dating someone who has a history of chronic financial instability
7-Dating someone who has history of chronic employment instability
 
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Also, be careful on what dating sites you use. Do your research. Most people know Christian Mingle is the largest Christian dating site but be sure to read some Christian Mingle reviews first.
 
Demi777

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josh can it be your over-doing it a bit here??. No person is perfect and having issues and wounds doesnt defile them. Sometimes wounds dont heal alone.. unstable relationships dont defile anyone either.. jeez
 
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Thanks Demi....true...none of us have perfect backgrounds and all of us have been wounded at some point. However, usually the less someone has worked through and healed from their wounds, the more they'll bring that dysfunction into their current relationships.
 
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Tintin said:
Avoid marrying a demon. You don't want to be lying in bed at night and then wake up to your beloved standing over you with a knife.
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...or put arsenic in your orange juice while you step outside to get the morning newspaper.
 
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Demi777 said:
josh can it be your over-doing it a bit here??. No person is perfect and having issues and wounds doesnt defile them. Sometimes wounds dont heal alone.. unstable relationships dont defile anyone either.. jeez
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Well, we may not put some of Josh's criteria on our list...
but everyone has the right to have their own special list.

Nothing wrong with that.
 
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tourist said:
...or put arsenic in your orange juice while you step outside to get the morning newspaper.
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Tourist,

I can overlook a lot of things with a woman...

but arsenic in my food always kinda bothers me.
 
Demi777

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Always depends on the person :) Sometimes we need someone to help us besides God. Confess your faults to one another so ye may be healed :)
God bless!!

joshgreen said:
Thanks Demi....true...none of us have perfect backgrounds and all of us have been wounded at some point. However, usually the less someone has worked through and healed from their wounds, the more they'll bring that dysfunction into their current relationships.
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