Let Your Husband Be a Man?

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kaylagrl

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So I saw this article and I agree with some of it and disagree with others. A quote from the article says,

"The truth is, most men are relatively simple. They want you to honor them in word and deed. They enjoy a delicious, home-cooked meal. And they’d like some lovin’ on a regular basis. Give them these things, and they’ll treat you like a queen. They’ll gladly knock out your to-do list, give you a foot rub, and hang the moon for you while they’re at it. All you have to do to unlock this goodness is learn to let your husband be a man, and it starts with treating him like one"


If you have a minute check out the article. Any opinions on the quote above or the article?

http://www.createapeacefulhome.com/marriage/let-husband-man/
 
PrynceNY

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It all comes down to a persons heart. There are plenty of women who treat their man right and get treated horribly. There are some guys who have the desire in their hearts to treat their lady as a queen and it's not based off of anything specific they did. It's not too genuine if people have to resort to a step plan to receive something.
 
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kaylagrl

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PrynceNY said:
It all comes down to a persons heart. There are plenty of women who treat their man right and get treated horribly. There are some guys who have the desire in their hearts to treat their lady as a queen and it's not based off of anything specific they did. It's not too genuine if people have to resort to a step plan to receive something.
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Wow, we need to take a picture of this moment and frame it,you and I actually agreeing. My thoughts were in that direction also.
 
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It's really as simple as two people liking each other once the "in love" phase of the relationship subsides.
 
DustyRhodes

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amor vincit omnia...love conquers all...first we have to love ourselves then we can begin to love others.
so when we enter a marriage with love as is described in scripture it is likely to be succesful..if we enter
marriage for any other reason, it's bound for failure...marriage is this...it is not what you can do for me
but it is, what can i do for you...there is no bargaining or compromise...we do all that we do with love...
we don't say ok i'll do this for you if you do this for me...it doesn't work with our relationship with God
and it won't work in marriage...we do each thing with love without asking for return...if i do 10 things
for my wife and she does none for me doesn't mean she owes me ten...nor will she count up the things
she does for me...i believe this is God's plan...so i humbly post my opinion for perusal...it has worked
in our marriage for 52 years...maybe it can work for others too
 
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kaylagrl said:
So I saw this article and I agree with some of it and disagree with others. A quote from the article says,

"The truth is, most men are relatively simple. They want you to honor them in word and deed. They enjoy a delicious, home-cooked meal. And they’d like some lovin’ on a regular basis. Give them these things, and they’ll treat you like a queen. They’ll gladly knock out your to-do list, give you a foot rub, and hang the moon for you while they’re at it. All you have to do to unlock this goodness is learn to let your husband be a man, and it starts with treating him like one"


If you have a minute check out the article. Any opinions on the quote above or the article?

http://www.createapeacefulhome.com/marriage/let-husband-man/
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They titled it wrong? The title should be "How to Get What You Want Out of Your Husband."
 
hornetguy

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I think that is simply a guideline to "teach" a woman how to achieve a good relationship.... not to be a checklist that she has to fill out each month.

Let's face it.... women and men think differently :eek:

Many women (and men) expect the other one to want the same things that they do, and try to give them that... which usually doesn't work.

Very much like Billy Crystal said about sex in a relationship... "women need a reason to have sex... men just need a place".
 
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kaylagrl

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DustyRhodes said:
amor vincit omnia...love conquers all...first we have to love ourselves then we can begin to love others.
so when we enter a marriage with love as is described in scripture it is likely to be succesful..if we enter
marriage for any other reason, it's bound for failure...marriage is this...it is not what you can do for me
but it is, what can i do for you...there is no bargaining or compromise...we do all that we do with love...
we don't say ok i'll do this for you if you do this for me...it doesn't work with our relationship with God
and it won't work in marriage...we do each thing with love without asking for return...if i do 10 things
for my wife and she does none for me doesn't mean she owes me ten...nor will she count up the things
she does for me...i believe this is God's plan...so i humbly post my opinion for perusal...it has worked
in our marriage for 52 years...maybe it can work for others too
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Quote "..we do each thing with love without asking for return...if i do 10 things
for my wife and she does none for me doesn't mean she owes me ten...nor will she count up the things
she does for me...i believe this is God's plan."

Excellent point. I know a couple that does this,counting everything that is done,and they have a miserable marriage.No matter what I say I cant seem to get them to understand.
 
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kaylagrl

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They titled it wrong? The title should be "How to Get What You Want Out of Your Husband."
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​Ha! I think you nailed it! Good point.
 
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hornetguy said:
I think that is simply a guideline to "teach" a woman how to achieve a good relationship.... not to be a checklist that she has to fill out each month.

Let's face it.... women and men think differently :eek:

Many women (and men) expect the other one to want the same things that they do, and try to give them that... which usually doesn't work.

Very much like Billy Crystal said about sex in a relationship... "women need a reason to have sex... men just need a place".
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As far as a checklist goes?
Honor? Check.
Food? Check.
Anytime any place? (Within reason because privacy is good.) Check.

No, seriously. That's my checklist!

Better yet! I married the guy who likes to make delicious meals. (I make meatloaf or baked chicken with mashed taters and a veggie. He makes Tilapia Parmesan -- with Asiago, not Parmesan -- with star-anise rice and stuffed yellow squash.)

The biggest difference I see between men and women is what's on the mind the most. For men, it's sex every seven seconds. For women, it's food every three seconds. (I'm planning my next meal while eating this one. lol)

BUT, what I do for him is anticipate what he'll want next. That is my "do unto others..." And the things anticipated are obvious sometimes. He's going to need clean clothes to wear, a clean kitchen to make dinner, a way to get from here to there without tripping on something, someone to talk to when he needs (or wants) to talk, someone to shut up when the Eagles are playing, someone to console him when the Eagles are playing, someone to cheer with him when they score, and someone to back him up for being an Eagles fan.

The hardest part is guessing what that expression is. Sometimes it's a headache, or he's worried, or he's about to say something profound, or "Shhh, I'm spacing out. Let it go." :confused:

The only thing I think women really need to get about guys is that they are NOT telepathic. If we want them to know something, tell it straight. And the only thing I think men need to understand is we don't always expect something to get fixed, simply because we tell them something.

(My husband tore out the bathroom walls one day. I asked him why. "Because you said the tile was ugly." The tile WAS ugly. That's why I said it. I didn't expect to tear down the walls simply because of that. I figured we'd live with ugly tiles. :eek:)
 
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kaylagrl said:
Quote "..we do each thing with love without asking for return...if i do 10 things
for my wife and she does none for me doesn't mean she owes me ten...nor will she count up the things
she does for me...i believe this is God's plan."

Excellent point. I know a couple that does this,counting everything that is done,and they have a miserable marriage.No matter what I say I cant seem to get them to understand.
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I'm a counter too. It's my nature. (Bookkeeper -- literally. lol) But a teacher taught the true math. I count everything I do as worth 10 pts., and everything he does as 1 pt. The game is fixed. If I change the math to the other way, (my actions = 1 pt., and his are 10), then it evens out to a 50/50 marriage. It's also more like to be true.

Now I aim for trying to do 90%, and knowing the reality is I'm probably only doing 50%, if that. See if you can get your friends to do the New Math. :)
 
Dino246

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PrynceNY said:
It all comes down to a persons heart. There are plenty of women who treat their man right and get treated horribly. There are some guys who have the desire in their hearts to treat their lady as a queen and it's not based off of anything specific they did. It's not too genuine if people have to resort to a step plan to receive something.
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Granted, what comes from a list may not be "from the heart" but we all need to start somewhere, and starting with someone else's list is probably better than starting from scratch. We aren't all built with innate knowledge of how to please our spouse. Inclination to please comes from the heart; the specifics are negotiable within capacity and the spouse's preferences. :)
 
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I agree that on a basic level, that's what men need. Men need to be men and women need to be women in this age of gender neutral. God created us different and we should be embracing that difference, not trying to destroy it. As for "do this and this will happen" I'm always leery of those statements, they don't work no how!
 
mailmandan

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kaylagrl said:
So I saw this article and I agree with some of it and disagree with others. A quote from the article says,

"The truth is, most men are relatively simple. They want you to honor them in word and deed. They enjoy a delicious, home-cooked meal. And they’d like some lovin’ on a regular basis. Give them these things, and they’ll treat you like a queen. They’ll gladly knock out your to-do list, give you a foot rub, and hang the moon for you while they’re at it. All you have to do to unlock this goodness is learn to let your husband be a man, and it starts with treating him like one"

If you have a minute check out the article. Any opinions on the quote above or the article?

http://www.createapeacefulhome.com/marriage/let-husband-man/
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You are on the right track! :)
 
mailmandan

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Tinuviel said:
I agree that on a basic level, that's what men need. Men need to be men and women need to be women in this age of gender neutral. God created us different and we should be embracing that difference, not trying to destroy it.
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Amen! That goes for gender neutral bathrooms as well. :p

 
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kaylagrl

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As far as a checklist goes?
Honor? Check.
Food? Check.
Anytime any place? (Within reason because privacy is good.) Check.

No, seriously. That's my checklist!

Better yet! I married the guy who likes to make delicious meals. (I make meatloaf or baked chicken with mashed taters and a veggie. He makes Tilapia Parmesan -- with Asiago, not Parmesan -- with star-anise rice and stuffed yellow squash.)

The biggest difference I see between men and women is what's on the mind the most. For men, it's sex every seven seconds. For women, it's food every three seconds. (I'm planning my next meal while eating this one. lol)

BUT, what I do for him is anticipate what he'll want next. That is my "do unto others..." And the things anticipated are obvious sometimes. He's going to need clean clothes to wear, a clean kitchen to make dinner, a way to get from here to there without tripping on something, someone to talk to when he needs (or wants) to talk, someone to shut up when the Eagles are playing, someone to console him when the Eagles are playing, someone to cheer with him when they score, and someone to back him up for being an Eagles fan.

The hardest part is guessing what that expression is. Sometimes it's a headache, or he's worried, or he's about to say something profound, or "Shhh, I'm spacing out. Let it go." :confused:

The only thing I think women really need to get about guys is that they are NOT telepathic. If we want them to know something, tell it straight. And the only thing I think men need to understand is we don't always expect something to get fixed, simply because we tell them something.

(My husband tore out the bathroom walls one day. I asked him why. "Because you said the tile was ugly." The tile WAS ugly. That's why I said it. I didn't expect to tear down the walls simply because of that. I figured we'd live with ugly tiles. :eek:)
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Quote "Anytime any place? (Within reason because privacy is good.) Check."

Good,cause I dont want to see your face on the news for havin nookie in the wrong place. ;)

Quote "(My husband tore out the bathroom walls one day. I asked him why. "Because you said the tile was ugly." The tile WAS ugly. That's why I said it. I didn't expect to tear down the walls simply because of that. I figured we'd live with ugly tiles. )

Rofl communication is everything huh?
 
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kaylagrl

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I'm a counter too. It's my nature. (Bookkeeper -- literally. lol) But a teacher taught the true math. I count everything I do as worth 10 pts., and everything he does as 1 pt. The game is fixed. If I change the math to the other way, (my actions = 1 pt., and his are 10), then it evens out to a 50/50 marriage. It's also more like to be true.

Now I aim for trying to do 90%, and knowing the reality is I'm probably only doing 50%, if that. See if you can get your friends to do the New Math. :)
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​I was always terrible at math! lol
 
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This is your mind on drugs

This is your mind as your wife incessantly nags you and puts you down

This is your mind with a side of bacon

LOL
 
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popeye

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Just joking

Take a chill pill
 
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