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Practically speaking, "she won't address it," is where you are. No divorce papers served. No talking yet. Would I hope? Of course I would. I'm the eternal optimist, so I'm hoping right along with you.
Might I make one bold suggestion? (Don't know why I asked, since I'm going to anyway. lol)
Pick up a card at drug store or Hallmark store. I think they even have an "I miss you" section in card choices. Find one with very few words on it. (Nothing flowery. Nothing sappy. Nothing romantic. Nothing funny.) And, inside include something like "I'm sorry and I'm here when you are ready to talk."
That's it. No updates. No long-winded whatevers. (And we're both long-winded, so not a put down.) Just one simple sentence. And then mail it to her.
That let's her know you want this resolved. You are still interested, but you're letting her make the decision on when.
Might I make one bold suggestion? (Don't know why I asked, since I'm going to anyway. lol)
Pick up a card at drug store or Hallmark store. I think they even have an "I miss you" section in card choices. Find one with very few words on it. (Nothing flowery. Nothing sappy. Nothing romantic. Nothing funny.) And, inside include something like "I'm sorry and I'm here when you are ready to talk."
That's it. No updates. No long-winded whatevers. (And we're both long-winded, so not a put down.) Just one simple sentence. And then mail it to her.
That let's her know you want this resolved. You are still interested, but you're letting her make the decision on when.
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Heads up on the anger and patience thingies from someone who doesn't have either down pat yet. Neither one is a fix-it-and-forget-it thing. It gets better and better, but it doesn't simply go away, or come. And worse yet, the way God teaches us patience is by dunking us into frustration after frustration to teach us who our life jacket is. The very thing that causes anger in us is the thing God needs to use to teach us patience.
Dagnabit!
Dagnabit!
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That's no joke. I haven't gotten "comsumed" by anger or anything like that but I have caught myself going into road rage. I have obtained the ability to pull myself out of it as quick as it starts and pray. I think as long as I remember that I can maintain it. I guess it's like an addiction. It may not ever be gone but you can control it.
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I am too in the same boat. My husband left me about 3 weeks ago. After being married for almost 3 years, out of the blue told me he does not love me anymore. I have health issues and he could not cope with me and them. Heartbreaking. I trying to hold on to hope that my marriage will be restored but then, had people tell me its over so get over myself. I pray for you too.
be strong in the Lord and the power of his might.Read Philipians 4:4-13 never give up your war is not against your husband but satan,to the pulling down of strongholds.God can do anything.I was in the courtroom,im a pastor with two people hating each other ,the judge stated i can give a minute for one last thought about this,for there is light in this tunnel they thought ,hearts were changed and there both serving God wholeheartedly ,adultry was part of the situation 2.They forgave each other,they r strong soul winners now busy 4 God with an amazing testamony,God can turn ashes to gold and weeping to joy what seems hard and impossible to us,is a piece of cake to him.GBU Jesh.
While I have no idea of what has transpired in your marriage, Christians may divorce for only one reason -- adultery. If that has not occurred and there are other issues to be resolved, then the longer you wait around, the worse things will get. The wise thing to do (as the husband) is to take the initiative and show some leadership. Arrange a meeting (on neutral ground) where everything is brought out into the open and each one honestly admits their own faults. Then there can be only one outcome for Christians -- repentance, reconciliation, and restoration. Uusally both are at fault, so both must make an effort to stop repeating their previous mistakes or attitudes.
Would she be willing to go with you to a counselor? Getting the divorce papers sounds pretty final, and it may be, but God still works miracles.
If she is a true Christian then I think she is out of place filing for divorce when you are willing to change yourself to be a better husband. But she doesn't care what I think, and there may be nothing you can do at the moment.
I was going to invite you to send her flowers until I read you got the divorce papers. Now, I don't know what to suggest.
All I can really do is pray for you and her.
If she is a true Christian then I think she is out of place filing for divorce when you are willing to change yourself to be a better husband. But she doesn't care what I think, and there may be nothing you can do at the moment.
I was going to invite you to send her flowers until I read you got the divorce papers. Now, I don't know what to suggest.
All I can really do is pray for you and her.