Why Do We Keep Looking for Someone To Save Us If God Already Has?

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seoulsearch

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Hey Everyone,

I have been thinking about this a lot lately...

When I was 18, I wrote a poem about a girl who lived in a maze. The only colors that existed within her world were gray, black, and white, and the maze was surrounded by a crystal wall through which she could look out, but never seem to break through.

Just beyond the haze of darkness in which she lived was The World of Color, and she would gaze out into this magnificent world every day, but yet somehow could never actually step out into it.

And then one day, a boy looked back from The World of Color... and fell in love with The Girl in the Maze.


I never showed the poem to the boy I wrote the story about, as it seemed so unfair to make him out to be the hero of a tale I already knew had a tragic ending, but the theme of the poem was ever so clear: I was looking for someone to save me. I wanted to find "the one" who could help me break through all that glass.

It's been a long time, but so even so many years later, I hear fellow single Christians talking all the time about how they wish they could find "the one"--the hero or heroine who will save them from loneliness, depression, financial stress, parental worry, and, let's throw this one in just to be real--sexual frustration.

So many songs today are filled with lyrics such as, "Maybe... You could be the one to save me..." and I wonder how many times we all identify with those words every time we hear them.

But don't get me wrong.

The people I'm speaking about (including myself) love God, and they're doing their best to put Him first. They spend time in praise, worship, study, and charity, but something in their lives is missing, and it goes well beyond the old tried-and-true passage of, "It is not good for the man to be alone."

They are looking for someone to save them.

And so, I find myself looking in the mirror and asking myself this same question as well: "If God has already saved me, why do I think I keep needing to find someone else to supposedly complete the job?"

How many others out there feel this way, and what makes us feel this so strongly?

Why do we keep looking for someone to save us if God already has?
 

Lynx

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What are we wanting to be saved from? What do we think we need to be saved from? Yes, those can sometimes be different things. Then ask why do we need a person to save us from those things.

Perhaps sometimes we don't think God is unable, just maybe not willing. A kid never asks his mother for a cookie if his father is always going to say yes.
 
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Miri

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We all need God in the flesh to help and assist and even save us.

God often uses and works through other people to answer prayer, but not
everyone is willing to be used by God.

I have some friends who both have cancer, he is 71 just gone into remission but his
nerve endings have been damaged so he can’t stand can’t feel, can’t unbutton clothes,
cant sense touch etc. He needs a lot of help.

The wife is on palliative care she is 60 and has been battling overian cancer for 5 years,
nothing more can be done. This is going to be her last Christmas unless God works a
miracle. She is on morphing and weak, but she is currently more mobile than her
husband so is still helping him.

Their church have arranged a rota so a person goes in every morning to do whatever needs
to be done, cleaning, washing, cooking, shopping etc.

The husband has carers 4 times a day. Before that was set up the church pastor went every
day to help wash and dress him! They were both embarrassed but it was necessary.

They needed saving and help badly, their church rose to the challenge moved by God
and are giving sacrificially of their own time and services.

They also have a transport rota to take them both to church meetings and hosp appointments.
The church members also helped them move into a ground floor sheltered flat, and are helping
emptying their old house so it can be sold.

We all need God in the flesh, many aren’t willing to be His servants though.
 
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Stranger36147

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So many songs today are filled with lyrics such as, "Maybe... You could be the one to save me..."
Maybe...you're going to be the one that saves me...and after all, you're my wonderwall.


[video=youtube;bx1Bh8ZvH84]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bx1Bh8ZvH84[/video]
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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Maybe...you're going to be the one that saves me...and after all, you're my wonderwall.
Yes, this is exactly the song I had in mind when I wrote this thread, as I heard it yesterday, along with "Save Me" by Fleetwood Mac... and a few others.

I know these are secular songs... But I know plenty of Christians who can still relate to their lyrics.
 
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Ugly

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While some do seem to be looking to be saved, I can't say that making this such a blanket concept is correct. I don't need someone to save me. I do, however, wish for someone to aid me. To assist me. Support and all such things. I can, and have, done these things alone, but having someone makes it so much easier.
 

Tommy379

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I want to post here, but I don't feel like reading post from the pious, eternal man virgins that will tell me I must not be a Christian because I want to touch and be touched by someone I can love.
 

seoulsearch

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While some do seem to be looking to be saved, I can't say that making this such a blanket concept is correct. I don't need someone to save me. I do, however, wish for someone to aid me. To assist me. Support and all such things. I can, and have, done these things alone, but having someone makes it so much easier.
I am definitely NOT saying at all that an "I'm looking for someone to save me" perspective is one that all people have. It is simply one given viewpoint, of which there could be an infinite number of other possibilities.

Around this time of year, I always do a bit of an emotional self-inventory, and the birth of this thread was unleashed by the gestation of months of wondering how much of me is left that still feels as if it's still looking to be saved.

I understand that some people already feel complete and whole on their own, which I think is a wonderful gift from God. Perhaps I'm just a little slower to get there than others.

I am definitely not the same person I was when I was 18.

If I wrote a sequel to that poem now, I would rewrite the story as two halves of the same person staring back at each other through the glass and wondering how to break through instead of a girl looking out for a boy to help break the walls for her.
 

maxwel

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Apr 18, 2013
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Why do we keep looking for someone to save us if God already has?


I don't think this is complicated.


I think it's just a very common OVERREACTION to being lonely and single.


The overreaction is usually tied to feeling insecure or vulnerable.




This isn't rocket science.
 

Lynx

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We're all looking for somebody or something to magically come in and make everything right in our lives. A lot of people pin their hopes on a spouse, or at least a boyfriend or girlfriend.

It doesn't work so good because the spouse is also human. Mere humans can't do all the make-everything-right stuff.

"We only pass the blame, sedate the pain and move along
But something feels so wrong, so deep inside, so hard to hide
So desperately we try and try and come to find
That we are not what we've been looking for

I can't believe I'm hearing people say that all is well
I think it's time we all admit we have no good within ourselves
'Cause we are not okay, we're not alright and we need to pray for help
Forgive us for our pride, oh God, oh God please save us from ourselves

'Cause everybody says we're all so different
But everybody knows we're all the same
We're all trying to find a pill to numb the pain
Something's got to change"
~Josh Wilson
 

Pipp

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In my opinion the saving me part is more referring to save me from fleshly lonliness. A companion who like Tommy said is... some one you can feel ... literally.
 
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Susanna

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I don't think this is complicated.


I think it's just a very common OVERREACTION to being lonely and single.


The overreaction is usually tied to feeling insecure or vulnerable.




This isn't rocket science.
Judging from all the threads, posts, magazines, books, movies, honky tonks and bars on the matter...


...rocket science it is.
 

maxwel

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We're all looking for somebody or something to magically come in and make everything right in our lives. A lot of people pin their hopes on a spouse, or at least a boyfriend or girlfriend.

I'm looking for somebody to magically come in and make everything right in my kitchen.


I'm looking for someone to save me... from my own cooking.
 

Tommy379

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I thought it was strange, a few minutes before this thread was created, I was writing somewhere on this site about wanting to slay a dragon for a woman, and I was talking in private about my fondness of Edgar Burroughs stories. This thread reminds me of a book I had to buy before the minister would perform my wedding. It was called Wild at Heart. It's been 12 years since, but I remember a part about a man wants to save a woman. It is in him.
 

Daylilies

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I thought it was strange, a few minutes before this thread was created, I was writing somewhere on this site about wanting to slay a dragon for a woman, and I was talking in private about my fondness of Edgar Burroughs stories. This thread reminds me of a book I had to buy before the minister would perform my wedding. It was called Wild at Heart. It's been 12 years since, but I remember a part about a man wants to save a woman. It is in him.
As I was reading this thread, I kept coming back to the whole "damsel in distress" concept. From a female perspective, I think there is something programmed in us, whether it is through society or literature or whatever, that wants someone to save us. For me personally, it is wanting that person to help me "slay" whatever metaphorical dragon is in my path - rescuing me when I have a flat tire, killing that huge spider, running errands because I'm trying to write a huge research paper.

I think it goes back to wanting that partnership that we often see in married or committed couples. :)
 
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AuntieAnt

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Well, I'm much older than most of you. I was married and have been a widow for quite some time now. The only thing I'd wanna be "saved" from at this point would be growing old by myself. I miss having a companion, friend and lover to share with. My biggest obstacle is that I want to meet a man without pretense, a guy with a childlike heart, who likes that I'm rather quirky, offbeat and candid. A man of the world who is uptight, emotionally inhibited or "gnarled" in his heart would only be annoyed by me. Plus I like cats. :rolleyes:

 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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I thought it was strange, a few minutes before this thread was created, I was writing somewhere on this site about wanting to slay a dragon for a woman, and I was talking in private about my fondness of Edgar Burroughs stories. This thread reminds me of a book I had to buy before the minister would perform my wedding. It was called Wild at Heart. It's been 12 years since, but I remember a part about a man wants to save a woman. It is in him.
I keep a notebook in which I jot down thread ideas and have had a few things written down about what a modern "damsel in distress" and "knight in shining armor" might look like for several months--I keep churning around the ideas in my head but I just haven't tried to write them out yet.

With all the firestorms going on in the forums for a while, I was waiting for things to calm down.

That, and every thread idea these days seems to generate some kind of controversy, so it takes a little time to emotionally prepare oneself for all the backlash, which is almost guaranteed to happen.

For example, I had written a while back that with all the controversy going on over rep points, I wanted to make a thread with a poll of fun things we could all trade our rep points in for, just like at Chuck E. Cheese--but then I was thinking, Oh boy. I can just imagine all the uproar that one would cause.

Usually I just go ahead and do it anyway because I know there are lots of awesome people here who would actually get the joke, but you never know how many shades of bad a thread is going to turn until you put it out there.

I have really, really been wanting to post a thread asking for people's ideas about what a "Knight in Shining Armor" would be like today--but I'm pretty sure it would also be a lightning rod for well-meaning people who tell us singles that we all don't trust in God enough, and right now, that's just not how I want to spend my time.
 

Tommy379

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I keep a notebook in which I jot down thread ideas and have had a few things written down about what a modern "damsel in distress" and "knight in shining armor" might look like for several months--I keep churning around the ideas in my head but I just haven't tried to write them out yet.

With all the firestorms going on in the forums for a while, I was waiting for things to calm down.

That, and every thread idea these days seems to generate some kind of controversy, so it takes a little time to emotionally prepare oneself for all the backlash, which is almost guaranteed to happen.

For example, I had written a while back that with all the controversy going on over rep points, I wanted to make a thread with a poll of fun things we could all trade our rep points in for, just like at Chuck E. Cheese--but then I was thinking, Oh boy. I can just imagine all the uproar that one would cause.

Usually I just go ahead and do it anyway because I know there are lots of awesome people here who would actually get the joke, but you never know how many shades of bad a thread is going to turn until you put it out there.

I have really, really been wanting to post a thread asking for people's ideas about what a "Knight in Shining Armor" would be like today--but I'm pretty sure it would also be a lightning rod for well-meaning people who tell us singles that we all don't trust in God enough, and right now, that's just not how I want to spend my time.
I'm sure a knight in shining armor would be wearing ceramic and carrying a black rifle in this day.

I figured you were reading my mind or something.
 

Lighthearted

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I'm looking for somebody to magically come in and make everything right in my kitchen.


I'm looking for someone to save me... from my own cooking.
I'm a great cook...but alas, you live too far away...perhaps mail order meals? Lol
 

Lighthearted

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I'm not looking for someone to save me.
Jesus already did that better than any knight could...
What would be totally awesome would be to have a human accountability partner to fight along side and support, to love deeply, and to serve our King wherever He calls us to go! To be knights of His table as one...with all the other fringe benefits!
 
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