As to your third paragraph, Jesus told us that all people will be punished by their Father for their sins and I grant you that Christians have been punished throughout history, and so many of the churches of today are so far off base in their teachings that I don't find it impossible to believe that many Christians will suffer through God's wrath.
For the record, I am not talking about wayward children. I'm talking about the true Christian. The one who mains faithful to Christ. Did Christ suffer for nothing? For those who have received Christ, who have repented and continue in faith, who have been reconciled to God and have been credited with righteousness, God is not going to send these through his wrath. Because for those people, Christ already suffered the wrath that we deserve, satisfying it. The wrath of God no longer rests upon us, because it was placed on Christ.
It seems to me that people are claiming to trust in Christ for their salvation, but there words betray themselves. How can one say "I trust in Christ" and at the same time believe that he is going to send us through his wrath. To send the church through the wrath of God, would be to set Christ's punishment that he suffered on our behalf as having no value.
The other on-going problem is that people don't understand the severity and magnitude of the God's coming wrath. With just the 4th seal and the 6th trumpet, a fourth and a third, respectively, it will result In approx. 50% of the earths population be killed within the first 3 1/2 years of that seven year period. And that is not including the fatalities resulting from trumpets 1,2 and 3 nor of the fatalities resulting from the bowl judgments.
The bottom line is that, instead of people trusting in the Lord's promise that he rescues us from and keeps us out of the coming wrath and that we are not appointed to suffer wrath, instead people are anticipating going through God's wrath. It would infer that we really weren't reconciled to God nor were we credited with righteousness, because you have believers in Christ going through the same wrath as the wicked.
As for me and others who understand the word of God through the confirmation of the Holy Spirit, we are going to be gathered, according to his promise, prior to the first seal being opened, which initiates God's wrath.