I want to know how people associate love with salvation and where the idea that men have a free will? Let's look at how God loves the world and what was said leading up to John 3:16 and what was said after as well.
John 1:12-13 “But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, 13 who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.” Here John is saying that salvation is not by the will of man, bt by the will of God.
John 3:3 “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Man in his own natural state cannot even see the kingdom of God let alone have an open heart to understand the word of God, the Lord has to cause them to be born again or open their heart like in Acts 16:14.
Once your heart is open to see the kingdom you must be born of water and the Spirit.
John 3:5-8 “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.7 Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’8 The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.”
Once you've been born again or the Lord has opened your heart to see the kingdom because you've been born of the Spirit. What is the water? It can't be baptism because this happens with the moving of the Spirit on the believers life. Let's look at Ephesians 5:26
"that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word," What else does the word of the Lord say about being born again and the word.
I Peter 1:22-23 "Since you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit in sincere love of the brethren, love one another fervently with a pure heart,23 having been born again, not of corruptible seed but incorruptible, through the word of God which lives and abides forever,"
Ephesians 1:13 “In Him you also trusted, after you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation; in whom also, having believed, you were sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise,”
The word of truth causes you to believe once your heart has been opened by the Lord or you've been born again to see the kingdom of God. Then you are sealed by the Spirit because you've believed the word of truth or the Gospel of your salvation which means you have been born of water and the Spirit and now can enter the kingdom of God. The Lord opens your heart or cause you to be born again.
I Peter 1:3 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,”