This guy I like

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There's this guy that I have known for 16 years since middle school and we have been in different church groups together and recently I had some dreams about being with him romantically. I haven't had dreams like that about him until a month ago. Over the last seven months I have been involved in 2 different church groups with him where we see each other twice a week, and before that we hadn't seen each other in years since I went to his Baptist Church in high school. I'm sta...rting to kind of have feelings for him which is weird to me because I have never felt that way about him before. But alot of the time he doesn't show much interest in talking to me and a lot of times says hi in a short tone or barely at all and hardly talks to me, whereas he talks a lot to the other girls. So I don't know if he likes me or what the deal is, why he acts like this towards me.
A couple nights ago I tried to say hi to him several times and all he did was glance at me and wave, didnt say hi back. And kept ignoring me, while he was talking to the other girls. And I overheard him making plans with a girl to go out and giving her his number! Omg and then he and a friend were talking and he mentioned this guy who hasnt been in awhile and so I asked where has he been why isnt he here tonight and he said you seem very interested in him, do you like him? I... said no, and he said is there anyone you like and I said yes, and he asked who, do I know him?. Um what? I didnt know what to say so I said maybe, and he said does he know you like him and I said I doubt it so he said you should tell him. Why would I do that when he doesnt even say hi and barely acknowledges me and makes plans to go out with another girl? And then when he was leaving I said bye and he said bye in a short tone and I said it was nice to see you, and he just looked down with a weirded out look on his face. why?
And then last night when I said hi ihe only said hello in a short tone and then immediately turned and started talking to these other girls, then sat down with an empty space next to him and when I walked up to him he gave me a weird look and then this other girl came over and he gestured to have her sit next to him. but not me. And then later another time I was sitting with an empty spot next to me and instead of sitting next to me he went over across the room and sat somewhere else. why?
 
Well, his blunt tone when he says "hi", and him ignoring you, should kinda clue you in that he's not into you. He's into GIRLS. Lots of girls, ya know, a player? Leave him alone and wait for who GOD has in mind for you. :)
 
The guy obviously is not interested in you. It might be time to let this go. Sorry, but these things happen. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
 
why does he have to ignore me and say hi in a blunt tone? Does he dislike me for some reason?

Ask him. He's the only one that knows the truth. No one here can answer for his thoughts.

Though I must say this whole thing sounds very high school drama.
 
I think you should ask him, and set your mind at rest. If he does not like you, look elsewhere. If he does like you, then you can go out. It's sounds like he doesn't, but who really knows but him? At least if he tells you he doesn't like you, then you won't be all done up about it.
 
There's this guy that I have known for 16 years since middle school and we have been in different church groups together and recently I had some dreams about being with him romantically. I haven't had dreams like that about him until a month ago. Over the last seven months I have been involved in 2 different church groups with him where we see each other twice a week, and before that we hadn't seen each other in years since I went to his Baptist Church in high school. I'm sta...rting to kind of have feelings for him which is weird to me because I have never felt that way about him before. But alot of the time he doesn't show much interest in talking to me and a lot of times says hi in a short tone or barely at all and hardly talks to me, whereas he talks a lot to the other girls. So I don't know if he likes me or what the deal is, why he acts like this towards me.
A couple nights ago I tried to say hi to him several times and all he did was glance at me and wave, didnt say hi back. And kept ignoring me, while he was talking to the other girls. And I overheard him making plans with a girl to go out and giving her his number! Omg and then he and a friend were talking and he mentioned this guy who hasnt been in awhile and so I asked where has he been why isnt he here tonight and he said you seem very interested in him, do you like him? I... said no, and he said is there anyone you like and I said yes, and he asked who, do I know him?. Um what? I didnt know what to say so I said maybe, and he said does he know you like him and I said I doubt it so he said you should tell him. Why would I do that when he doesnt even say hi and barely acknowledges me and makes plans to go out with another girl? And then when he was leaving I said bye and he said bye in a short tone and I said it was nice to see you, and he just looked down with a weirded out look on his face. why?
And then last night when I said hi ihe only said hello in a short tone and then immediately turned and started talking to these other girls, then sat down with an empty space next to him and when I walked up to him he gave me a weird look and then this other girl came over and he gestured to have her sit next to him. but not me. And then later another time I was sitting with an empty spot next to me and instead of sitting next to me he went over across the room and sat somewhere else. why?

I usually don't read long posts but yours was intriguing so I kept on reading...

He sounds rather immature to me with his line of questioning and his strange behavior towards you. Its the behavior I'd expect from an adolescent or teenager, not a grown man. (says the guy with the hello kitty chainsaw avatar) Just my 2 cents...
 
It sounds like you are hoping his discomfort and disinterest are signs of something other than discomfort and disinterest, though they distress you. What do you read into them? It seems you secretly hope he likes you so much he becomes tongue tied and does not know how to behave like a proper gentleman in your presence. Maybe you think it possible he likes you so much, that he is afraid to risk being hurt again, and so would rather feign disinterest, and amuse himself by talking to other girls who probably don't mean as much to him, or won't in the long run, as much as you could mean to him, if only he would give you the time of day.

Either way, there is a massive lack of openness and honesty at play in these scenarios that can only end in unanswered questions, regret, and a broken heart, unless you ask him some pointed questions, very much along the same lines as those he asked you. On the other hand, such evasive measures on his part speak volumes as to his willingness or readiness for a relationship with you. Then again, you were evasive when he questioned you. At some point you are going to have to take some kind of risk in exposing your heart to him, or decide that he is not the right person to open your heart to. The sooner you do so (either way), the less you will suffer the not knowing.
 
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