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personally i don't really say age as a contributing factor at all (unless you're like ghastly young!)
i think its more about where both members of the relationship are at...
for example one having a full time career and one still at high school or uni or something - they're heading in different directions - ones settles and ones not. the uni student when eventually finished will go where the job is after uni - but the careered person will need to stay where the job is.
so yea
i think being at similar stages in life is important.
i think its more about where both members of the relationship are at...
for example one having a full time career and one still at high school or uni or something - they're heading in different directions - ones settles and ones not. the uni student when eventually finished will go where the job is after uni - but the careered person will need to stay where the job is.
so yea
i think being at similar stages in life is important.
G
I've been married twice: once for 7 years to a woman who was 7 years my senior (I was not a Christian), and once for 15 years to a woman who was 11 years my junior (I was a Christian).
Age DOES make a difference. Oh, not in whether you can find things in common, or whether you can love each other - but you go through life changes in your mid-20s and again in your mid-30s. I am in my mid-40s now and someone else is forcing me to go through a life change I'd like to avoid (divorce).
But I ended up basically raising my second wife, and I think my first wife basically raised me. I WAS immature. There's a lot of patience needed for the older person in the relationship. Plus, its possible that you will have many morals that are different and many different expectations, simply because of your age difference.
Are these differences insurmountable? I dont think so. But, then again, maybe so for some people. There are a lot of issues involved, but my second wife is divorcing me after 15 years and 4 kids in part because she is going through a "mid-life" crisis. If you are going through life changes at different times, you have to be patient with the other one and work extra hard to make a marriage work.
As for 15-16 year olds dating 18-20 year olds, its creepy because BOTH of them are still children, and in the USA at least, one is legally a child still.
One should not date until one is ready to get married, and then it should be used to find your spouse. Dating for any other reason sets you up for sin (temptation at the very least).
Age DOES make a difference. Oh, not in whether you can find things in common, or whether you can love each other - but you go through life changes in your mid-20s and again in your mid-30s. I am in my mid-40s now and someone else is forcing me to go through a life change I'd like to avoid (divorce).
But I ended up basically raising my second wife, and I think my first wife basically raised me. I WAS immature. There's a lot of patience needed for the older person in the relationship. Plus, its possible that you will have many morals that are different and many different expectations, simply because of your age difference.
Are these differences insurmountable? I dont think so. But, then again, maybe so for some people. There are a lot of issues involved, but my second wife is divorcing me after 15 years and 4 kids in part because she is going through a "mid-life" crisis. If you are going through life changes at different times, you have to be patient with the other one and work extra hard to make a marriage work.
As for 15-16 year olds dating 18-20 year olds, its creepy because BOTH of them are still children, and in the USA at least, one is legally a child still.
One should not date until one is ready to get married, and then it should be used to find your spouse. Dating for any other reason sets you up for sin (temptation at the very least).
W
The problem with a 16yo girl dating a 19-20yo guy is that they are in two very different stages of life. Perspectives change when you graduate high school and have to live in the real world. If a college-age guy is scoping out high school girls, I personally think there's something wrong.
I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a great book to read to get an idea of how you should approach relationships with the opposite sex.
I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a great book to read to get an idea of how you should approach relationships with the opposite sex.
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I do agree with all of you. and i do agree that if the law says it is illegal then we need to obay the law. as i would not date some one that young (personal choice and illegal) i do think tho that God is the one that we do answer to. my whole point to asking the question was that if God is to bring two people together then who is man to take them apart. with that being said i dont think God would put any 2 people together that would jeopardize us legally. everyone that has posted here has posted excellent comments and well worth the reading.
Well I loved my grandpa too! What a beautiful grand daughter he has. I bet he wants her to enjoy her youth with a young strong husband that knows just as much as she does about what she is going with her life. Of course he cares about her right...
What does a 16 year old high school kid have in common with a 20 year old? Four years age difference is a lot at these ages. They are at 2 different stages in their lives.
She is still a teenager, maybe she's just starting to drive. She's still in high school! The 20 year old, what is he doing? Working, attending college.... My question would be, Why isn't he more interested in someone his age? Let's just say the 16 year old is in her Junior year in school, when she's in her Senior year, what's she going to do...take her 21 year old boyfriend to the prom? Dating someone closer in age is more appropriate at that age.
She is still a teenager, maybe she's just starting to drive. She's still in high school! The 20 year old, what is he doing? Working, attending college.... My question would be, Why isn't he more interested in someone his age? Let's just say the 16 year old is in her Junior year in school, when she's in her Senior year, what's she going to do...take her 21 year old boyfriend to the prom? Dating someone closer in age is more appropriate at that age.