Son, did you just sneez at the dinner table? Now you're gonna get a whoopin!!

[Innerfire89]

What are your opinions on physical punishment for children? When done lovingly and not exessively it's effective in correcting and teaching children respect. Physical punishment shouldn't done out of anger, that would just be attacking children and in turn would make them angry and violent too. That's just how I see it based on the biblical guide lines.

What about you all?

 

[Depleted]

Our quarterback is in his second year. He definitely has a wallop in his arm, but last year proved he needed to learn the basics (stance, when to throw, when to run, when to ground it, kind of things.) To teach him this, during practice, if he doesn't do the right form, he's fined.

He makes BIG bucks. BIG bucks.

So, I'm thinking, what's the better way to teach me something -- take a dollar off me every time I don't do something right while paying me such big bucks that a buck here or there wouldn't bother me, or give me physical punishment? I'd have more time to think about it with physical punishment. No need to think about it with financial punishment.

Hubby used to explain to his daughter what she did wrong, then ask her what punishment she thought she deserved. (The rules were already set.) She gave the honest answer and asked for the paddle.

The paddle was hard wood with lots of holes in it, so it would sound loud when it hit, but wouldn't hurt. (He tested it. lol) Part of her punishment was to go get the paddle.

Her behavior improves greatly within 2 weeks to a month. Apparently, she chose to avoid the paddle.

So... basically it depends on the person and situation.

 

[OneFaith]

What are your opinions on physical punishment for children? When done lovingly and not exessively it's effective in correcting and teaching children respect. Physical punishment shouldn't done out of anger, that would just be attacking children and in turn would make them angry and violent too. That's just how I see it based on the biblical guide lines.

What about you all?

Sneezing, coughing, farting, hiccuping, these are all uncontrollable and shouldn't be punished. I teach that they should cough or sneeze into their elbow, while turning away from people and food. But that is not even drastic enough anyways. Running into traffic, hitting people, or throwing hard toys into a newborn's crib with the baby in it- these are things that deserve a spanking. Spanking should be for extreme things or the last resort, after many timeouts for small things.

 

[oldethennew]

Lynn,

just wondering, how do you like the paddle??? come-on, your ARE 61 now, we can joke
about these things...personally, well....

 

[Innerfire89]

Sneezing, coughing, farting, hiccuping, these are all uncontrollable and shouldn't be punished. I teach that they should cough or sneeze into their elbow, while turning away from people and food. But that is not even drastic enough anyways. Running into traffic, hitting people, or throwing hard toys into a newborn's crib with the baby in it- these are things that deserve a spanking. Spanking should be for extreme things or the last resort, after many timeouts for small things.

I absoultly agree.

Don't read too much into the title. It's not really the question being asked in the topic, I'm just terrible at thinking up good titles to go along with my topics. Lol.

 

[Ugly]

As an adult looking back, I think my parents had it right.
It was rarely spanked (though I was also not much trouble), but when I was I was always sent to my room first. My parents would sit down and discuss if I needed to be spanked or not (chances are it was yes if they had to discuss it). Once it was decided the parent who was more calm did it. That was their rule. This avoided one of them spanking out of anger or frustration. They were calm when they came in and during.
Once done they would talk to me about what I'd done, hug me and send me on my way.
It was all very measured and in control, so I was never fearful of Them, just of being punished. Which is kind of the point.

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

I can't say what is right for anyone else, but I can say that my Father's brand of physical punishment was way past excessive. On the positive side, I learned very early on how to hold my ground against a much larger, much stronger opponent because I had been doing it ever since I was a very young child.

He was raised a different way than I would want to raise kids (and part of the reason I never wanted them was because of the corporal punishments I received). His punishments were swift, strong, and left lasting impressions.

 

[tourist]

What are your opinions on physical punishment for children? When done lovingly and not exessively it's effective in correcting and teaching children respect. Physical punishment shouldn't done out of anger, that would just be attacking children and in turn would make them angry and violent too. That's just how I see it based on the biblical guide lines.

What about you all?

The parent's that would give a whooping to a child who sneezed at the dinner table have serious anger and parenting issues. You should never spank a child out of anger regardless of what happened. The object punishment is not to beat the child with anger but to discipline the child with love.

 

[GuessWho]

Before having my baby girl (who is now 7 months and a half) I thought spanking was ok, but now I have changed my mind. I promissed to God three things and one of them is that I will never raise my hand over her. I am an angry person and I couldn't do it without anger.

 

[Depleted]

Before having my baby girl (who is now 7 months and a half) I thought spanking was ok, but now I have changed my mind. I promissed to God three things and one of them is that I will never raise my hand over her. I am an angry person and I couldn't do it without anger.

Don't hold it in until the anger hits.

We had rules with consequences. It wasn't "don't go to Bell Lake so often you make me angry." It was "don't go to Bell Lake until you learn to swim." Most parents today wait until the actions of the child annoys them, then angers them. That's not when to punish. Punish is for first offense, not 50th.

Nowadays I hear it all the time. "Mommommommommommommommommommom..." And why? Because that works. Mom is so busy, she ignores the child until he becomes relentless. Than because she's doing what she wants to do, she gives in to whatever the child wants to stop pestering her. And, if that doesn't work, than clobber the child when all patience has worn thin.

I already told how long hubby took to retrain his child.

There are somethings I do today because of training I received before I was old enough to remember. (And I remember being 18 months old.) I won't talk over someone. I won't put my elbows on the table. If someone comes into the room, I have to stand and greet them. We could sit/stand/knee during mass at the right times, never needed coloring books or things to occupy us. (I wasn't paying attention, but I was there and behaving. lol) No arguing or fighting in front of adults. (We saved it until there were no adults. lol) And, if one of my parents was on the phone or had company over, we greeted them politely, and then went to our room until we were called down. All that accomplished before 18 months old.

My parents idea was to train us before we didn't need diapers. They did that by correcting the first time, and, if we didn't listen, then smacks on the diaper-covered bottoms. There were three of us in the space of 28 months. We had to be trained quickly, or Mom would have needed a padded room before the oldest went to school. lol

As for Bell Lake? Alas, I was older by then and stubborn. I knew I was in no danger even if I couldn't swim. If I fell in, all I had to do was stand up and walk out. (Too young to verbalize that with my parents though.) So, okay. I was spanked each time. It was worth it every single time.

 

[GuessWho]

Still, a promise is a promise, especially when it's made to God.

I have a friend, mother of two, and she adviced me to do what I say. If I tell my child that if she hits children in the park, we will go home, I have to do that. (I will have to refrain myself from menaces like "I will throw you out of the window" because I will have to do it if she disobeys, lol).

 

[Ugly]

Before having my baby girl (who is now 7 months and a half) I thought spanking was ok, but now I have changed my mind. I promissed to God three things and one of them is that I will never raise my hand over her. I am an angry person and I couldn't do it without anger.

Well, at that age no one should be spanking their children. They are too young to understand and it would be nothing but hitting for the sake of hitting.

 

[GuessWho]

I can't say what is right for anyone else, but I can say that my Father's brand of physical punishment was way past excessive. On the positive side, I learned very early on how to hold my ground against a much larger, much stronger opponent because I had been doing it ever since I was a very young child.

He was raised a different way than I would want to raise kids (and part of the reason I never wanted them was because of the corporal punishments I received). His punishments were swift, strong, and left lasting impressions.

It's good that you don't hold a grudge against your father; he was certainly abused, too.

 

[GuessWho]

Well, at that age no one should be spanking their children. They are too young to understand and it would be nothing but hitting for the sake of hitting.

Yes. I meant when she will grow. I don't want spanking to be part of raising her.