You would marry a divorced person, knowing that the bible states it is adultery?

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You would marry a divorced person, knowing that the bible states it is adultery?

Several times, the bible says that divorcing is not allowed with a single exception (matter of uncoveredness, that seemly implies that it is marring with a women that claimed to be a virgin, but it is not), and that marring again after separating from someone, is adultery (separating, is allowed, divorce is not).
 
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Here is a thread titled "Remarriage" that was started on the forums awhile ago,
http://christianchat.com/christian-family-forum/13278-remarriage.html#post272624

Mine is post #5. It gives you my take on remarriage after divorce, through my circumstances etc.
Hope it answers your question.
 
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Just another twist on this... and it's only my own two cents, but Jesus said that anyone who looks at another person with lust in their heart has already committed adultery with that person in their heart.

I could be misunderstanding, but committing adultery, even in the heart, would make one an adulterer.

By that definition, how many people would be able to say they are non-adulterers or have never committed the sin of adultery?

I'm sure there are a few who have never looked at someone or images on TV, in magazines, movies, etc. with any lustful thoughts, but I would guess they would be pretty hard to find.

And if that's the case... it would mean only what... five people in the world would be free from every committing adultery, whether in body or in mind, and would, therefore, be free to marry? (So sorry for the fifth person... they obviously would not be able to marry by the default of the odd numbers!)

So, my answer would be... show me two people who are absolutely, 100% free of any adulterous or lustful thoughts, and by all means, we've found two people who are so nearly perfect, they certainly qualify to marry.

*Sits and waits. And waits, and waits, and waits...*

Just my own take is all.
 
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there is a JW church near our area that if you get divorced, no matter if the Husband nearly beats the wife to death and kills the unborn child, the woman is frowned upon for leaving her husband, now if your spouse beats you like that I think god would understand
 
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I have a different take on the passage you're referring to...I'm assuming you're thinking of the verse that says if a man divorces his wife and remarries, he is an adulterer, and if a woman divorces her husband and remarries, she is an adulterer. I believe that verse is saying that if you divorce your wife or husband BECAUSE you want to marry someone else--essentially, leaving your spouse for someone else--that is adultery. I don't think it necessarily means that a divorced person is forbidden to ever remarry. Just my two cents. :p
 
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sweetnshy

I believe that the passage was refering to this too (actually, in the OT, it says that it is ok to the men marry more than once, but if he do, he is not to abandon his older wives...

The thing is: several other passages, say that a women is tied to her husband until the death of her husband, no matter what. And that marring a women tied to someone else, is adultery (for both).

So yes, a women CAN leave the house of her husband, but she CANNOT marry again, because actually, she is forever married with the person that she first married to.

The exception (matter of uncoveredness), is written in a way that suggests that the matter of uncoveredness is when a women lie about her virginity, thus making the marriage fraudulent (thus making like if the marriage never happened).
 
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This is what Jesus said about the matter:

Matthew 19:9 KJV

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

So if they divorced for any reason other than fornication, if the two, both the man and woman remarry, then they both commit adultery as well as the people who, after the divorce, married them.
 
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Women my age are either married, divorced or unattractive. They also have at least one child, too. I've never been married and I have no kids. If I find someone my age who I am attracted to, and if she's attracted to me (ain't happenin'), then she'd probably be guilty of adultery if we were to hypothetically get married, wouldn't she? Maybe this is why Paul said that life is simpler without getting married. Too much baggage from previous relationships.
 
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SimonPeter221 said:
there is a JW church near our area that if you get divorced, no matter if the Husband nearly beats the wife to death and kills the unborn child, the woman is frowned upon for leaving her husband, now if your spouse beats you like that I think god would understand
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The Bible doesn't say that people should stay in abusive situations, but if the abusive spouse does not want a divorce and has not commited adultery, then the Bible does not permit divorce. This isn't a Tyler Perry movie. We're not talking about separation; we're talking about a divorce. The person who is abused is spiritually free to move away from the abusive spouse, and they should exercise that right, but he/she is still not biblically allowed to marry anyone else if the abusive spouse is not guilty of adultery.
 
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The Bible also says that Christ came to forgive ALL sins, and that they are remembered no more.
 
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Peacefulcrusader

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Speeder said:
You would marry a divorced person, knowing that the bible states it is adultery?
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To limit this to remarriage (as divorce is more intricately described and discussed in the Bible), I would say that remarriage is not allowed - except if you marry a widow/widower. Through the teaching of Paul it seems as if two widowed persons (a widow and a widower) can marry each others. But according to Paul a divorced person can not take part in a new marriage (at least as long as the former spouse is alive). Well, that's how I'm able to read and understand the teachings of the NT.

Many refer to the important fact that all of us are sinners - and also likely to be adulterers (by lusting), but that doesn't justify committing other sins (like remarrying). The state of a remarriage (or homosexual relationship) is also constant, so I believe that it is relevant to look upon it differently than an occasional sin which is repented from (like a lie, moment of lusting etc).

But by all means, this is not an easy topic, and we should all be humble concerning the different views which are presented here. It would probably be constructive if those who believe that remarriage is ok, could pick up the relevant verses which may complicate it in order to demonstrate why this is ok anyway.

In Christ, Magnus
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I see nothing wrong with marrying someone that has been divorced.
 
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Peacefulcrusader

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I see nothing wrong with marrying someone that has been divorced.
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Hi Nod. :)

Could you reveal how you relate to the different passages of the Bible which refer to this issue? It would be interesting to see your reasoning and conclusions.

In Christ, Magnus
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Peacefulcrusader said:
Hi Nod. :)

Could you reveal how you relate to the different passages of the Bible which refer to this issue? It would be interesting to see your reasoning and conclusions.

In Christ, Magnus
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Hi magnus.

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Jennifleur said:
The Bible also says that Christ came to forgive ALL sins, and that they are remembered no more.
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But you must remember, that this does not make you exempt from the consequences of what you did.

I know the comparison is extreme, but it is like that: If you kill someone, Christ will forgive your sin, but the dead, will remain dead.


If you marry, and divorce, and marry again, Christ will forgive your adultery, but if you continue in the re-marriage, you will continue to sin. Christ said to the adulteress: "Sin no more" right after he forgave her.
 
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Speeder said:
But you must remember, that this does not make you exempt from the consequences of what you did.

I know the comparison is extreme, but it is like that: If you kill someone, Christ will forgive your sin, but the dead, will remain dead.


If you marry, and divorce, and marry again, Christ will forgive your adultery, but if you continue in the re-marriage, you will continue to sin. Christ said to the adulteress: "Sin no more" right after he forgave her.
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May God spare you from the pain of a spouse who divorces you for someone else in your early 20's even though you've done all you can to get him or her to change their mind... You cannot force someone to stay with you.

May God give you understanding and compassion for the things you (I'm assuming) have not been through yourself.

And may you find peace and comfort from all the good, well-meaning Christians who tell you that you must spend the rest of your life alone, without any hope of ever having a companion again.
 
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seoulsearch said:
May God spare you from the pain of a spouse who divorces you for someone else in your early 20's even though you've done all you can to get him or her to change their mind... You cannot force someone to stay with you.

May God give you understanding and compassion for the things you (I'm assuming) have not been through yourself.

And may you find peace and comfort from all the good, well-meaning Christians who tell you that you must spend the rest of your life alone, without any hope of ever having a companion again.
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Thank you for saying what i couldnt put into words.....
 
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seoulsearch said:
May God give you understanding and compassion for the things you (I'm assuming) have not been through yourself.
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Although you're answering Speeder, I want to add a short note. I believe that it is perfectly allright to come to conclusions if it's based on a sincere study of the Bible. The problem is that sometimes we base arguments purely on feelings. If it is possible to base the ideas you're sharing on biblical teaching, then it would be great if you could share.

In Christ, Magnus
 
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This seems like such a big topic for those who have never been in a situation. I've heard many views and each one can defend their opinion.

For myself I know I am supposed to be single -- that's more because I stuff I need God to handle with me.

We'll see if God puts a mate in my path -- that would great. But if He doesn't I see He is all I need.

Broken relationships help me see I took risks with my sin -- trying to make things work the way I wanted them -- so I was deceived into thinking it would all work out.

But as God says -- He will bring good from our situations -- he will make himself known. That's encouraging for me and my children.
 
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