Burning bridges

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bestbefore1973

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It's been over a year since I burnt every bridge connecting to my family. I cut down their precious idol to the ground, and dashed my mother and father's hopes in me for good.

White washed tomb's, the spirit whispered deep in my soul for 10 long years before I woke up.
 
Dino246

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Some elaboration might be helpful. :)

Cutting down idols is good; dashing parents' hopes may not be.
 
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bestbefore1973

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Dino246 said:
Some elaboration might be helpful. :)

Cutting down idols is good; dashing parents' hopes may not be.
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I'd have to write a book to explain how I arrived at the terminus and end of that relationship.

My father once said to me

"What are you looking for? Love is only here in our family."

The greatest lies I've ever heard.
 
notuptome

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Your profile says you're a Christian. You are very bitter toward your family. Where did Jesus ever say we should "burn the bridges" to our family?

For the cause of Christ
Roger
 
Fenner

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I'm not sure what your family is like. If you come from abuse I don't blame you for cutting ties. As a parent I'd be crushed if my kid's didn't want anything to do with me, but parents aren't all the same either.
 
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bestbefore1973

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notuptome said:
Your profile says you're a Christian. You are very bitter toward your family. Where did Jesus ever say we should "burn the bridges" to our family?

For the cause of Christ
Roger
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Matthew 10:35
For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
 
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bestbefore1973

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Fenner said:
I'm not sure what your family is like. If you come from abuse I don't blame you for cutting ties. As a parent I'd be crushed if my kid's didn't want anything to do with me, but parents aren't all the same either.
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They are white washed tombs.
 
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kaylagrl

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bestbefore1973 said:
They are white washed tombs.
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​ You don't have to go into it.But you do have to forgive.You can stay away if abuse is the issue,but Biblically you have to forgive.
 
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Bee4Shine

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It has been a year. Are you regretting your decision? Are you seeking confirmation or advice? Sometimes taking a break from family to heal, discover the truth or learn is a very good thing. Setting healthy boundaries so that we can move forward in right relationship is also a good thing. I am sensing that you are longing for more? Forgiveness is not so much for the person being forgiven, but for the forgiver. If we do not forgive, we harbor bitterness and resentment that can eat at our soul. A year is a long time. Are you coming to the point where you want to move forward in your life and relationships?
 
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bestbefore1973

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kaylagrl said:
​ You don't have to go into it.But you do have to forgive.You can stay away if abuse is the issue,but Biblically you have to forgive.
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Yes I know, you want to help me do that.
 
notuptome

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bestbefore1973 said:
Matthew 10:35
For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
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There is a separation between believers and unbelievers. So do you abandon your family as unbelievers and not endeavor to win them to Christ?

For the cause of Christ
Roger
 
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bestbefore1973

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Bee4Shine said:
It has been a year. Are you regretting your decision? Are you seeking confirmation or advice? Sometimes taking a break from family to heal, discover the truth or learn is a very good thing. Setting healthy boundaries so that we can move forward in right relationship is also a good thing. I am sensing that you are longing for more? Forgiveness is not so much for the person being forgiven, but for the forgiver. If we do not forgive, we harbor bitterness and resentment that can eat at our soul. A year is a long time. Are you coming to the point where you want to move forward in your life and relationships?
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I've just come off the streets in the last 8 months, I haven't had a lot of time to process everything.

My brain feels like it's been in a war.
 
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bestbefore1973

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notuptome said:
There is a separation between believers and unbelievers. So do you abandon your family as unbelievers and not endeavor to win them to Christ?

For the cause of Christ
Roger
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They think they are good Christians, like a lot of people. I'm just sitting back and waiting for God to take them.
 
Dan58

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bestbefore1973 said:
I've just come off the streets in the last 8 months, I haven't had a lot of time to process everything.

My brain feels like it's been in a war.
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Yes, it sounds like it :)... What were you doing on the streets for 8 months? Whatever your situation, the fifth commandment still applies, honor (respect) your parents.
 
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bestbefore1973

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Dan58 said:
Yes, it sounds like it :)... What were you doing on the streets for 8 months? Whatever your situation, the fifth commandment still applies, honor (respect) your parents.
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No comment.
 
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bestbefore1973 said:
It's been over a year since I burnt every bridge connecting to my family. I cut down their precious idol to the ground, and dashed my mother and father's hopes in me for good.

White washed tomb's, the spirit whispered deep in my soul for 10 long years before I woke up.
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And it became easy for you, so you do the same thing on here, even before you get to know anyone?

That spirit you're listening to isn't the Holy Spirit.
 
blue_ladybug

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That's the same exact thing I told him on another of his threads.. LOL



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And it became easy for you, so you do the same thing on here, even before you get to know anyone?

That spirit you're listening to isn't the Holy Spirit.
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kaylagrl

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bestbefore1973 said:
Yes I know, you want to help me do that.
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No,I can't help you. You have to turn to God for that.I've had family come against me,Im still working on getting past the hurt myself. But I didn't burn bridges. You haven't been forthcoming about your family so I dont know why you shut them out.But I dont really care. You brought up the subject,Im saying you need to forgive.Simple truth is all.
 
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kaylagrl

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bestbefore1973 said:
They think they are good Christians, like a lot of people. I'm just sitting back and waiting for God to take them.
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Wouldn't you pray for them if they are not right with the Lord?
 
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kaylagrl

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bestbefore1973 said:
I've just come off the streets in the last 8 months, I haven't had a lot of time to process everything.

My brain feels like it's been in a war.
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​ It sounds like you need some counseling for your past.
 
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