Men and Jobs (or rather, the lack of one)
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Hi Emily,
Although guys share a lot in common, they all have personalities that differ from one another.
Have you ever drawn any of them into a conversation about what they're feeling, how they're thinking about their unemployment or about why they aren't content in their job?
Some guys are visionaries and once the vision comes into being, they become bored and need a new challenge.
Others are content at whatever they find and strive to move up within the company.
Others don't like their job and take whatever job comes available, but they continue to look for something they would enjoy doing.
And some want better pay.
Competition.
Worldly peer pressure, in other words keeping up with the Joneses.
I'm sure others will add to that list. That's what I know from others.
What's really one of the best thing you can do including prayer is to listen.
Show interest with how they're feeling. Some guys can't express what they're going through, but you know there frustrated.
Let them be frustrated, be their friend and really listen. Talk when they want to talk. Be quiet when they don't want to share what's going on inside.
I don't think there's a one size fits all kind of answer though. I think this is in James and paraphrased - If anyone lacks wisdom, let him pray and God will give wisdom liberally to the single-minded person.
Although guys share a lot in common, they all have personalities that differ from one another.
Have you ever drawn any of them into a conversation about what they're feeling, how they're thinking about their unemployment or about why they aren't content in their job?
Some guys are visionaries and once the vision comes into being, they become bored and need a new challenge.
Others are content at whatever they find and strive to move up within the company.
Others don't like their job and take whatever job comes available, but they continue to look for something they would enjoy doing.
And some want better pay.
Competition.
Worldly peer pressure, in other words keeping up with the Joneses.
I'm sure others will add to that list. That's what I know from others.
What's really one of the best thing you can do including prayer is to listen.
Show interest with how they're feeling. Some guys can't express what they're going through, but you know there frustrated.
Let them be frustrated, be their friend and really listen. Talk when they want to talk. Be quiet when they don't want to share what's going on inside.
I don't think there's a one size fits all kind of answer though. I think this is in James and paraphrased - If anyone lacks wisdom, let him pray and God will give wisdom liberally to the single-minded person.
around our house we have several different plaques that read a scripture that is quite un-comfortable
for a lot of people...
one is on the garage steps where our company comes in, and says, 'Jesus Wept'
and another one is on the living-room-wall and says, 'The just shall live by Faith'...
they've been there for years and never, never have we had ONE COMMENT
on the value of these precious sayings-nor to the obvious relationship that they actively play in o
both of our own lives as a witness, unfortunately the common-duck comes out and clams up
for their tongues are taken...
just a share...
for a lot of people...
one is on the garage steps where our company comes in, and says, 'Jesus Wept'
and another one is on the living-room-wall and says, 'The just shall live by Faith'...
they've been there for years and never, never have we had ONE COMMENT
on the value of these precious sayings-nor to the obvious relationship that they actively play in o
both of our own lives as a witness, unfortunately the common-duck comes out and clams up
for their tongues are taken...
just a share...
I am going to take a different direction here. You seem to be saying, not that one boyfriend is like this, but a string of them? Right?
I think you are attracting the wrong kind of man! I know the first main boyfriend I had as an adult, hated work. He always had an excuse. Then he decided he didn't want to work. It was a rocky relationship. I finally got out, and purposed in my heart, I would not go near another irresponsible man.
That was the right move. I met a wonderful man in college, who was there to get a job and career. We fell in love, and after 32 years working for the same company, he retired two years ago. I also worked, being a teacher, until I became disabled. We both have good pensions, and although money was tight in the beginning, not giving up really helped us stay debt free and always have a good incoming salary.
I realize there are circumstances and careers in which it is hard to get a job. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about continually ending up dating men who make excuses for themselves, and have no intention of really finding work. That is what you are attracting!
Or, is it that you are attracted to a certain type of man? Maybe a handsome, strong and athletic type that was enabled by his family, school and society his whole life? Never had to do anything at home, never thought for some reason he would not have to have a career some day? Maybe thought he could make it on his good looks or his athletic ability? You know the type.
Not to stereotype! My second son was a gifted athlete and very handsome. But we had high expectations of him at home, and he certainly was driven to perform in the sport of his choice. He also had some good friends who told him to get a good career. He became a chartered account. He met a hardworking young woman, who is now a doctor. All his friends also have careers and good jobs.
Hang around friends that are going out with men who have jobs or prospects. And if my speculation is totally wrong, I'm sorry. It just seems like there are really lots of good men, but you have to look for them!
I think you are attracting the wrong kind of man! I know the first main boyfriend I had as an adult, hated work. He always had an excuse. Then he decided he didn't want to work. It was a rocky relationship. I finally got out, and purposed in my heart, I would not go near another irresponsible man.
That was the right move. I met a wonderful man in college, who was there to get a job and career. We fell in love, and after 32 years working for the same company, he retired two years ago. I also worked, being a teacher, until I became disabled. We both have good pensions, and although money was tight in the beginning, not giving up really helped us stay debt free and always have a good incoming salary.
I realize there are circumstances and careers in which it is hard to get a job. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about continually ending up dating men who make excuses for themselves, and have no intention of really finding work. That is what you are attracting!
Or, is it that you are attracted to a certain type of man? Maybe a handsome, strong and athletic type that was enabled by his family, school and society his whole life? Never had to do anything at home, never thought for some reason he would not have to have a career some day? Maybe thought he could make it on his good looks or his athletic ability? You know the type.
Not to stereotype! My second son was a gifted athlete and very handsome. But we had high expectations of him at home, and he certainly was driven to perform in the sport of his choice. He also had some good friends who told him to get a good career. He became a chartered account. He met a hardworking young woman, who is now a doctor. All his friends also have careers and good jobs.
Hang around friends that are going out with men who have jobs or prospects. And if my speculation is totally wrong, I'm sorry. It just seems like there are really lots of good men, but you have to look for them!
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Wow man, that is so cool! Out of school at 17. Is that the norm in the USA or are you just clever? 
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Not being a man, I can't say what men think...
In the case of my husband, all I can say is it was his birthday, and I asked him what he wanted to do for the day. He said I want to work out in the shop. I said you don't want to get out and do something fun instead? (being me, working in the dark danky shop isn't my idea of fun) He replied....working to make money, to support myself and my family, gives me a purpose which makes me happy, so working IS fun for me.
I get that. Because to me, growing/cooking foods that are healthy for him to eat, that he will also enjoy, or making sure he has neat clothes to wear, without stains and whatnot, keeping the household and business bills paid, ordering materials and such so he doesn't have to or even making sure the dishes are done and the kitchen isn't a petri dish and going to make someone sick...those things give me a purpose also, because they help him do what he loves. (if that makes sense)
In the case of my husband, all I can say is it was his birthday, and I asked him what he wanted to do for the day. He said I want to work out in the shop. I said you don't want to get out and do something fun instead? (being me, working in the dark danky shop isn't my idea of fun) He replied....working to make money, to support myself and my family, gives me a purpose which makes me happy, so working IS fun for me.
I get that. Because to me, growing/cooking foods that are healthy for him to eat, that he will also enjoy, or making sure he has neat clothes to wear, without stains and whatnot, keeping the household and business bills paid, ordering materials and such so he doesn't have to or even making sure the dishes are done and the kitchen isn't a petri dish and going to make someone sick...those things give me a purpose also, because they help him do what he loves. (if that makes sense)