"Life is unfair!"

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I hear that often, even among Christians.

My thought?

Thank you, Lord, for being unfair!!!

Here is what fair looks like. If you sin, even once, in all fairness you deserve to be separated from God permanently, to die, and to go to hell eternally. THAT is fair.

Instead, Jesus, who never sinned once in all of eternity including 33 years on this planet, took away what is fair from us and put it on his shoulders. He took the punishment for the crimes he never committed, because he wanted to save us. Truly unfair toward him, but something far better than "fair" for us.

So, guess what. Loose your spouse, your home, your health, your fortune, your car, your job, your standing in society, your respect, your parking spot, your rights, or anything else? STILL more than fair! You deserved separation from God, death, and hell. So anything God gives you is beyond fair! It's wondrous!

There is this flaw in thinking life is unfair. No one ever says that about anyone else but themselves. Big problem with that mentality. What became of the two commandments?

[h=1]Mark 12:30-31[/h][FONT=&quot]30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

God IS Life! Stop saying he is unfair!

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This is really insensitive and selfish of you to say as if your opinion should mean something or be held in such high regard... People go through real pain. It's not your call to tell them to basically suck it up... God's word is perfect and administers healing and comes from love.. Yours? Impatience and sound like disdain... 1cor 13, digest that then maybe try again.. Those who think they can teach are warned to take heed because their words will be under a microscope
 
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Zi said:
This is really insensitive and selfish of you to say as if your opinion should mean something or be held in such high regard... People go through real pain. It's not your call to tell them to basically suck it up... God's word is perfect and administers healing and comes from love.. Yours? Impatience and sound like disdain... 1cor 13, digest that then maybe try again.. Those who think they can teach are warned to take heed because their words will be under a microscope
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You dont know Lynns story do ya! And yes we all have to suck it up, there is
no alternative. It's how we suck it up that counts. We can either trust in God
to bring us through grow in grace, patience, compassion and spiritual
maturity. Or we can let Satan have his way and throw the dummy out of the pram!

Sorry of that hurts but it's where we end up that counts, more than where we are.
 
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Zi said:
People go through real pain. It's not your call to tell them to basically suck it up...
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I disagree totally with your post. Love is important but it takes many forms. One of, or maybe the most, loving things anyone has ever said to me was "You're right....it isn't fair. Time to let it go....let it heal...and move on".

You can be loving and not coddle a person at the same time. Sometimes its needed. You can tell someone to get over it in a loving way.
 
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I hear that often, even among Christians.

My thought?

Thank you, Lord, for being unfair!!!

Here is what fair looks like. If you sin, even once, in all fairness you deserve to be separated from God permanently, to die, and to go to hell eternally. THAT is fair.

Instead, Jesus, who never sinned once in all of eternity including 33 years on this planet, took away what is fair from us and put it on his shoulders. He took the punishment for the crimes he never committed, because he wanted to save us. Truly unfair toward him, but something far better than "fair" for us.

So, guess what. Loose your spouse, your home, your health, your fortune, your car, your job, your standing in society, your respect, your parking spot, your rights, or anything else? STILL more than fair! You deserved separation from God, death, and hell. So anything God gives you is beyond fair! It's wondrous!

There is this flaw in thinking life is unfair. No one ever says that about anyone else but themselves. Big problem with that mentality. What became of the two commandments?

Mark 12:30-31

30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

God IS Life! Stop saying he is unfair!
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I suspect life is fairer than we realize.
 
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Telling someone the truth even when it hurts is love...even when the truth is rejected!
 
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Corbinscam said:
I disagree totally with your post. Love is important but it takes many forms. One of, or maybe the most, loving things anyone has ever said to me was "You're right....it isn't fair. Time to let it go....let it heal...and move on".

You can be loving and not coddle a person at the same time. Sometimes its needed. You can tell someone to get over it in a loving way.
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Well I suspect this has a lot to do with the person and their own timing. We cant push people to get over something in our timing either. My aunt died at the age of 43 with stomach cancer. One day perfectly healthy,the next having her stomach removed and passed away several months later. To say it was a shock to see a healthy woman lose so much weight that she could not lift her head from the bed,is an understatement.

There are times we need to morn with those that morn. Her husband was left with two teens with no mother, all three of them grieving. A few months after her death his family began pushing him to get rid of all her things. They'd been married over 20yrs. They pushed him to bag her things up and they still had her sent on them,I knew that was a comfort to him. He came to me one day,this was about 15yrs ago so I was younger,and he asked what he should do. I told him that when the time was right he would be able to let go,but that he should keep her clothes as long as he needed to and not let people push him when he wasn't ready.

My mom and her sister looked so much alike that they were mistaken often for twins,but they weren't.My aunt had a red coat she wore to church and one day we came home and found the coat hanging in the closet near the door. My uncle had finally let go. Several years later he fell in love again and remarried. Each persons timing is different and we need to respect that.
 
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kaylagrl said:

Well I suspect this has a lot to do with the person and their own timing. We cant push people to get over something in our timing either. My aunt died at the age of 43 with stomach cancer. One day perfectly healthy,the next having her stomach removed and passed away several months later. To say it was a shock to see a healthy woman lose so much weight that she could not lift her head from the bed,is an understatement.

There are times we need to morn with those that morn. Her husband was left with two teens with no mother, all three of them grieving. A few months after her death his family began pushing him to get rid of all her things. They'd been married over 20yrs. They pushed him to bag her things up and they still had her sent on them,I knew that was a comfort to him. He came to me one day,this was about 15yrs ago so I was younger,and he asked what he should do. I told him that when the time was right he would be able to let go,but that he should keep her clothes as long as he needed to and not let people push him when he wasn't ready.

My mom and her sister looked so much alike that they were mistaken often for twins,but they weren't.My aunt had a red coat she wore to church and one day we came home and found the coat hanging in the closet near the door. My uncle had finally let go. Several years later he fell in love again and remarried. Each persons timing is different and we need to respect that.
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Its true that some things take time to deal with, no one instantly has all the answers,
life is full of ups and downs, but there is light at the end of every tunnel, even the long
ones.

As Christians especially though, we have to be careful not to lay blame at the wrong door,
and to never lose sight of what God has done and who He is.

There are times when a person needs to ask God the why questions and take their burdens
to the Lord in prayer and seek answers, David certainly did in the Psalms.

Really though we have no right to say life is not fair. If anyone has a right to say it,
then it's God. He created every thing perfect, mankind then went and put a spanner
in the works.

God didnt stomp up and down and say it's not fair, instead He formed a plan to
redeem people from their sin. That plan was bourne out of love and entailed the
sacrifice of Jesus.


There is a right way and a wrong way. The wrong way is to stomp up and down and
say it's not fair, the right way is to pour your heart out to God, trusting and leaning on
Him to carry you through, because God is a God of love, our Heavenly Father.

Hope that makes sense. :)
 
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I don't seek fairness from God but rather desire compassion and mercy.
 
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Miri said:
Its true that some things take time to deal with, no one instantly has all the answers,
life is full of ups and downs, but there is light at the end of every tunnel, even the long
ones.

As Christians especially though, we have to be careful not to lay blame at the wrong door,
and to never lose sight of what God has done and who He is.

There are times when a person needs to ask God the why questions and take their burdens
to the Lord in prayer and seek answers, David certainly did in the Psalms.

Really though we have no right to say life is not fair. If anyone has a right to say it,
then it's God. He created every thing perfect, mankind then went and put a spanner
in the works.

God didnt stomp up and down and say it's not fair, instead He formed a plan to
redeem people from their sin. That plan was bourne out of love and entailed the
sacrifice of Jesus.


There is a right way and a wrong way. The wrong way is to stomp up and down and
say it's not fair, the right way is to pour your heart out to God, trusting and leaning on
Him to carry you through, because God is a God of love, our Heavenly Father.

Hope that makes sense. :)
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I was more responding to Corbinsam than Lynns OP. The statement "not coddle a person" bothered me. We are to mourn with those that mourn and that takes time. Its a pet peeve of mine that I may explain when I have more time.
 
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Zi said:
This is really insensitive and selfish of you to say as if your opinion should mean something or be held in such high regard... People go through real pain. It's not your call to tell them to basically suck it up... God's word is perfect and administers healing and comes from love.. Yours? Impatience and sound like disdain... 1cor 13, digest that then maybe try again.. Those who think they can teach are warned to take heed because their words will be under a microscope
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I agree with everything you said. Insensitivity is common place
 
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And she doesn't know anyone elses who hasn't told her.. going thru something doesn't qualify anyone to tell them to suck it up.. yes worse cases exist but it should never be used to tell someone else that they arent going thru "enough" to qualify for time to be upset..
Miri said:
You dont know Lynns story do ya! And yes we all have to suck it up, there is
no alternative. It's how we suck it up that counts. We can either trust in God
to bring us through grow in grace, patience, compassion and spiritual
maturity. Or we can let Satan have his way and throw the dummy out of the pram!

Sorry of that hurts but it's where we end up that counts, more than where we are.
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Obviously hence the rest of my post.. If one wishes to teach others, esp in a ministering way to the hurting they should then use the words of God not their own..
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I disagree totally with your post. Love is important but it takes many forms. One of, or maybe the most, loving things anyone has ever said to me was "You're right....it isn't fair. Time to let it go....let it heal...and move on".

You can be loving and not coddle a person at the same time. Sometimes its needed. You can tell someone to get over it in a loving way.
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I dont uphold personal opinions above the word. I notice on this forum site that is the opposite a lot of times.
 
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And she doesn't know anyone elses who hasn't told her.. going thru something doesn't qualify anyone to tell them to suck it up.. yes worse cases exist but it should never be used to tell someone else that they arent going thru "enough" to qualify for time to be upset..
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Your reaction was a little over the top, considering you don't know what other people
have been through as well. People who have been through hard times are better placed
than anybody to understand you, to offer advice and pray for you and importantly, to
know that you will prevail under the grace of God. But instead you got upset when
Lynn was trying to explain why the unfair playing card, is an unfair card to deal to God.


If you are hurting, there are loads of people who will pray for you and try to help.
Lynn being one of those people, she has helped in ways that many in here don't even
know about.

So instead, why not ask for prayer or help, you might be surprised that it's those same
people who are saying "don't say life is unfair" are the very people who understand the
most and can help you the most. :)

Ps if you want to send me a PM I will gladly pray for you.
 
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Zi said:
This is really insensitive and selfish of you to say as if your opinion should mean something or be held in such high regard... People go through real pain. It's not your call to tell them to basically suck it up... God's word is perfect and administers healing and comes from love.. Yours? Impatience and sound like disdain... 1cor 13, digest that then maybe try again.. Those who think they can teach are warned to take heed because their words will be under a microscope
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LOL I've had the "unfair" life. It's you who are being insensitive and selfish. After all, I never said "suck it up." :)
 
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I don't think my life has been unfair....
Things happen for a reason. And to us they may seem unfair, but the difference is we have a very narrow view. Our Father does not.
 
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God is not unfair, the world is. We are called to care about the unfairness...Is not that how we discern? Determine what is holy, or unholy? My opinion is it depends on what is being said as unfair.
 
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