Feminism is not of God. That I agree with. What I don't understand is how you compare living according to scripture with beating your wife.
God punished those that were against Him, yes, but He's GOD! And I'm sure if greater minds that mine took you into a debate about specific instances where people were killed by His hand, or His plan, they'd be able to explain what the circumstances were.
The God I know is just, but He is also kind, gentle, patient and loving.
I agree with you, God is love, kind and gentle and patient.
But when God does get angry at His people, He corrects them using unbearable punishments.
People even during Lord Jesus' time were living biblical lives, correcting children and disobedient wives.
The thought of hitting a child seems absurd these days, because it is the world view.
God's scripture says it's better to beat a child to correct them and drive the foolishness out of them so that they don't grow up and bring shame and calamity on their family and people. That's the point, people would rather choose bruises than death if they had knowledge of the 2 options.
Nobody is advocating abuse, it seems people are misinterpreting beating to mean being cruel and abusive.
Here's a different example, would you feed someone close to you lots of food until they weigh 600lbs and get stuck in a bed? Feeding them more unhealthy food is abusive. Sure, it feels good and looks supportive when they cry and beg you for more donuts and KFC, but it's harmful.
Is a person who starves them for a month until they are light enough to stand up and visit a doctor a cruel and abusive monster?
Revelation 3:19
As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.