I have difficult neighbors. Just wondering what you would do -- if you would do anything.
What I know happened, in short form --
(1) They were very friendly when they moved in. But within a very short time, the woman (w) asked me to support her in a lawsuit against the previous owners. I declined, because I thought it frivolous, and I had no personal knowledge of what she said happened; furthermore, I didn't those neighbors would do what she said.
(2) She asked me if they could park one of their vehicles in front of our house sometimes. I said yes since our driveway gave us plenty room to park. We didn't use the area for about 1.5 yr, then we needed it. They were very unhappy with us.
(3) One time, I was working on the front yard, and they both came toward me. When I saw this, I felt very ashamed because I was thinking I had not talked to them about the L-RD. I greeted them, and they lit into me, saying that they didn't want to hear anything more about the L-RD, and a few other similar things, and I sat there wondering what I had said -- ever. I still don't know.
(4) couple years later, I noticed that their daughter no longer lived there. I was outside, as they headed toward their car. I, smiling, said, "So what's it like not having your daughter around anymore?" She went silent, and he lit into me, yelling that it was none of my business and to leave them alone, etc. I was shocked! I had no idea I'd said anything wrong.
So now, they have lived next to us for about 10 years. The only other communication we've had was once when I stopped by their house to ask if they were all right after some bitter weather.
Sitting here thinking about anything I may have done or said that could have been thought rude or not nice:
(1) When their daughter was younger, I stopped by the house a couple early Octobers and gave her little gifts (as I did for the children on the whole block), to explain that I don't do halloween, but that did not mean I didn't love and appreciate her.
(2) Also, when they first moved in, the lady once brought me cookies, and they were fabulous. I am a terrible cook, so I brought her chocolates I had bought. Maybe that was rude, but no one, who doesn't have to accept it, should be offered anything I cook or bake.
(3) I am not one to really get involved with my neighbors.
The lady has been in constant arthritic pain from childhood, and I know this must be horribly hard on her. The husband has an alcohol problem.
Oh, after writing this, I think all we can do is stay quiet and pray for them, but perhaps you have some ideas?
What I know happened, in short form --
(1) They were very friendly when they moved in. But within a very short time, the woman (w) asked me to support her in a lawsuit against the previous owners. I declined, because I thought it frivolous, and I had no personal knowledge of what she said happened; furthermore, I didn't those neighbors would do what she said.
(2) She asked me if they could park one of their vehicles in front of our house sometimes. I said yes since our driveway gave us plenty room to park. We didn't use the area for about 1.5 yr, then we needed it. They were very unhappy with us.
(3) One time, I was working on the front yard, and they both came toward me. When I saw this, I felt very ashamed because I was thinking I had not talked to them about the L-RD. I greeted them, and they lit into me, saying that they didn't want to hear anything more about the L-RD, and a few other similar things, and I sat there wondering what I had said -- ever. I still don't know.
(4) couple years later, I noticed that their daughter no longer lived there. I was outside, as they headed toward their car. I, smiling, said, "So what's it like not having your daughter around anymore?" She went silent, and he lit into me, yelling that it was none of my business and to leave them alone, etc. I was shocked! I had no idea I'd said anything wrong.
So now, they have lived next to us for about 10 years. The only other communication we've had was once when I stopped by their house to ask if they were all right after some bitter weather.
Sitting here thinking about anything I may have done or said that could have been thought rude or not nice:
(1) When their daughter was younger, I stopped by the house a couple early Octobers and gave her little gifts (as I did for the children on the whole block), to explain that I don't do halloween, but that did not mean I didn't love and appreciate her.
(2) Also, when they first moved in, the lady once brought me cookies, and they were fabulous. I am a terrible cook, so I brought her chocolates I had bought. Maybe that was rude, but no one, who doesn't have to accept it, should be offered anything I cook or bake.
(3) I am not one to really get involved with my neighbors.
The lady has been in constant arthritic pain from childhood, and I know this must be horribly hard on her. The husband has an alcohol problem.
Oh, after writing this, I think all we can do is stay quiet and pray for them, but perhaps you have some ideas?
