So I was in an argument with my fiancé for a days over our wedding date. He wanted it one day and I out of spite wanted it another day. However I used the excuse that it wasn't ready(which it is very close) My parents didnt approve( but they are okay with it now) I am gonna miss my mom( which is the truth) So somethings have come up and we did move it. He is okay with it but last night I said a prayer for the inspector with him for the inspector to approve our home and to honesty I didn't mean it. I wanted it not to get approved because I wanted to be right that it may not be ready. Because I had been feeling guilty about moving it out of spite when in fact it could have been ready. Anyway we didn't get approved day and I feel it is all my fault now. I prayed a lie. I don't think God would punish him for my actions but is this my fault? Y'all can be honest. I need to hear the truth.
Feeling a lot of guilt
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Amazing-Grace
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I'm not quite sure what you are saying by this post. First you talk about a wedding date and then a home inspection. Based on your previous posts I would probably surmise that whatever is going on that you should not have any guilt over it.
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Pretty much I feel guilty for moving the wedding out of spite. I use the excuse that our home isn't done. It is very close to being done though. It would probably have made the deadline. Our wedding did get moved because my dad may still be out of town for work. Our inspector came today to see if we approve or not and we didn't. I feel that is my fault because I prayed with him that we would find favor in the mans eyes. I didn't mean that though because I wanted to be right that we wouldn't meet the deadline after all so I wouldn't feel so guilty about the date being moved out of spite in the first place.
To be honest your post has confused me.
Why argue over a wedding date?
Why out of spite?
Why the excuse?
Why didn't your parents approve?
Why you gonna miss your mom?
What came up?
Why may you not be ready?
What is the lie you think you prayed?
Truth is God will nor punish him for your actions.
I think in order to be honest with you (well me anyway) I can't give advice.
In order to hear the truth we must determine if you have been blinded by lies.
I hope I make sense.
Your brother in Christ.
Bill
Read her other threads. No offense to her, but she can't tell the truth to save her life. :/ To the OP, I agree with Amazing-Grace. You need to grow up and stop being so immature. And really really try HARD to stop lying..
Sorry can you clarify why you have quoted my post under your comment.
I'm a newbie here.
Do you really want to marry this guy? It doesn't sound to me like you do, and it would be a big mistake to marry someone you didn't want to marry. Neither of you would be happy.
I would just be honest with everyone in involved. Explain your true feelings and then go from there. If you dont like the feller then move on.
Lets get this straight, do your really mean out of spite you wanted a different wedding date to your fiance. Spite to me means out of delibrate awkwardness, or just to be difficult or contentious you wanted a different date. If you didn't feel ready to get married as soon as your fiance does then why could you not be open and honest with him and discussed how you felt. So rather than discussing the real reason you made up an excuse, not particularly wise, you need to learn to discuss things with your future husband, particularly if your want your marriage to work.
So from your post you said that your parents are ok with you marrying this guy but initially didn't approve. Do you mean you are going to miss your Mum because when you are married you wont be living with your parents. Or do you fell you wont be able to see her as much. Marriage is a huge change and yes you wont see your Mum as much but she is still your Mum.
Are your sure you want to marry your fiance? Are you just not ready and do you need to postpone the wedding? There is a saying marry in haste repent at leisure.
I think you feel guilty as you got what you wanted in that the house was not ready despite praying that it would be. Maybe you in reality knew or suspected it wouldn't pass and this was at the back of your mind. No God is not punishing your fiance for your actions. Maybe it would be better to have prayed if it is your will then the house is approved.
As I have already said are you sure you are ready to get married? As others have said you have a lot of growing up to do if this marriage is to work.
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I'll answer, since Blue hasn't come back yet.
1. She was talking to you. That's why your post was included.
2. Your post was under hers, probably because she's using Chrome. Here's the Notice for Chrome Users, (in case non-Chrome users don't see it.) NOTICE FOR CHROME USERS: Latest version of Chrome web browser may have some bug or incompatibility with the text editor here. IF THE SPACE BAR DOES NOT WORK when entering text below press the Enter key first and the space bar should work again.And one of the work arounds to dealing with the space bar not working right now, is to respond above the posts we're responding to, instead of respoding under it. (The advice to use the Enter key doesn't work either.)
It sounds to me like you needed more time to prepare yourself and your new home for marriage and God has granted this to you. You are not being punished. Use this extra time wisely to prepare yourself and your new home and may God shine favor upon you, your wedding, and your new family.
seems to me maybe all the excuses and the lies shows that you are not ready for marriage, you may love the guy, But do you love him enough to move away and spend the rest oof your life with Him. I think when it comes to Marriage that it isn't a joke it is a commitment for the rest of your lives it can not be based on lies or playing games . to me it seems maybe you are doing both at this time.
Because I was replying to your comment. 
This OP has many threads here giving us situations where she lied,and then asked us if lying is a sin. She has a huge problem telling the truth..She tends to ask us questions that she already knows the answer to..
This OP has many threads here giving us situations where she lied,and then asked us if lying is a sin. She has a huge problem telling the truth..She tends to ask us questions that she already knows the answer to..