Hi, I am new to marriage and to step-motherhood. I need help in certain areas and feel that a Christian Chat Room is the best place to get new ideas, rules to the game and encouragement.
First Married, First-time Step-Mom. Help!!
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Welcome here you can discuss with bible smart people and possibly make new friends,hope you like it here!
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Sweetmorningdew78
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Hi! Welcome to CC 
I've got nothing to say about your situation but I know there are people here who can help you I look forward to your future post
God bless you and your family ❤
I've got nothing to say about your situation but I know there are people here who can help you I look forward to your future post God bless you and your family ❤
Hello and welcome to Christian Chat. There are many people here who are willing to give sound advice. Some have experienced similar problems in the past that others are now having. It is my hope that you will find many helpful friends here on CC. Glad that you are a part of us. Welcome.
Amen. I love this chat place. It gives me a chance to brush up on scripture and feel free to talk about the Lord. I love him so.
My late second wife had adult children I had to adjust to. Her daughter was no problem but the son (adult in his upper 20's) was another matter altogether. He used to badger his mom for her pain medication, never helped out around the home, didn't work, totally disrespected me. Fed him, supported his nicotine addiction. I told my late wife that he had to go but in her mind he was still a child. His antics finally got me evicted from my own apartment. Thank God my late wife was in the nursing home by then. After she died I wished him luck and never looked back. Your husband has to be sensitive to you in this area and consider your thoughts on any given matter concerning his children. If he doesn't have your back you may be in for a very rough ride.
His children are in elementary school. When I have them, they behave. When he comes home, they don't want to and feel the need to kick holes in the door or run away. The day they kicked a hole in the door, I became a member of this website. I got really upset as my two children (22 and 19) never did that growing up. I had to pray. Then it seemed like my husband wasn't listening when it came to them. So, I registered and then I prayed. God has a sense of humor. I guess he was telling me in HIS time, not mine. He started getting stricter and not putting up with the foolishness. When they saw that..they tried the running away bit. He shocked me and put them out. I went outside through the backdoor undetected to see for their safety...they got scared and banged on the door to come back inside. I don't think he's ever done that before because the look on their faces. That never happened again. The only issue I am having is the mother refuses to send money for the children because my husband doesn't want to speak to her other than about the kids. And, I don't want to keep paying for things allowing her to feel she is getting away with not doing her motherly duties. They divorced because of what she even admitted to have done. No matter how they broke up, she needs to do her duty and I refuse to let her get off with not doing it. I have refrained from financially supporting them. I give gifts, but the burden is on his and hers. As a single parent of the two, I maintained. I couldn't have an easy way out. She complains about the legal restitution she has to pay. Her actions didn't have anything to do with the children and she must pay for them. Am I wrong for this? I don't feel that I am...and everywhere I read...God gives us gifts (children) to raise hence why I don't feel that I am wrong. If there are anything for me to consider, please share.
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This forum is only for introducing yourself. This topic belongs in the Family forum. Welcome to CC.