I am tired

[Demi777]

lol!! I tend to avoid a lot too unless I feel like I should.. I dunno what advice to give you as we are on the same in that one.
while I was reading what you were saying the only thought I had was ''Id like to go for a coffee with her'' lol!
I do see where your coming from and to be honest.. people tend to fall for stuff as ''Gods voice'' that just simply isnt. So I see your point.
I tend to try to balance my posts out but you cant please everyone and truth hurts. All I can say is go by the gut.. if the gut says no.. then its most likely best to not go for it.. Its the best natural radar we have..
Plus dont go into discussions when your frustrated

I intentionally avoided that thread, because I knew some of my friends disagree with me, (and vice versa.) BUT, here is the thing -- I also don't feel free to say what I think, because people will be hurt and will disagree. And, yet, I also think it's very important to understand how to really "hear God." And, as I stated before, many on here who claim to be Christian aren't, and yet they feel free to tell whatever they think as long as they think it's okay to say they hear from God.

When I was young, a friend of mine prayed to God to buy a car. He waited to "hear from God" before deciding which car to buy. God told him, "buy the blue car," so he did.

This friend was making minimum wage and wasn't the type of guy to go look for a job that paid more. (He was in his 20's and living with his mom then.) The blue car got 8 mpg. He honestly couldn't afford the gas, but God told him.

THIS is why I'd like to say something, but I'm still stuck with I don't want to hurt my friends. AND it would start an argument.

So, this isn't about this particular argument (other than we both understand the sides to the arguments.) It's about wisdom in God and the body unifying.

And, I suspect I am right about where you are -- frustrated that I fear joining in, and frustrated that it always comes down to personal opinion over God's opinion, but is that the best we can do as the body? What really is the other biblical choice? (If I knew, I'd be telling you instead of asking you. lol)

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I dont really notice it a lot. if I wanna go back to a thread Im in I go on that little my activity thing and I see my stuff only. but like said I mainly check stuff through the ''New Forum Posts'' thing. which shows all peoples posts unless theyre on he ignore list.
lol you forgot YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY

Demi click latest activity found on top of the page just above quick links option for a much more detailed news feed.



About opinions...

Be slow to anger and quick to forgive. Remember just how much God has already forgiven you for. (Col. 3:13)

The more you talk, the more likely you are to say something foolish. (Ecclesiastes 5:3)

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion. (Proverbs 18:2)

 

[resurrection33]

Hey everyone and Merry Christmas

The more I come into here the more fed up I get. Its impossible to have a normal discussion without it exploding into name calling and accusations.
New people who come here are disgusted by the ''lack of love'' from people here and the ''war zones". If they make a political thread, they get attacked. If they make a bible discussion thread or a few, they get attacked for ''that being their first thread".
People ask a serious question as they are hurt or whatever and what do they get? Go see a doctor and get some meds.. Seriously?
People ask a question like ''I hear God,how about you?" and people end up arguing and talking about the ''false doctrine" they think there is, instead of answering the question.
Not even talking about the ''how dare you create a thread like this on Christmas".

I am not so sure if this body of Christ here is the same that Jesus spoke of and taught about, it surely doesnt seem like it.

Just my two cents
Have a good day, I'm out

(Sigh) Yes, we discuss important things and tensions run high. You add a lot to this site with your cheerful posts.

 

[17Bees]

There was a real good friend from this very site who doesn't much come on here anymore by the name of MissCris. Everybody liked her and she had a real way with words. She told me once that...

"...nobody kills their wounded like Christian warriors"

which I thought could be true from time to time. It's funny how I can kind of apply a voice to folks writing in a forum and never heard their voice before. But I can hear her say it just the same.

 

[tourist]

There was a real good friend from this very site who doesn't much come on here anymore by the name of MissCris. Everybody liked her and she had a real way with words. She told me once that...

"...nobody kills their wounded like Christian warriors"

which I thought could be true from time to time. It's funny how I can kind of apply a voice to folks writing in a forum and never heard their voice before. But I can hear her say it just the same.

I remember MissCris. She wrote interesting and amusing posts.

 

[GaryA]

I remember MissCris. She wrote interesting and amusing posts.

a-big-whopping-at-least-ten-characters-ditto

 

[88]

Don't get discouraged---I've been saved for 40 years----if I told you all the stuff I saw and went through------hold fast the truth and love you have---you will grow in Grace---the foolishness you see was even around in Paul's day---they argue about dumb things too...Grace and Peace

 

[Depleted]

lol!! I tend to avoid a lot too unless I feel like I should.. I dunno what advice to give you as we are on the same in that one.
while I was reading what you were saying the only thought I had was ''Id like to go for a coffee with her'' lol!
I do see where your coming from and to be honest.. people tend to fall for stuff as ''Gods voice'' that just simply isnt. So I see your point.
I tend to try to balance my posts out but you cant please everyone and truth hurts. All I can say is go by the gut.. if the gut says no.. then its most likely best to not go for it.. Its the best natural radar we have..
Plus dont go into discussions when your frustrated

I'm a diet-decaf Pepsi/Coke kinda girl. lol

Yeah, and frustrated isn't a good time to join a thread.

 

[Adstar]

Hey everyone and Merry Christmas

The more I come into here the more fed up I get. Its impossible to have a normal discussion without it exploding into name calling and accusations.
New people who come here are disgusted by the ''lack of love'' from people here and the ''war zones". If they make a political thread, they get attacked. If they make a bible discussion thread or a few, they get attacked for ''that being their first thread".
People ask a serious question as they are hurt or whatever and what do they get? Go see a doctor and get some meds.. Seriously?
People ask a question like ''I hear God,how about you?" and people end up arguing and talking about the ''false doctrine" they think there is, instead of answering the question.
Not even talking about the ''how dare you create a thread like this on Christmas".

I am not so sure if this body of Christ here is the same that Jesus spoke of and taught about, it surely doesnt seem like it.

Just my two cents
Have a good day, I'm out

The best thing to do if people do not like the way another person is dealing with them in CC is to put that person on ignore...

I do not know why people who are getting worn down and are tired by the negativity of some posters don't do this????? It is as if they like the fight and hate the fight at the same time... If someone causes you to feel this way then Block them.......

Oh and no one ever lives up to the perfection of the Lord Jesus Christ... We all from time to time allow our emotions to get the better of us and we do a poor job in expressing our points.. Thats human,, That's why we all need Jesus to cover our failings...

 

[Desertsrose]

Hey everyone and Merry Christmas

The more I come into here the more fed up I get. Its impossible to have a normal discussion without it exploding into name calling and accusations.
New people who come here are disgusted by the ''lack of love'' from people here and the ''war zones". If they make a political thread, they get attacked. If they make a bible discussion thread or a few, they get attacked for ''that being their first thread".
People ask a serious question as they are hurt or whatever and what do they get? Go see a doctor and get some meds.. Seriously?
People ask a question like ''I hear God,how about you?" and people end up arguing and talking about the ''false doctrine" they think there is, instead of answering the question.
Not even talking about the ''how dare you create a thread like this on Christmas".

I am not so sure if this body of Christ here is the same that Jesus spoke of and taught about, it surely doesnt seem like it.

Just my two cents
Have a good day, I'm out

Hi Demi, Hugs!

I'm so glad you started this thread and I hope that some on here will hear your heart. I do!

I am new here and I guess my expectations were too high. You know, like you and others, I don't mind the disagreements because they will happen. I expect them.

Sometimes I've noticed it's simply a misunderstanding and there was an apology. I wanted to leap through my screen and give both of those brothers a hug! That's love in action!

What I really dislike is the belittling, the name calling, telling others there not a Christian if they don't believe a certain way or whatever. Many are quick to judge wrongly or harshly. It seems some do it to be funny; it's not funny.

What has happened to real love? What is love?

-turning the other cheek
-thinking more highly of others than you think of yourselves.
-taking the wrong.
-considering how to provoke one another to love and good deeds.
-forgiving one another.
-building one another up.
-serving one another.
-being gentle
-being kind
-being filled with goodness
-being patient
-nut being rude
-not writing a list of wrongs
-not puffed up
-not easily angered
-it's not envious
-it doesn't go out to impress others
-it's not arrogant
-it's not conceited
-it doesn't speak evil of one another
-it's not accuastory
-it doesn't gloat over being correct or others being incorrect
-it doesn't gloat over the sins of others
-it's slow to be offended
-it gives others the benefit of the doubt
-it delights in truth
-it perseveres
-it bears up under any trial
-it always hopes and never loses faith
-it abides forever
-it's full of joy
-it's faithful
-it's peaceful
-it enables you to have self control
-it enables you to die for your brother

I didn't put anyone on an ignore list.

I'm not sure how to do that so what I've been doing is ignoring the whole thread of some posts so that I don't have to read the awful belittling if you not believe their way or the name calling, or the tantrum throwing, etc.

I hope and pray that those who read this thread, that they take the words to heart. We are new creations in Christ, we're no longer bound to the sin nature. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we don't have to be living out of the carnal flesh. Let's not rise to the occasion. If someone has wronged you, don't wrong them back. Forgive instead.

The word says that if we walk in step with the Spirit, if we're filled with the Spirit, we won't carry out the deeds of the flesh. Let's prove those words true.

So everyone, let's live in the truth of God's word. The enemies tactics are to get us to hate one another, to not forgive or not show love to one another. Don't give the enemy place. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you, resist the enemy and He must flee.

Love each one here, we're even to love our enemy. Love them completely and don't react out of the old carnal nature. God has given you His nature. Let's walk in truth, in Holiness, and righteousness.

Let's repent and forgive each other. If we blow it let's be quick to apologize.

And the devil does have his emissaries on here. Don't give them fuel. If you have to, ignore them when they try to get your goat. The enemy loves it when we are at each other's throats. Let's shame the devil by walking in the Spirit and truly loving one another.

 

[RickyZ]

Demi,

This seems very odd



1. Freedom of Thought

A. If YOU feel something is wrong...
it is right and just to point it out.

B. If OTHERS feel something is wrong...
it is NOT right and just to point it out, if it doesn't agree with you?



2. Freedom of Emotion

A. If You feel something is wrong...
it is alright to talk strongly against it, in the strongest manner.

B. If OTHERS feel something is wrong...
it is NOT alright to talk about it strongly, if it doesn't agree with you?






* Unless YOU are the arbiter of all speech,
then you need to let everyone have their opinions and emotions...
just as you do.


* I don't agree with all the opinions here either... so what?

It's not the opinions. It's the attitudes that deliver them.

 

[RickyZ]

why does the bdf have so many more posts than other places, like the family forum?

If we were doing what we should the prayer forum would be the busiest, and the bdf would be nothing but crickets

 

[GODisLOVE7]

Hey everyone and Merry Christmas

The more I come into here the more fed up I get. Its impossible to have a normal discussion without it exploding into name calling and accusations.
New people who come here are disgusted by the ''lack of love'' from people here and the ''war zones". If they make a political thread, they get attacked. If they make a bible discussion thread or a few, they get attacked for ''that being their first thread".
People ask a serious question as they are hurt or whatever and what do they get? Go see a doctor and get some meds.. Seriously?
People ask a question like ''I hear God,how about you?" and people end up arguing and talking about the ''false doctrine" they think there is, instead of answering the question.
Not even talking about the ''how dare you create a thread like this on Christmas".

I am not so sure if this body of Christ here is the same that Jesus spoke of and taught about, it surely doesnt seem like it.

Just my two cents
Have a good day, I'm out

I'm like super new to this site (only a few days!) and was one of those people who posted that I had trepidation with posting things to the forum because of what I was reading. With that said, I've made a few posts and have been able to joke around, have a laugh, participate in cool discussions, read interesting opinions and get feedback from others (thanks all!)

We are all human, and although we don't want to be attached to human approval, we still are affected by it. I'm sure there are lots that truly do not care... And good for them! Its something though that all of us face at one point or another, whether on CC or out in the world.

Personally, as I type out a post, I ask myself my motives. What is it reflecting in my heart? I have written many posts and have deleted before posting because of this question. Self righteousness, seeking approval, and intolerance were what I found when I looked within. Disgusting. Matthew 23:28 comes to mind. Even a whiff of that and its deleted (although its not always foolproof). My mind will try and cover these things up with "well, people can learn from my thoughts" and "you are helping people". I don't want to masquerade around lying to myself when really I'm feeding the monster within.

Do I think people on CC need to hear my opinions? No. 1 Corinthians 2:5. Can I do more damage than good with my words? Yes. James 3:5

It's also an exercise in how I judge others. Do I pass judgement on people here? Absolutely, all the time. What am I going to do with it? Well... pray and ask God to help me to view others how He does.

It has everything to do with my own walk, allowing Him to strengthen me, teach me, and renew my mind and less to do with educating others. If people smile or laugh or walk away with something because I shared... Awesome! Thats a bonus, not a necessity.

So now I'm gonna hit the 'post' button... Whew. This one actually made it! Lol

 

[Demi777]

Well im coke and Dr. Pepper so maybe we should make an appointment lol jk

I'm a diet-decaf Pepsi/Coke kinda girl. lol

Yeah, and frustrated isn't a good time to join a thread.

 

[Demi777]

Amen to that!!
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Hi Demi, Hugs!

I'm so glad you started this thread and I hope that some on here will hear your heart. I do!

I am new here and I guess my expectations were too high. You know, like you and others, I don't mind the disagreements because they will happen. I expect them.

Sometimes I've noticed it's simply a misunderstanding and there was an apology. I wanted to leap through my screen and give both of those brothers a hug! That's love in action!

What I really dislike is the belittling, the name calling, telling others there not a Christian if they don't believe a certain way or whatever. Many are quick to judge wrongly or harshly. It seems some do it to be funny; it's not funny.

What has happened to real love? What is love?

-turning the other cheek
-thinking more highly of others than you think of yourselves.
-taking the wrong.
-considering how to provoke one another to love and good deeds.
-forgiving one another.
-building one another up.
-serving one another.
-being gentle
-being kind
-being filled with goodness
-being patient
-nut being rude
-not writing a list of wrongs
-not puffed up
-not easily angered
-it's not envious
-it doesn't go out to impress others
-it's not arrogant
-it's not conceited
-it doesn't speak evil of one another
-it's not accuastory
-it doesn't gloat over being correct or others being incorrect
-it doesn't gloat over the sins of others
-it's slow to be offended
-it gives others the benefit of the doubt
-it delights in truth
-it perseveres
-it bears up under any trial
-it always hopes and never loses faith
-it abides forever
-it's full of joy
-it's faithful
-it's peaceful
-it enables you to have self control
-it enables you to die for your brother

I didn't put anyone on an ignore list.

I'm not sure how to do that so what I've been doing is ignoring the whole thread of some posts so that I don't have to read the awful belittling if you not believe their way or the name calling, or the tantrum throwing, etc.

I hope and pray that those who read this thread, that they take the words to heart. We are new creations in Christ, we're no longer bound to the sin nature. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we don't have to be living out of the carnal flesh. Let's not rise to the occasion. If someone has wronged you, don't wrong them back. Forgive instead.

The word says that if we walk in step with the Spirit, if we're filled with the Spirit, we won't carry out the deeds of the flesh. Let's prove those words true.

So everyone, let's live in the truth of God's word. The enemies tactics are to get us to hate one another, to not forgive or not show love to one another. Don't give the enemy place. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you, resist the enemy and He must flee.

Love each one here, we're even to love our enemy. Love them completely and don't react out of the old carnal nature. God has given you His nature. Let's walk in truth, in Holiness, and righteousness.

Let's repent and forgive each other. If we blow it let's be quick to apologize.

And the devil does have his emissaries on here. Don't give them fuel. If you have to, ignore them when they try to get your goat. The enemy loves it when we are at each other's throats. Let's shame the devil by walking in the Spirit and truly loving one another.

 

[Demi777]

Very well said sister, Thank you

I'm like super new to this site (only a few days!) and was one of those people who posted that I had trepidation with posting things to the forum because of what I was reading. With that said, I've made a few posts and have been able to joke around, have a laugh, participate in cool discussions, read interesting opinions and get feedback from others (thanks all!)

We are all human, and although we don't want to be attached to human approval, we still are affected by it. I'm sure there are lots that truly do not care... And good for them! Its something though that all of us face at one point or another, whether on CC or out in the world.

Personally, as I type out a post, I ask myself my motives. What is it reflecting in my heart? I have written many posts and have deleted before posting because of this question. Self righteousness, seeking approval, and intolerance were what I found when I looked within. Disgusting. Matthew 23:28 comes to mind. Even a whiff of that and its deleted (although its not always foolproof). My mind will try and cover these things up with "well, people can learn from my thoughts" and "you are helping people". I don't want to masquerade around lying to myself when really I'm feeding the monster within.

Do I think people on CC need to hear my opinions? No. 1 Corinthians 2:5. Can I do more damage than good with my words? Yes. James 3:5

It's also an exercise in how I judge others. Do I pass judgement on people here? Absolutely, all the time. What am I going to do with it? Well... pray and ask God to help me to view others how He does.

It has everything to do with my own walk, allowing Him to strengthen me, teach me, and renew my mind and less to do with educating others. If people smile or laugh or walk away with something because I shared... Awesome! Thats a bonus, not a necessity.

So now I'm gonna hit the 'post' button... Whew. This one actually made it! Lol

 

[zeroturbulence]

Hey everyone and Merry Christmas

The more I come into here the more fed up I get. Its impossible to have a normal discussion without it exploding into name calling and accusations.
New people who come here are disgusted by the ''lack of love'' from people here and the ''war zones". If they make a political thread, they get attacked. If they make a bible discussion thread or a few, they get attacked for ''that being their first thread".
People ask a serious question as they are hurt or whatever and what do they get? Go see a doctor and get some meds.. Seriously?
People ask a question like ''I hear God,how about you?" and people end up arguing and talking about the ''false doctrine" they think there is, instead of answering the question.
Not even talking about the ''how dare you create a thread like this on Christmas".

I am not so sure if this body of Christ here is the same that Jesus spoke of and taught about, it surely doesnt seem like it.

Just my two cents
Have a good day, I'm out

Please don't leave, Demi. It's all just cause of end times, ya know... That's why I stay out of the BDF and other controversial forums. Things are very different now than they were just 15 years ago. People online show little or no respect for others and are very self-righteous and uncaring. And its even worse outside of christian websites. I always liked to think it wasn't as bad offline but after all the things that happened with this election cycle I see now that a lot of people are just as bad in real life.


2 Timothy 3:

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. [SUP]2 [/SUP]People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, [SUP]3 [/SUP]without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, [SUP]4 [/SUP]treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— [SUP]5 [/SUP]having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. [SUP]6 [/SUP]They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over gullible women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, [SUP]7 [/SUP]always learning but never able to come to a knowledge of the truth. [SUP]8 [/SUP]Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so also these teachers oppose the truth. They are men of depraved minds, who, as far as the faith is concerned, are rejected. [SUP]9 [/SUP]But they will not get very far because, as in the case of those men, their folly will be clear to everyone.

 

[GaryA]

Amen to that!!
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Add them as a Friend --- then, Ignore them!






HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

 

[Demi777]

aww thanks brother luv ya ((huuugs))

Please don't leave, Demi. It's all just cause of end times, ya know... That's why I stay out of the BDF and other controversial forums. Things are very different now than they were just 15 years ago. People online show little or no respect for others and are very self-righteous and uncaring. And its even worse outside of christian websites. I always liked to think it wasn't as bad offline but after all the things that happened with this election cycle I see now that a lot of people are just as bad in real life.


2 Timothy 3:

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. [SUP]2 [/SUP]People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, [SUP]3 [/SUP]without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, [SUP]4 [/SUP]treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— [SUP]5 [/SUP]having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. [SUP]6 [/SUP]They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over gullible women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, [SUP]7 [/SUP]always learning but never able to come to a knowledge of the truth. [SUP]8 [/SUP]Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so also these teachers oppose the truth. They are men of depraved minds, who, as far as the faith is concerned, are rejected. [SUP]9 [/SUP]But they will not get very far because, as in the case of those men, their folly will be clear to everyone.

 

[Demi777]

Well Gary This is how we do

That's Right!!

Add them as a Friend --- then, Ignore them!






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