unlovable? unworthy? how?when?

[cheli]

I'm 34 years old I have been divorced and single now for 6 years. I look around and all my friends are married with kids. I'm envious of those that divorce and find someone and start again..coz I look in the mirror and I forced realize time has passed and I'm getting older. I get so depressed feel like I'm running out of time. I work on myself fix my financial matters. I have part of my life improved... now all I need is a good man start a family..then suddenly part of my life that I had improved crashed I lost my job I loose everything I worked now Love?? life just won't give me a break.. I yearn so badly for love but perhaps I m unlovable too old..too damaged not pretty

 

[weezer]

I'm 34 years old I have been divorced and single now for 6 years. I look around and all my friends are married with kids. I'm envious of those that divorce and find someone and start again..coz I look in the mirror and I forced realize time has passed and I'm getting older. I get so depressed feel like I'm running out of time. I work on myself fix my financial matters. I have part of my life improved... now all I need is a good man start a family..then suddenly part of my life that I had improved crashed I lost my job I loose everything I worked now Love?? life just won't give me a break.. I yearn so badly for love but perhaps I m unlovable too old..too damaged not pretty

You are a daughter of God, therefore you are never unloved nor are you ever too damaged! I know being single is hard, especially the older you get and when there are others in your life who are married with children, but no matter the reason, you are on the path that God has set before you, and He wants you to love and long for HIM, as earnestly and as yearningly as you do for a potential spouse. We must change our focus and our state of mind so that rather than feeling sorry for ourselves, we realize that we do not need love from another, we may want it, but we do NOT need it. The only love you need is the love of God who is the ONLY source of true, unconditional, unending love; and as a believer you have that!

I know this is not easy and it is something that I still struggle with myself from time to time, but you ARE loved, and you are NEVER alone. I will pray for you!

God Bless!

 

[G00WZ]

Did you know that anything you speak over yourself that doesn't align itself with the word of God isn't truth?.. your feelings may be true about the circumstances, but it is not the actual truth about you. If you focus on who Christ says you are, and not on who you think you are things change.. you are way more valuable than you think. Receive who He says you are and just live it out and ignore what you or others think about you, and i promise you will start to see pleasant changes in your life that you were unable to receive before.

 

[Lynx]

Why is it so important to find a spouse? Will your life not be a real life without one?

Somebody wiser than I once said "life is what happens while you are making other plans." Don't miss out on it just because it is something you did not plan.

Also a song in my collection says "all the best things in life caught me by surprise." You never know what's just around the corner.

 

[Rosemaryx]

Correct me if i am wrong, but you made the same thread else where, people replied, have you not been back you see people helping you, forgive me if i am mistaken...xox...

 

[cheli]

I 'm just consumed with sadness.. this place seems like a place I could safely confess all that I've been going through.all this time I've bottle everything deep inside I'm sorry but I couldn't I just couldn't bear to keep it all I see rest answers here comfort here.. I thought I would not be judged here I'm sorry .. I 'm just going through a lot in my life and I honestly don't know what to do...does that make me a bad person that I posted seeking to ease my aching so?.

 

[tourist]

I 'm just consumed with sadness.. this place seems like a place I could safely confess all that I've been going through.all this time I've bottle everything deep inside I'm sorry but I couldn't I just couldn't bear to keep it all I see rest answers here comfort here.. I thought I would not be judged here I'm sorry .. I 'm just going through a lot in my life and I honestly don't know what to do...does that make me a bad person that I posted seeking to ease my aching so?.

You're not a bad person at all. God stores up each tear of yours in a fancy bottle. I can understand full well about being unhappy and disillusioned with life. I have prayed for God to lift this cloud of despair that is hovering over you and to let His light shine down on you.

 

[Rosemaryx]

I 'm just consumed with sadness.. this place seems like a place I could safely confess all that I've been going through.all this time I've bottle everything deep inside I'm sorry but I couldn't I just couldn't bear to keep it all I see rest answers here comfort here.. I thought I would not be judged here I'm sorry .. I 'm just going through a lot in my life and I honestly don't know what to do...does that make me a bad person that I posted seeking to ease my aching so?.

You are Gods precious child and He loves you, you are the apple of His eye...Jesus said " Come to me all those who are weiry, and i will give you rest...Give all your tears to God, like Tourist said, God collects each one in a beautiful bottle , His arms are so warm and secure, fall in to His love, rest on His bosom, He is waiting for you, we love you sister we truly do, this is a safe place, release all your pain, someone will always answer you...xox...

 

[cheli]

Thank you. I 'm lost broken my poor poor soul has only me to save it console it. I honestly don't know how when I lost myself. I got divorced I tried to survive literally on my own.. I worked long hours saved my money.. I would get terribly lonely..one day I got in a horrible car accident my car was totaled.. bought a new one hit again,lost my job.. All my hard work crashed no more dreams of finding love.. now I am in survival mode again...I truly appreciate your prayers .. I m lost OK broken and my work my dreams my life is shattering... please understand forgive .. forgive me forgiveGod I don't understand

 

[Lynx]

Ah, that's very different. Sorry, from your first post I thought you were mostly upset because you didn't have a husband.

 

[Zi]

These are the times where we realize we can make it with God alone.. Life doesn't consist of things and safety, joy are not found in them either.. A change is on the way if you'll trust Him.. when I got saved I left what I was doing including my stuff and never looked back. I lost my apartment, moved in with someone from the church, a weird outbreak of mold destroyed 95% of what I owned, seriously.. I was broken. Here I thought life was gonna get good..
moved. Apartment was broken into about a yr later at night. Lost more things.. moved again and had to sell most of what I owned in order for myself and son to fit in a room together..I lost my car due to circumstances.. I was at my lowest. that church promised a job to replace what I walked away from and I never received one.. I was hurt. I cried, screamed... After time
Little by little I noticed life in a way I hadn't and had peace.......All that to say you're not alone.. being scared and worried is something that happens, your life has changed

. I've never been divorced and will pray for you strength to stand, peace and clear vision for your future

Thank you. I 'm lost broken my poor poor soul has only me to save it console it. I honestly don't know how when I lost myself. I got divorced I tried to survive literally on my own.. I worked long hours saved my money.. I would get terribly lonely..one day I got in a horrible car accident my car was totaled.. bought a new one hit again,lost my job.. All my hard work crashed no more dreams of finding love.. now I am in survival mode again...I truly appreciate your prayers .. I m lost OK broken and my work my dreams my life is shattering... please understand forgive .. forgive me forgiveGod I don't understand