Loosening faith and having doubt becoming an Atheist
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It sounds like your parents have a lot of problems and not much time to devote to your care. It also sounds like you think God, Who is the creator of the universe and all there is, and the author and giver of life, should not be jealous for a people who promised their loyalty to Him... while you are jealous of people you hardly even know, but allow to negatively affect you so much you want to end your life.
Do you know that the root of the word jealous, is zealous? Do you know what that word means? You are jealous because you are envious of people who have things you do not, and you covet those things. God is zealous and wants to give you more than you can possibly comprehend. Rebelling against God won't get you what you really want. You have walked away or given up on faith, so what you have now is the freedom to sin as much as you like, while not even realizing that your sin is what is causing you pain right now. Where is sinning even more going to get you? If you think you feel bad now, sinning a whole lot more is not going to make it better, but worse.
Do you know that the root of the word jealous, is zealous? Do you know what that word means? You are jealous because you are envious of people who have things you do not, and you covet those things. God is zealous and wants to give you more than you can possibly comprehend. Rebelling against God won't get you what you really want. You have walked away or given up on faith, so what you have now is the freedom to sin as much as you like, while not even realizing that your sin is what is causing you pain right now. Where is sinning even more going to get you? If you think you feel bad now, sinning a whole lot more is not going to make it better, but worse.
I agree this life sucks. Who cares about pretty or not pretty, everybody gets ugly eventually. If rich people have it so good why is there so much drug and alcohol abuse and sex addiction among the rich and famous. This whole world is going down the toilette, that's why it's so important to be a Christian. What's the point of suffering in this life and eternity? Submit to Christ and one day we will have life to the full.
U
When people take God out of their lives en masse, and become selfish, what sorts of things do we see?
Casual sex leading to STDs
Unwanted pregnancy, and possibly abortion, which often leads to depresssion
Alcoholism
Drug addiction
Being an angry and bitter person, which only causes you to mistreat others and generate more hate in the world
Prostitution, almost always tied to addiction
Sex trafficking
Domestic abuse
Terrorism
Violence
Crack babies
Murder
Child molestation
This is a small view of selfish living. If this is your idea of freedom, then go for it. But the more people that serve themselves the more of this kind, and more, behaviors we will see.
I remember 20+ years ago Christmas was a happy time. I have seen the level of selfishness and pride rise in people. I have also seen a rise in anger and violence. Now Christmas is a time for trampling people and getting into fights in stores over cheap priced, low quality crap.
If you think being a Christian means God makes everything how you want it, then you clearly have no Real understanding of God or the bible. And if you think non-Christians should always be suffering and struggling, then i repeat my previous line.
There are a Lot of people on this site who have gone through as much, and in some cases, worse than you have. They difference between them and you? They don't look at others and feel that they are entitled to the same things others have. They focus more on maturity and personal growth and learning to improve their situation, not getting mad and throwing tantrums because things aren't going their way. I've had a lot of bad things happen in my life. Yet i know it's not God's responsibility to fix it all. He Never promised that.
Really if you aren't happy with your life, it's up to You to start working at changing it. And God can, and will, help you. But He isn't going to do it for you.
And i've been down that 'suicide' road before. And i've known others who have as well. Not one of them regrets still being alive, and are All thankful they didn't kill themselves.
Casual sex leading to STDs
Unwanted pregnancy, and possibly abortion, which often leads to depresssion
Alcoholism
Drug addiction
Being an angry and bitter person, which only causes you to mistreat others and generate more hate in the world
Prostitution, almost always tied to addiction
Sex trafficking
Domestic abuse
Terrorism
Violence
Crack babies
Murder
Child molestation
This is a small view of selfish living. If this is your idea of freedom, then go for it. But the more people that serve themselves the more of this kind, and more, behaviors we will see.
I remember 20+ years ago Christmas was a happy time. I have seen the level of selfishness and pride rise in people. I have also seen a rise in anger and violence. Now Christmas is a time for trampling people and getting into fights in stores over cheap priced, low quality crap.
If you think being a Christian means God makes everything how you want it, then you clearly have no Real understanding of God or the bible. And if you think non-Christians should always be suffering and struggling, then i repeat my previous line.
There are a Lot of people on this site who have gone through as much, and in some cases, worse than you have. They difference between them and you? They don't look at others and feel that they are entitled to the same things others have. They focus more on maturity and personal growth and learning to improve their situation, not getting mad and throwing tantrums because things aren't going their way. I've had a lot of bad things happen in my life. Yet i know it's not God's responsibility to fix it all. He Never promised that.
Really if you aren't happy with your life, it's up to You to start working at changing it. And God can, and will, help you. But He isn't going to do it for you.
And i've been down that 'suicide' road before. And i've known others who have as well. Not one of them regrets still being alive, and are All thankful they didn't kill themselves.
Those acts express His attributes of justice. He punishes sin and iniquity, and being Sovereign He determines the when and the how.
If a human was running to become judge, it is highly doubtful anyone would vote him in because he promised to let all criminals in his court off the hook. What some think would make a wonderful god is in fact a horrible suggestion as illustrated.
But absurdly so, people expect that with God and become up in arms when, well, He is God and acts justly. Pray that He has mercy on you and get some help for your thoughts and struggles.
If a human was running to become judge, it is highly doubtful anyone would vote him in because he promised to let all criminals in his court off the hook. What some think would make a wonderful god is in fact a horrible suggestion as illustrated.
But absurdly so, people expect that with God and become up in arms when, well, He is God and acts justly. Pray that He has mercy on you and get some help for your thoughts and struggles.
Hi, Soniablue. I'm so sorry you're are feeling so sad. Please know this one truth -- GOD LOVES YOU! Just as you are! He is your friend and He hears you. God will never give up on you and He is always there for you. Abundance is not about material things in life, it's about joy and hope in Jesus that you will one day be united with Christ face to face. Please don't hurt yourself. Please seek help. I am a survivor of suicide. My brother committed suicide about 16 months ago and the guilt and devastation is oftentimes unbearable. About a week after his death, I committed my life to Jesus and He has never failed me. When I seek him with all of my heart, He is faithful and just and I find Him. He loves you and waits with open arms for you to run to them and be protected. Trust me, it's not all peaches and cream. I too have my days of depression and doubt. But God never fails to rescue me from my suffering when I'm truly honest with Him. May I suggest a way for you to read Psalm 23. Slowly and repeatedly, read it with emphases on a different word each time. For example: THE Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want; The LORD is my Shepherd, I shall not want; The Lord IS my Shepherd, I shall not want; The Lord is MY Shepherd, I shall not want; The Lord is my SHEPHERD, I shall not want; The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want; The Lord is my Shepherd, I SHALL not want; et cetera. May I also suggest that you read the book of John. No one is perfect and the Lord does not expect perfection. He is satisfied with perseverance. He wants you to believe that He loves you and it pains Him when you do not remember this. He does not want you to suffer; He truly suffers with you. He sees your pain and wants to help you through it. You have to be willing to let Him in. I will most definitely be lifting you in prayer. I'm glad you came here for support.
soniablue -
You are in a lot of pain because everything is going against you and you have nowhere to turn for help and God doesn't seem to care. This is what leads to suicide. I know. Too much pain and no hope in sight. Seems like there is no way out..
Sometimes life gets this way and I know because I told myself that I didn't care if I went to hell because there were so many people there anyway so I would at least have company. The only thing that kept me from doing it was fear. Not fear of dying but fear of the pain from killing myself. So instead I screamed at God and cried and screamed some more and cried until I couldn't anymore. Then I felt numb inside and I went on with life like a robot...
But eventually things did change for the better, they always do. Believe me. I have wanted to die many times in life and have been at that place many times where it looks like there is no way out, but a way always comes eventually.
What you need most right now is what the bible calls "patient endurance". It is what keeps us going through the storms, through the tough times, through a life of hell.... patient endurance... Jesus cried out on the cross, "Father, Father, why have you abandoned me!" He too, felt like he was abandoned by God in his most painful, agonizing hour.... But God was always there... even though He may be silent in your darkest days, He is there... waiting for just the right time to bring you out of your misery.. just as He did not abandon Jesus on the cross.. He will not abandon you as well.
You can give in and take your life, only to realize that you will never ever have a chance again to feel good and to experience life.... or... you can live with patient endurance and deal with life one day at a time until things change for the better.. and they always do.
"Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised." (Hebrews 10:36 NLT)
I will pray for you, sister. God bless you.
- G.
You are in a lot of pain because everything is going against you and you have nowhere to turn for help and God doesn't seem to care. This is what leads to suicide. I know. Too much pain and no hope in sight. Seems like there is no way out..
Sometimes life gets this way and I know because I told myself that I didn't care if I went to hell because there were so many people there anyway so I would at least have company. The only thing that kept me from doing it was fear. Not fear of dying but fear of the pain from killing myself. So instead I screamed at God and cried and screamed some more and cried until I couldn't anymore. Then I felt numb inside and I went on with life like a robot...
But eventually things did change for the better, they always do. Believe me. I have wanted to die many times in life and have been at that place many times where it looks like there is no way out, but a way always comes eventually.
What you need most right now is what the bible calls "patient endurance". It is what keeps us going through the storms, through the tough times, through a life of hell.... patient endurance... Jesus cried out on the cross, "Father, Father, why have you abandoned me!" He too, felt like he was abandoned by God in his most painful, agonizing hour.... But God was always there... even though He may be silent in your darkest days, He is there... waiting for just the right time to bring you out of your misery.. just as He did not abandon Jesus on the cross.. He will not abandon you as well.
You can give in and take your life, only to realize that you will never ever have a chance again to feel good and to experience life.... or... you can live with patient endurance and deal with life one day at a time until things change for the better.. and they always do.
"Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised." (Hebrews 10:36 NLT)
I will pray for you, sister. God bless you.
- G.
Dear sis,
In my humble opinion, the life of Job in the book of Job in the Bible would be something that could help you out of the pressure you're facing. In his défense, he was a righteous man, yet he had many misfortunes. He lost his property, children, got an untouchable disease and friends who couldn't help much.
Dear sis, I think you're going through a hard test in life, what you need to understand that with the help of the Holy Spirit, it is possible to gain victory over the depressions of life that you're facing.
In my humble opinion, the life of Job in the book of Job in the Bible would be something that could help you out of the pressure you're facing. In his défense, he was a righteous man, yet he had many misfortunes. He lost his property, children, got an untouchable disease and friends who couldn't help much.
Dear sis, I think you're going through a hard test in life, what you need to understand that with the help of the Holy Spirit, it is possible to gain victory over the depressions of life that you're facing.