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"I do think counseling is needed and my uncle and aunt had a situation much like this. She was very private and refused help until my uncle had made up his mind to leave,then she said she'd go to counseling. By that time too much damage had been done and they divorced. I hope that doesn't happen in this situation."
I would agree with whats being said about counseling, but while it is a common and good option for most folks, perhaps as he had said, its not a good option for them. It's clear that he loves her, it's also clear that he does have a modicum of strength, because he knows where he is weak. Everyone of us has different breaking points in different areas of our lives for different reasons, and I don't agree with judging him for asking for help or whatever his reason is for asking, just as I know none of us appreciate being judged for our shortcomings. What if he had said he had an eating disorder, or had an addiction to food, or alcohol, or drugs.... would the opinions of this thread have been any different? And should our responses have been any different? Outside of making recommendations for a proper course of action that renders the best solution, I would say no...
When a brother approaches you in church and asks for prayer, do you tell him to suck it up? "If your son would ask your for bread, would you give him a stone?"
There is no degree of sin (except for the unforgivable sin) - one sin is not any worse than another, and all sins are equally just as forgivable from one to another, so that must mean that God's grace and forgiveness does not change depending on the sin. So why should our level of grace or forgiveness be any different?
I would agree with whats being said about counseling, but while it is a common and good option for most folks, perhaps as he had said, its not a good option for them. It's clear that he loves her, it's also clear that he does have a modicum of strength, because he knows where he is weak. Everyone of us has different breaking points in different areas of our lives for different reasons, and I don't agree with judging him for asking for help or whatever his reason is for asking, just as I know none of us appreciate being judged for our shortcomings. What if he had said he had an eating disorder, or had an addiction to food, or alcohol, or drugs.... would the opinions of this thread have been any different? And should our responses have been any different? Outside of making recommendations for a proper course of action that renders the best solution, I would say no...
When a brother approaches you in church and asks for prayer, do you tell him to suck it up? "If your son would ask your for bread, would you give him a stone?"
There is no degree of sin (except for the unforgivable sin) - one sin is not any worse than another, and all sins are equally just as forgivable from one to another, so that must mean that God's grace and forgiveness does not change depending on the sin. So why should our level of grace or forgiveness be any different?
Id almost wager if a woman came on here saying her husband wasn't intimate with her and it made her feel fat and unwanted you'd hear a whole different story!