Help. Married a Muslim who lied about it.

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Karchani

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What can I do. I married a Muslim who said he converted to Christian. I told him when I met him that I can not marry a Muslim. Now he says he is Muslim and will always be Muslim. He has also lied about who he is and what he thinks. One example, I home school and he knew this before we married. It was really important to me. Now he has a problem with it. My main problem is he is Muslim and I am Christian. This is a major problem for me. How do we have a future. I wanted kids but not now because of his religion. Do I divorce him?
 
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The last thing you need from this charlatan is kids.. He deceived you entirely, so I say get the marriage annulled..
 
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If you have kids, they will be Halal
 
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Karchani said:
What can I do. I married a Muslim who said he converted to Christian. I told him when I met him that I can not marry a Muslim. Now he says he is Muslim and will always be Muslim. He has also lied about who he is and what he thinks. One example, I home school and he knew this before we married. It was really important to me. Now he has a problem with it. My main problem is he is Muslim and I am Christian. This is a major problem for me. How do we have a future. I wanted kids but not now because of his religion. Do I divorce him?
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I wouldn't place the blame entirely on him for lying about being a Christian. If you discussed Christianity with him, asked him his beliefs or thoughts, read The Bible with him or attended Church, it probably would have been clear he wasn't. He can say he is a Christian, but it would difficult to fake knowledge and understanding of The Bible. It probably was something you did not factor deeply into the relationship. Did he ever discuss Christ with you or his relationship with him once?

So don't place the blame entirely on him for "lying" about being a Christian by simply stating he was one, and probably get the divorce if you can't convert him.
 
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Karchani

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The blame for him lying is all on him. He did read the bible and talked about religion. And went to church.
 
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Karchani

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No Kids, That is one problem. We wanted kids. And now because of his religion I can't have them with him. So this has now messed with my future.
 
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Karchani said:
The blame for him lying is all on him. He did read the bible and talked about religion. And went to church.
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Well he had weak faith or an entire lack thereof the entire time he did these things, your ability to not see through the deception is partially to blame. I can tell quickly when a Christian "practices what they preach" or how intimate their relationship is with Christ, you are telling me there were no signs he was a secret muslim?

In your next relationship or marriage I hope you discuss Christianity at length and better gauge the person. This is a common post on the forum, usually women saying the person was an unbeliever entirely who said they were. He didn't have the spirit in him and this did not factor into your decision to marry him.
 
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Right now, not having kids is the least of your problems. The bible says not to be unequally yoked..


Karchani said:
No Kids, That is one problem. We wanted kids. And now because of his religion I can't have them with him. So this has now messed with my future.
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Karchani

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Yes I know that is the least of my worries. It is just an example of why I would want a divorce, because we are unequally yoked what kind of future do I have with him. I don't see one.
 
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You don't have one if you stay married to him. He'll force you into the Muslim religion and that would not be good..


Karchani said:
Yes I know that is the least of my worries. It is just an example of why I would want a divorce, because we are unequally yoked what kind of future do I have with him. I don't see one.
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I am in agreement with Lady Blue. The only future you will have in this sham of a marriage is bleak.
 
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Karchani said:
What can I do. I married a Muslim who said he converted to Christian. I told him when I met him that I can not marry a Muslim. Now he says he is Muslim and will always be Muslim. He has also lied about who he is and what he thinks. One example, I home school and he knew this before we married. It was really important to me. Now he has a problem with it. My main problem is he is Muslim and I am Christian. This is a major problem for me. How do we have a future. I wanted kids but not now because of his religion. Do I divorce him?
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How long have you been married to him? See if you can get it annulled?

We use to get Pakastani's brought into our church who lied about converting to Christianity to get brought over to the states by missionaries who would assist them. Once he dropped them off, and went back overseas, they came out of the closet as muslim.
 
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Karchani said:
What can I do. I married a Muslim who said he converted to Christian. I told him when I met him that I can not marry a Muslim. Now he says he is Muslim and will always be Muslim. He has also lied about who he is and what he thinks. One example, I home school and he knew this before we married. It was really important to me. Now he has a problem with it. My main problem is he is Muslim and I am Christian. This is a major problem for me. How do we have a future. I wanted kids but not now because of his religion. Do I divorce him?
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Well my friend, if you don't want a relationship with him, I think a divorce would be justified by the Lord.
 
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Karchani said:
What can I do.
Do I divorce him?
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I wouldn't trust a muslim, therefore if I woke up in your
shoes, I would quietly prepare to depart the marriage.
As soon as I had things in order,
I would wait until he went to work
one morning, assuming he works,
and I'd be gone before he got home.
 
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Foxlot

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Huckleberry said:
I wouldn't trust a muslim, therefore if I woke up in your
shoes, I would quietly prepare to depart the marriage.
As soon as I had things in order,
I would wait until he went to work
one morning, assuming he works,
and I'd be gone before he got home.
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Even if he's Muslim, he does have feelings, that's harsh, would Jesus like that?
 
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Am I the only one feeling there is an odd aroma in Denmark?
 
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Foxlot said:
Even if he's Muslim, he does have feelings, that's harsh, would Jesus like that?
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He lied. He purposefully and willfully deceived her into tricking her into marrying him. That's not love.
Nor do we know he has feeling for her. It's not entirely uncommon for Muslim men to present their beliefs one way and show their true colors after marriage to non-muslim women.
And the bible does Not say "thou shalt not hurt others feelings". Jesus stepped on a lot of toes.
I find it sad you are supporting a liar and manipulator by using some feeble, unbiblical Jesus juke.
 
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Ugly said:
He lied. He purposefully and willfully deceived her into tricking her into marrying him. That's not love.
Nor do we know he has feeling for her. It's not entirely uncommon for Muslim men to present their beliefs one way and show their true colors after marriage to non-muslim women.
And the bible does Not say "thou shalt not hurt others feelings". Jesus stepped on a lot of toes.
I find it sad you are supporting a liar and manipulator by using some feeble, unbiblical Jesus juke.
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How do you know he don't like her? Even if he didn't, why would he marry her in to first place then.
 
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